To think you should give a friend a lift home if it's raining?

(337 Posts)
eggsy11 Fri 08-Feb-13 12:33:34

This may be more a chat thing, but think I need the harshness of AIBU to see if I do have the right to be mad at my friend!

Have done A LOT of favours for this friend, but won't include that in the argument since I didn't do them to be paid back... but it is what is annoying me about the situation.

Another mum at DS's nursery saw me and DS huddling under the doorway until the hail past. Said hello, grabbed her DS and drove home. DS was screaming because he was scared. He was under his raincover in the pram, and it was a 15 minute walk so it was only me that got wet. But it was still horrible and I was literally soaked to the skin.

I know the mum would of had to drop us home (5 min drive) and come back for her DS, as there was only 1 car seat. But there is no way i'd walk past my friend like that! She is always early to pick up her DS so it wouldn't of been an issue since it's daycare, not like at school.

Am I being unfair? Is it our fault we don't have a car? I just think it would of been nice!

(btw she wasn't in a rush. pictures on facebook of them cuddled up watching cbeebies etc when they got home!)

pigletmania Sun 10-Feb-13 16:11:15

I could never have asked even if you have done her favours. Why dident you just ask her, she cannot read your mind hmm

twinklesparkles Sun 10-Feb-13 20:06:54

Why did you wait 10 mins in the rain if it was only a 15 min walk??

You couldve been home in 15 mins with a scared ds, rather than 25 mins with a scared ds hmm

I just don't understand why you didn't start walking

driving LOVING the ask v guess thing. I'm an ask, hubby was a guess until I taught him how annoying it is! It is not ok to moan about not getting something, if you did not ask for it!

Madmum24 Tue 12-Feb-13 10:40:30

I have been in the position of the OP's friend, given lifts and regretted it. Simply because living in the UK we get a lot of crap weather and it can become a pattern for walkers to get used to having lifts (IME after you've offered a few times it then becomes expected) and whilst I don't mind doing a once off and I also don't mind slinging my kids in the boot I don't want to do it every time the weather is bad.

bedmonster Tue 12-Feb-13 13:53:49

Wow, I can't believe so many of you wouldn't have offered op a lift. How bloody tight and mean spirited. The friend hadn't picked up her dc already, he would never have know his mum was there and then wasn't.
I would have and have done things like this, its what I class as being a friend.
It would have taken 15 minutes all round for the friend, op has put herself out plenty of times for the friend.

Sirzy Tue 12-Feb-13 13:59:04

Bed I assume you haven't read the thread in full then as people have given plenty of reasons why it simply wouldn't be practical.

bedmonster Tue 12-Feb-13 14:28:10

I read up to page 8, posted, then read the rest, its an epic thread!

sherazade Tue 12-Feb-13 19:55:11

The only person I would expect a lift from, had I been in the same situation as yourself (ie telepathic person would would put me before their dc, wouldn't mind being delayed for an out of the way trip, have to change their plans for me) is my mum. Because she is like that.

foreverondiet Tue 12-Feb-13 22:19:42

I probably would have offered a lift but pointed out that no car seat or offered to drop you home to get your car (if you have one). I think u to expect her to go home and leave her child. Fwiw I have 6 car seats now in my car and always offer lifts but sometimes the lift has been on the basis of say putting a 2 year old in a high back booster, rather than stage one car seat.

Seabird72 Tue 12-Feb-13 23:43:13

interested in why she could drop a teddy at your reception so you could drop it into the nursery for her child because you work nearby. Why ?

Because its not true a drip feed embellishment as no one agreed with op

socharlottet Wed 13-Feb-13 10:37:47

YABU!!
If you want a ride, buy a car

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