My partner is hoping to buy a house within the next 6 months. In the meantime, I agreed he could unofficially live with me providing me helps me out with groceries etc. He agreed.
He's been here since new year and has so far not contributed anything. He buys the odd carton of milk or loaf of bread but that's it. On top of this, he asked me to buy better tea-bags and moans that I need a deep fat fryer as my oven chips are tasteless. The other day he offered to make me a casserole - but text me to ask me to buy some sirloin steak for it whilst I was out!
This morning he told me he was going to shop as he wanted some lemonade and orange juice. I asked what else he was buying and he said that was all 'he' needed. So I took the opportunity to ask him to buy me coffee and bread. At this point he asked "why don't you come with me?" in other words - come and pay for the stuff you want. I said I didn't have time so he went and bought me the cheapest coffee going - considering he insists on the most expensive tea-bags I felt this was taking the piss somewhat!?
He used to take me out every week and since he moved in here, we've not even been out.
He keeps going on about me moving in with him when he buys this new house but I'm wondering if he's just trying to keep me sweet with the promise of a new house if I keep him for the next 6 months. What's more annoying is that he keeps boasting of having £20k in the bank whilst I'm getting by on £18k a year.
I know I'm not BU actually!
AIBU?
To think partner is starting to take advantage a bit?
QueenNothing · 01/02/2013 12:38
So why is he still living with you? He is saving up and using you to help him do it, you know that, so why is he still there?? 
In answer to your original question - no, he isn't taking advantage "a bit". He is taking the absolute 
.
What are his good qualities? I would be showing him the door (plus possibly an invoice for rent / food).
You know you're not BU and so do we! 
[flamingtorches]
Had a proper sit down and look at your budget so he can contrubute fairly? I assume that's what you'd both do before you moved in together and if it's his house hbut he'd want a contribution to the mortgage? 
For the avoidance of any doubt; this man is a cocklodger.
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Cocklodging is kind of a weird one. On one hand don't most people enjoy being generous and the (selfish 
) pleasure you get from doing things for people. Mmmm, warm glow, aren't we all having a lovely time at mine and I cooked and it's all clean etc.
But then the recipient steps over some invisible line and the generous one is suddenly left not being generous at all but being a cash-cow with mug stamped on their face. It's fucking shocking to realise it, I've been there.
It's a dumpable offense, OP.
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