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To hate hate hate having tiny boobs

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Alwaysasking Fri 01-Feb-13 17:48:13

Without a highly padded bra my chest is completely flat - like a bloke. I am relatively small framed but I hate my lack of boobs sooo much. My friends always go on about how 'lucky' I am because big boobs are painful/annoying etc but in reality I would be delighted to have C or even B cups which I don't imagine to be hard to live with!

AIBU to hate having small boobs? I hate that I live in 'Abracadabra Bras', hate that I can't wear a bikini because I look ridiculous. I don't know anyone else as flat as me!

YellowTulips Wed 06-Feb-13 20:05:57

I am pretty happy with my small "b's" tbh. No complaints from DH either (that he has mentioned).

Got bras and swimwear sorted from max cleavage webite for when I want some more volume!

My general view is that it's easier to make small breasts look bigger but virtually impossible to do the reverse.

lazydog Wed 06-Feb-13 18:19:47

No, YANBU. I feel the same. Actually, I have no problem with how my boobs look as they are now, if they could be taken in isolation, but it's that proportion thing that everyone else has mentioned. I'd be happy with being this flat chested (which is what I am - with no padded bra on I look totally boyish) IF I was also slim (like I was back in my teens/early 20s, and yet I wasn't happy with how my boobs looked then sad ) but now I'm a sz14 in bottoms, sz12 in tops, and in profile my belly sticks out further than my boobs! Clothes in my size (correct back width, etc) don't fit because I can't fill them up in front... Plus my belly isn't huge but it looks far bigger because I'm not in proportion.

StuntGirl Wed 06-Feb-13 17:41:43

Rhubarb that's awful sad People are vile about women's bodies regardless of how they look I've found.

I do appreciate that it's equally difficult for women with no or small breasts as it is for women with huge breasts, we're both at different ends of the same spectrum I feel.

TessTing123 Wed 06-Feb-13 07:26:59

Clothes dont fit anyone. Fact. I expect to alter anything off the peg to fit me. If it's too advanced for me or something expensive I take it to a tailor. My life changed when I stopped expecting clothes to fit straight off the hanger.

FellatioNels0n Wed 06-Feb-13 06:39:31

Yes, yes yes to all of the above. My biggest gripe is that so many tops are too low cut for me to wear unless I wear a T-shirt/vest top underneath.

But I find that too, and I am the cleavage queen. grin Most of them look positively obscene unless I put a camisole underneath. I can get away with it for glamorous evening wear for a big night like a ball, but anything less dressy than that it just seems inappropriate and wrong, and attention-seeking. Even for very glam occasions I still need to close the gap a bit with a safety pin, lest I look like I wish to swallow men whole down the front of my dress.

Who can actually wear these things? confused I think if you have an average or smaller sized chest it's probably easier actually. People don't stare quite so much. grin

Bunbaker Tue 05-Feb-13 18:34:44

"Clothes don't fit, they just hang. Necklines are made to make the most of cleavages, strappy tops are hung too low, blouses are baggy at the front, etc.
I wear padded bras all the time and am lucky enough to have a dh who loves me for who I am and who has never once made a disparaging comment about my boobs. I'm happy with them the way they are now. I wear padded bras because otherwise clothes don't fit but if I could buy clothes for small breasted women then I would and I could then buy cheaper bras."

Yes, yes yes to all of the above. My biggest gripe is that so many tops are too low cut for me to wear unless I wear a T-shirt/vest top underneath.

"Oh and by the way, small boobs do look just as bad when you get older."

Mine don't. I breastfed DD for 6 months and mine are the same as they were when I was 22 - I'm 54 now.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe France Tue 05-Feb-13 17:24:00

Better natural boobs is what I think; big or small, but not implanted with crap. Any size is better.

I think as a smaller-boobed woman, you'll always look neat and well put together. It's not as easy when you have enormous boobs.

garlicblocks Tue 05-Feb-13 17:04:36

People say all that to you??!! shock angry shock angry angry

I hope you don't let 'em get away with it! Rude fuckers!

THERhubarb Tue 05-Feb-13 16:40:44

grin @ Ariel

patience I suppose I will never know the discomfort of having large boobs and I can think of nothing worse than your body actually causing you pain like that. I suppose our scars are more psychological because people/strangers assume it's ok to make disparaging comments to us, to ask if we have a penis or are lesbians, to question our suitability to breastfeed our children and to make us feel unsexy, unwomanly, unattractive and unappealing.

It's just another way in which women are made to feel less worthy.

YABU because I'd swap you in a heartbeat for my heavy 34 F/G's

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Tue 05-Feb-13 16:31:41

PS my cats never shit in gardens, as well you know!

