Dd wasting food, aib mean? trivial

(12 Posts)
MariusEarlobe Thu 07-Feb-13 17:20:56

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manicbmc Thu 07-Feb-13 17:23:15

I don't think that's mean. You offered her what she wanted and she didn't eat it so definitely no snacks.

If the food is able to be warmed up, I'd keep it and if she is hungry later, offer to warm it up for her - but no sweets, chocolate or biscuits.

Purple2012 Thu 07-Feb-13 17:23:48

I wouldn't let mine not eat tea and then snack. I have the crust problem often. She was told time and time again to eat them, not just take 2 bites and leave it. Then when crusts were again left in her lunch box she got them for tea. Hasn't happened again. (she wouldn't think to throw them in the bin at school!)

StuntGirl Thu 07-Feb-13 17:25:18

Stop buying cakes and chocolate and don't let her help herself to food.

If she doesn't want what you've cooked for dinner don't make a big deal out of it, pop it to one side and she can eat it later if she gets hungry.

I'd also probably stop giving her pudding and sweets after meals., they're unnecessary all the time.

Tonight, if you've already chucked what you cooked offer her some toast or a sandwich, but not junk.

catladycourtney1 Thu 07-Feb-13 17:26:52

What punishments do you usually use? Did you tell her she wasn't to have any treats since she left her tea?

I don't really agree with food-related punishments, but if she's defying you then she's misbehaving regardless of whether it's about food or not. There's a big difference between saying "No chocolate/sweets/crisps" and saying "no more food today". Although, it is teatime, so she definitely won't waste away! My parents used to tell me I would get nothing else if I left what I'd asked for (they were on a low income too), but I was normally allowed a bowl of cereal or toast before bed anyway so that was a bit of a pointless punishment for me.

GreenShadow Thu 07-Feb-13 17:28:44

Why did she leave your dinner?

We don't do snacks if meals aren't eaten - it's just an accepted part of life here

MariusEarlobe Thu 07-Feb-13 17:29:01

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manicbmc Thu 07-Feb-13 17:30:13

In that case, taking chocolate that isn't hers, I'd send her to bed early.

MariusEarlobe Thu 07-Feb-13 17:31:26

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lljkk Thu 07-Feb-13 17:36:17

Mine are late night snackers & food sneakers. angry. yanbu.

StuntGirl Thu 07-Feb-13 17:46:36

The chocolate is mine from my birthday and she knows she shouldn't have helped herself.

I would punish her for stealing your chocolate. But not for not eating dinner, punishments over food are a battleground you don't really want to enter. If she's hungry later she can have some toast or something.

specialsubject Thu 07-Feb-13 18:06:19

what she didn't eat can be covered and put in the fridge for tomorrow. Or she can reheat it later. No need to waste it, but she doesn't get a different meal until it has gone.

Exact suitable punishment for taking something that isn't hers.

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