To not understand why being underweight is considered by many to be 'dangerous', while being overweight is considered 'curvy'?

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EnterWittyNicknameHere Wed 30-Jan-13 11:49:46

This has something that's really annoyed me recently.

In newspapers/magazines i see artcles about dangerously ill supermodels/people because they are underweight.

In the same newspapers/magazines, i see articles glorifying overweight people for being curvy.

My weight has fluctuated over the years between 8 and 12 stone. For my height, a healthy bmi is a weight between 8 1/2 stone and 11 1/2 stone. So i've been half a stone over and under before.

During my 'under' days, almost everyone would criticise me for my weight, saying i was unhealthy and a bad influence on dd. I was sacrificing my health, i could drop dead with heart failure etc. I need to stop being selfish.

I was eating very well, had cut out all chocolate/sweets/white bread etc and was exercising daily. I wasn't starving myself at all, just being stricter than usual.

During my 'over' days, people were complimenting me on my shape. I heard comments like 'it's better to see a bit of wobbly skin than bones', 'you're setting a good example to dd that looks aren't everything/you can be curvy and attractive', 'you look much better now than before.' 'be proud of your body.'

I just don't get it!

I'm now a slightly wobbly size 12, almost 11 stone, so considered a healthy weight. However, i am extrememly unfit and untoned.

I mentioned last night to my friends that i was thinking of starting up my old regime to lose a stone, and they totally freaked out.

My two best friends are overweight. One posts those picture things on FB almost on a weekly basis such as 'real men like curves', or pictures of a skinny supermodel next to a plus size model which reads "i know which one i'd rather be."

It just feels so confusing and unfair. They're really being hard on me for wanting to lower my weight, yet when i mention their weight they make out that they're happy, and being curvy is better than 'looking like a boy'.

sad

FlorriesDragons Thu 31-Jan-13 18:24:12

Your friends are jealous and afraid that you losing weight will reflect badly on them.

Anyone who posts those rubbish posts about being "curvy" is probably insecure about their size or why would they even mention it?

fridgepants Fri 01-Feb-13 00:10:29

I'm an hourglass shape. I've been underweight, and I'm now overweight - more than I'd like to be, to be honest. My 'curvy' shape stays the same, it's my size/measurements and my body weight that class me as overweight.

Clothing measurements have definitely changed - compare dressmaking patterns, for example. I take a 20 or 22 in vintage patterns but a 16 on the high street. Part of that is that I'm tall and my bone structure is such that I will always be a bigger than average person (I took a 14 in Topshop even at a stone underweight) but also I am a lot larger than the average 1950s woman.

Size zero is a UK4, isn't it? Gap used to do a 0 in the 90s as they ran on US sizing.

fridgepants Fri 01-Feb-13 00:14:10

A size 16 is a 40in bust. That's not huge, really - it's, what, a DD or E cup? Sizes are just measurements - there's no way to say that someone is large or small based on dress size alone.

I feel for you, Kewcumber - I take quetiapine and it makes you tired, hungry and feel like eating all the things.

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