It's up to mums to teach their boys that pubic hair on women is normal!?

(297 Posts)
Uppatreecuppatea Mon 04-Feb-13 21:55:09

I've read countless surveys and reports over the last few months that state that young men would be 'grossed out' if they went to bed with a woman and found that she had pubic hair.

They seem to think that all women either come hair free or should wax it all off.

I think a lot of this attitude comes down to them viewing porn where it's normal for a woman to have zero pubic hair and a neat little pudenda.

It's a worry. I quizzed the local boys who work in our pub and they all wax their chest and think pubic hair is disgusting on both men and women.

So glad I am married to a man who appreciates the 70's!

But what is in store for our young girls?

Uppatreecuppatea Mon 04-Feb-13 22:21:31

Tiny Penguin- that's the whole point! Who wants their kids (specially DD's who think their pubic hair is 'wrong') to thing that way.

That's my whole point!

WorraLiberty Mon 04-Feb-13 22:21:57

Dear Lord I'm 43 and I absolutely hate chest hair.

I read a lot about boys being 'disgusted' by pubic hair but I don't read the same about girls re chest hair. I think hair chest is a preference (depending on the chest hair, of course! - I don't know I'd go for the full Alec Baldwin) and not something that provokes disgust.

Believe me there are many many girls who find male pubic hair disgusting.

I really don't think it's something that's divided by sex nowadays.

I'm sure it'll pass and the next generation will have preferences that the generation you're talking about now will make cat's bum faces over.

Tis the way of the world really.

"boys and girls need to know that if they aren't hairless for religious reasons (Muslim women remove pubic hair) then she should be as nature made them."

um, what? She should be as she wants to be and fuck what anyone else thinks actually. Bollocks to "oh if she's a muslim it's ok but on anyone else they must be hairy" - it is an individual choice, like many other things people seem to feel they have the right to comment on and/or control for other people.

EnjoyResponsibly Mon 04-Feb-13 22:22:47

<adds pubes to the ridiculously long list of things I have to talk to DS about>

Just how many boys are you talking to in this survey of yours OP grin

Read Style & beauty, there's plenty of free thinking, non porn-obsessed bloke influenced women there talking about the length/condition/shape/existence of pubes.

It's a thing now. It will pass.

FYI when I was at school we were grossed out by blow jobs grin

WorraLiberty Mon 04-Feb-13 22:24:58

Beertricks! you made me audibly 'hoot'

And that has to be the best and most middle class "LOL" I've ever read in my life! grin grin grin

Rilson Mon 04-Feb-13 22:25:05

It's just a preference and a generation thing.

My preference has changed with age regarding what I find attractive and what a I prefer on myself.

I don't think I will be having a pubic/body hair conversation with my teens though. They can decide themselves if they like hair free and unflappy or not.

CloudsAndTrees Mon 04-Feb-13 22:25:30

If you wouldn't go for a full Alec Baldwin, then why should any male want to go for a female that has pubes going half way down her thighs and half way up her tummy?

Both are natural, but both are generally considered unattractive.

Uppatreecuppatea Mon 04-Feb-13 22:25:35

Pom - it's all very well to say that people should be as they want to be but it's just not how society works.

Most Muslim women I know wax their entire bodies on the last day of their period so that they can be ready for their men once they are 'refreshed' from their period. It is a time of preparedness for sex with their husbands again. A full body wax takes about 2 hours and a lot of pain. It is a ritual for many of them.

WorriedMummy73 Mon 04-Feb-13 22:26:48

Glad I'm not Muslim...

Uppatreecuppatea Mon 04-Feb-13 22:27:28

My central point is that porn is changing the way that men think of women's bodies.

HollyBerryBush Mon 04-Feb-13 22:28:01

I find it puzzling you would want to tell you son to pick a girl with a hairy mary. Whats he supposed to do? ask her to drop her drawers for inspection first? Should he issue an order to regrow?

>fuckwits abound at times<

Signet2012 Mon 04-Feb-13 22:28:05

The way I see it. If dp has time to check out what my pubic hair is doing and has chance to think about whether it disgusts him or not then I'm doing it wrong.

he wouldn't care less if it was purple and plaited its been so long

EnjoyResponsibly Mon 04-Feb-13 22:29:06

Up you really are proving to be an authority on the subject grin

KatoPotato Mon 04-Feb-13 22:29:15

<takes a bow>

Do you hear that OP?
That's the sound of my point bypassing you completely grin

Uppatreecuppatea Mon 04-Feb-13 22:30:31

Hollyberrybush, why am a fuckwit for my opinion? I did not say that a man should inspect a woman's bush first. How did you even come to that conclusion? Don't fucking insult me.

WorraLiberty Mon 04-Feb-13 22:30:32

Look I understand what you're trying to say OP...lord knows it's been posted about enough.

But I'm really tired of the lazy assumption that all this pube free phase is down to boys and boys only hmm

Believe it or not there are young women out there with minds of their own...and with minds that are extremely similar to the young men that they know (who knew?)

So fair enough if you want to have a bit of a gum bump about "Those younguns today"...I think we all hit an age when we do that.

But do please lay off of the 'boy blaming' and open your eyes to the fact the younger generation are both male and female and it's not all down to the big bad smelly boys hmm

HollyBerryBush Mon 04-Feb-13 22:31:35

Im not insulting you, you're doing a marvellous job all by yourself grin

MikeOxardInTheSnow Mon 04-Feb-13 22:31:56

Yabu. It's not the 70s anymore, get over it. It's a generational thing, lack of pubic hair is a normal and respectable choice to make. I would be grossed out if dh grew a beard tbh. When it comes to hair, sometimes less is more! Not sure why you are getting your knickers in a twist about other people's pubic hair, you are trying to make it into something that it's not imo.

WorraLiberty Mon 04-Feb-13 22:32:12

HollyBerryBush The voice of reason as always grin

I'm starting to think I'll just let you post for me because you're so much more succinct than I am!

WorriedMummy73 Mon 04-Feb-13 22:32:13

As I said, blame Justin Bieber. It's ALL his fault, global warming, pubic hair, the lot...

That is an admirable flipflopping between 'Porn' and 'Muslim' you are doing there.

This one could run and run......

alphabetspaghetti Mon 04-Feb-13 22:32:45

This works both ways. There is pressure on girls, but lets not forget that boys are also on the receiving end of peer pressure.

Its not just boys that watch porn. Girls do too.

I would hope that every parent will talk to their children about their bodies - regardless of their sex.

ChestyLeRoux Mon 04-Feb-13 22:32:53

Im in my 20s and this really is no way as big and issue as people make it on here.I think some people read about it and think boys are turning down sex because of it.It doesnt happen in rl as far as I know.

Uppatreecuppatea Mon 04-Feb-13 22:33:17

I don't think anyone can stop the proliferation of porn. And porn is a (non-specialist) pube-free area.

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