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Tue 05-Feb-13 16:31:10

I have lanky gorilla arms and massive hands too <sighs> My extra twiggy wrists always stick out the end of sleeves.

Roaring at your chicken fillet tale. I had some of those - I bought them from MaxCleavage.com which actually sounds like a porn site, and I found particularly in hot weather them to be very uncomfortable. They made my boobs sweat and itch, and then I got a scaly rash. So attractive. Now I have a good bra from M&S called 2 sizes bigger. Seen that?

THERhubarb Tue 05-Feb-13 16:22:48

Ariel grin
How are your cats? Shat in any more gardens lately? wink

The clothes thing is a pain in the arse. They look lovely until I try them on and if I get a size smaller than the arms are too short. I end up having to adjust most of my clothes. In fact I give a lot of my stuff to my 12yr old dd now, the tops all fit her.

I did get some of those chicken fillet things once. One of them fell out and got trodden on by a girl with high heels. I didn't have the heart to tell her she had one of my boobs stuck to her heel! I whipped the other out and just accepted that I was destined to have small boobs and that was that.

Oh and by the way, small boobs do look just as bad when you get older. I used to look after elderly people and <whispers> they just become little envelope flaps. I would say that the bigger boobed old ladies actually came off better.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Tue 05-Feb-13 16:13:38

Well Rhubarb we may not agree about catshit, but we certainly agree about this grin

It's the clothes thing that pisses me off most I think.

THERhubarb Tue 05-Feb-13 16:04:51

It seems a shame that if you want to have a bit of a whinge about your body you are told to be grateful that you are healthy. Of course I'm sure the OP is very grateful that she is healthy but that doesn't mean she can't have a bit of a moan from time to time?

I have tiny boobs too. I hate them because:

When I was younger my mum and other family members took the piss out of me for having small boobs, calling me a boy and making me feel really self conscious.

The media seems to imply that unless you have large boobs you are unattractive.

When I was breastfeeding I would get loads of comments about how they couldn't hold enough milk, how my daughter would need a bottle to top her up, how I only got pregnant so I could have some boobs hmm

Clothes don't fit, they just hang. Necklines are made to make the most of cleavages, strappy tops are hung too low, blouses are baggy at the front, etc.

I wear padded bras all the time and am lucky enough to have a dh who loves me for who I am and who has never once made a disparaging comment about my boobs.

I'm happy with them the way they are now. I wear padded bras because otherwise clothes don't fit but if I could buy clothes for small breasted women then I would and I could then buy cheaper bras.

garlicblocks Tue 05-Feb-13 15:54:19

I bet you'll be glad of it once you're old

Actually, yeah grin I was still slim and small of tit at 45. Other women kept telling me I should make the most of my chest perkiness while I still had it, as I'd find myself drooping post 40. As you can imagine, I felt quietly smug!

Sadly, I now resemble a precarious pile of barely-set jellies.

StuntGirl Tue 05-Feb-13 15:46:18

Ok, thank you so much Sorrel! I have actually lost weight since I last posted anyway, and am deliriously happy you just suggested a G. I haven't been a G for years! grin

SorrelForbes Tue 05-Feb-13 15:44:42

Ok, try a 36FF and a 36G. I think a 38 is going to be too big as most people who measure I between sizes uausally end up sizing down.

StuntGirl Tue 05-Feb-13 15:40:07

I can't find the last thread I commented on where you worked out my size Sorrel blush Can you help me again? My one and only bra has died today so I've taken it as a sign to buy a Sorrel-approved one grin

I measured 36.5" under my bust and 45" over. What do I do with that half inch measurement, round up or down?!

SorrelForbes Tue 05-Feb-13 08:06:41

No diet comments from this quarter! My boobs are always super sized no matter what size I can currently squeeze my wide hips into!

HopAndSkip Mon 04-Feb-13 23:39:31

PS in no way meaning that to be horrible to big breasted people - just realised how that came out!! I will be joining the knee-boob associations in old age if that makes it any better haha!

HopAndSkip Mon 04-Feb-13 23:37:39

It may seem rubbish now, but I bet you'll be glad of it once you're old and everyone else's are hanging around their knee's from being big for so many years!!! grin

FreudiansSlipper Mon 04-Feb-13 23:13:55

I used to like my 30f boobs but my 32 gg is just too big sad I can not get things to fit me and have to wear v neck tops all the time

I hate the rest of my body too sad

FunnysInLaJardin Mon 04-Feb-13 23:13:45

I would love small boobs. Mine are DD cup and always have been. I can't run properly, I can't wear a shirt, I can't wear a halter neck or a vest. I envy your tiny boobs!

garlicblocks Mon 04-Feb-13 23:07:41

... I just can't risk well-meaning posters suggesting diets, Sorrel!

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