to think MIL walked me right in to it and im gonna strangle DP!

(61 Posts)
shutthebloodydoor Sat 02-Feb-13 23:44:05

Ive had a few power battles with my MIL, thinking that my house was hers as her son owed it, telling me her son dosnt like food the way i cook it, telling me she will be all ways number one in her boys life ect.. the usual crap. How ever i have felt sorry for her lately (prob due to my pregnant hormones!!) and tried to really make an effort with her. Anyway, dp was going to an late meeting around 7ish at a resturant in town, said would'nt be late. The shitty boiler had turned it os self off so i told him he better not as house was freezing!So i arranged to go for early tea with a friend. I asked MIL if she was going to a birthday party as i thought we both could go together for a while when i got back, she said she would let me know. (bonding) About 5 mins when i walked through door about 7.30 MIL came flying in and announsed that SIL had left her children on there own! (BIL works away) Kids 13,10. Sat down in chair saying that SIL was at party aroung corner and older sibling would be checking in on them. MIL was out raged and said she was not being used and watching them PLUS she was going to original birthday party with her best friend? (news to me as i actually asked her to go with me??) any way MIL proceeded to rant about SIL and saying things like ''u just wouldnt would u??' till in the end i said 'no, not with this one i wouldnt' and she replied ' right ill go get them shall i? i knew u wouldnt mind! '' SO MIL brings very greived kids to my house ( they are lovely by the way) as they feel they are old enough to look after them selfs! And tells them she has only done this because she loves them and would never leave them on there own?! I phone DP to tell him kids are here to which he replies i wont be long and he will bring them supper..........SO i have kids that are STARVING as no food in house, MIL sending me texts saying cheers she owes me one and now DP 's phone is off, house is freezing and really fucking tired! Kids are starting to fart about as bord/hungry! PFFTTTTTTTTTTTT!

OutragedFromLeeds Sat 02-Feb-13 23:46:17

YABU to not use paragraphs. I can't really make out the rest tbh.

ripsishere Sat 02-Feb-13 23:47:14

confused I'm afraid.

AgentZigzag Sat 02-Feb-13 23:49:41

I'm not sure what she's like is the norm, but yes, she got you good and proper grin

It's bonding remember? grin

Just keep it in mind that she owes you, big time.

JollyRedGiant Sat 02-Feb-13 23:50:26

Eh?

Mil is upset because sil went out leaving kids by themselves. So rather than look after the kids herself mil brought them round to you?

You have no heating, no food and your dp has gone awol leaving you looking after his sister's children.

It is a bit late for the children to be still up.

AgentZigzag Sat 02-Feb-13 23:51:07

I think the OPs writing makes sense because my head's working on the same level at the min grin

katiecubs Sat 02-Feb-13 23:52:11

Call SIL and tell her to get her kids?!

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Feb-13 23:52:34

Ive had a few power battles with my MIL, thinking that my house was hers as her son owed it, telling me her son dosnt like food the way i cook it, telling me she will be all ways number one in her boys life ect.. the usual crap. How ever i have felt sorry for her lately (prob due to my pregnant hormones!!) and tried to really make an effort with her.

Anyway, dp was going to an late meeting around 7ish at a resturant in town, said would'nt be late. The shitty boiler had turned it os self off so i told him he better not as house was freezing!So i arranged to go for early tea with a friend. I asked MIL if she was going to a birthday party as i thought we both could go together for a while when i got back, she said she would let me know. (bonding) About 5 mins when i walked through door about 7.30 MIL came flying in and announsed that SIL had left her children on there own! (BIL works away) Kids 13,10. Sat down in chair saying that SIL was at party aroung corner and older sibling would be checking in on them.

MIL was out raged and said she was not being used and watching them PLUS she was going to original birthday party with her best friend? (news to me as i actually asked her to go with me??) any way MIL proceeded to rant about SIL and saying things like ''u just wouldnt would u??' till in the end i said 'no, not with this one i wouldnt' and she replied ' right ill go get them shall i? i knew u wouldnt mind! '' SO MIL brings very greived kids to my house ( they are lovely by the way) as they feel they are old enough to look after them selfs! And tells them she has only done this because she loves them and would never leave them on there own?!

I phone DP to tell him kids are here to which he replies i wont be long and he will bring them supper..........SO i have kids that are STARVING as no food in house, MIL sending me texts saying cheers she owes me one and now DP 's phone is off, house is freezing and really fucking tired! Kids are starting to fart about as bord/hungry! PFFTTTTTTTTTTTT!

ThreeWheelsGood Sat 02-Feb-13 23:53:20

Yabu, your post is incoherent.

Permanentlyexhausted Sat 02-Feb-13 23:54:28

I don't get why you're upset with your DP. confused

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Feb-13 23:55:29

OK I've read it now.

Why did you allow your MIL to leave the kids with you if it doesn't suit you?

And why can't you turn the boiler back on yourself?

AgentZigzag Sat 02-Feb-13 23:56:22

I can't believe how similar your problem is to the OPs, worra shock

<head more fucked than previously thought>

shutthebloodydoor Sat 02-Feb-13 23:57:56

jolly its a bit late for ME to be up too! they are waiting for there supper and keep asking where there bloody DP is! Im going to lock him out and send every one to bed!

I get annoyed with DP as his phone is off at almost misnight and he was supposed to be bringing the DC some food. I get pissed off at MIL because she bulldozed you into this. What i don't get is why you didn't say to MIL, "I have no food and no heat, of course the DC can't some here".

I think SIL is going to be pretty pissed off too.

ripsishere Sat 02-Feb-13 23:59:22

Can you order a take away to be delivered?

OutragedFromLeeds Sat 02-Feb-13 23:59:29

grin Agent

It's like English homework. I'm going to have a try to.

shutthebloodydoor Sun 03-Feb-13 00:04:40

Im mad at Dp as he said he wouldnt be late, he knew heatting was off, its the pressure and i'll prob blow house up knowing me! He was aware kids were here, the heating was off, they were hungry and he said he would'nt be long. he has just called and said he would be half an hour.
I wish i did say to MIL no but i was stunned and a bit of a mard arse with her ( i have to build my self up, she is quite scary)
The kids are great and i feel like a witch, the eldest is a love and was very embarrased and said' he didnt want to put me out'. Im just mad at those MIL and DP

AgentZigzag Sun 03-Feb-13 00:07:23

Could your DH pick up takeaway/chips on his way back?

shutthebloodydoor Sun 03-Feb-13 00:07:31

ha ha i know my grammer is REALLY bad sorry guys! SIL did phone me and was upset, her and MIL have been in an 18 year battle!
I genuinley thought DP would be like an hour or so! other wise i would have said no.

WorraLiberty Sun 03-Feb-13 00:08:55

Ziggers! grin

OP, it sounds as though you just need to fiddle for the tap on top of the boiler and turn it on...then watch the needle go up a couple of bars and turn it off again.

That's very basic and you should learn how to do it instead of relying on someone else.

Can't you make the kids a sandwich or a few slices of toast?

shutthebloodydoor Sun 03-Feb-13 00:09:22

agent apparently he is.. he phoned a few mins ago...sheepish.

Monty27 Sun 03-Feb-13 00:10:43

You've been had OP.

AgentZigzag Sun 03-Feb-13 00:12:11

Oooh, what's he getting shutthe?

AgentZigzag Sun 03-Feb-13 00:12:41

And sheepish is a good start.

shutthebloodydoor Sun 03-Feb-13 00:13:31

worral ur right im going to!

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