To ask how "entitled"
you were as a teenager.
With all the discussions about welfare changes and the term "entitled" being bandied about I thought back to a time when I truly was "entitled". My teenage years were a charmed life of lie ins, little responsibility and pocket money (okay only £1 but we are going back some years). I didn't know I was born.....
So fast forward to age16 and the school arranged for us to have two weeks of "work experience" with local employers. I can remember being utterly shocked that I would "have to be there at 8:00am which means I am going to have to be up by 6:30am". I actually remember saying to my Mum "they can't expect me to be there that early". I forget her response but it was along the lines of "welcome to the real world love" .
Three years later I was happily working all hours as a student nurse but have never forgotten how precious I was at 16.
Not really - I was a teen in 1983 and a latch key kid from the age of 11 - I had to make tea, clean, do washing etc - not like Cinderella - more as part of the family where we all pulled our weight
also from age 14 I was involved in the Labour and Trades Union movement and spending weekends at Greenham
As soon as I worked I paid a 3rd of my income in keep
My kids have a much more comfortable lifestyle but I expect them to help out at home and muck in
Left school at 16 on the Friday and started a full time job on the Monday. Already had a part time job so had two jobs. Earned about 65 quid a week in all, gave mum 10 quid a week but paid for everyone else myself like clothes, toiletries, holidays etc. I didn't feel hard done by.
Parents had always left us to get on with it, never walked or drove us to school, classes, clubs even when we ere little.
Mum worked incredibly hard as a nurse and dad was self employed, never much cash to go round. I had part-time jobs from the age of 13/14 and often worked two jobs around school. I had the time of my life, it fostered an amazing sense of independence and I made some lifelong friends who I would never have met otherwise.
I was expected to help out a lot at home, doing weekly shoppings aged 11, cleaning etc. but I accepted we had to help mum out (she often worked nights).
My upbringing has shaped me into the person I am today and I love my parents for ensuring I HAD to contribute to the running of the house.
My parents were not very involved/interested or encouraging regarding school work, I do resent them slightly for this as I think my life could have taken a different path (university). I was above average in terms of being academic, however I never felt much guidance or support to steer me towards a future career path. I will definitely do things differently with my own DC.
I don't know if I've overcompensated with mine. I was brought up to do absolutely everything for my brothers and I can't help but do the same for my DC, although they are all extremely hardworking.
I actually think I was pretty unrealistic about the "real"world but on the other hand I didn't shy away from work once I hit 16. I went to college but was expected to get a Saturday job to give myself my own pocket money.
I will hope that DS can do the same as well
Hassled I think I've brought my DCs up fairly similarly to the way I was brought up, IYSWIM. (Obviously we have central heating and less brown clothes, lol). However, they have always been expected to do a reasonable amount around the house, like I was and do so cheerfully because it's always been that way. I don't make anyone work - but money's always been fairly tight and we live in an area where it's quite easy for teens to find a part time job (seaside town). The attitude I took was that I can only afford to give you about £5 a week pocket money, in return for chores. If you want more, well, you need to earn it. DDs both worked from about 14 when their wants and needs for make up/clothes, etc outstripped their budget. DS didn't want much - cheerfully wore clothes his Ma bought him without needing extra money so he was 16 before he decided he'd get a job, and did so. I don't take anything off them (unlike my Mother) but expect them to save half so that they aren't skint all winter when their hours at work drop off! They certainly get taxied about a lot more than I ever was, but that's probably it. They all say they are a lot less spoiled than any of their friends, but are actually quite grateful for the fact that they have had to stand on their own two feet a bit.
Hassled I don't have teenagers yet, give me about 6 years and I'll answer you again! Like sowornout I lived in a seaside place where people offered you jobs rather than have to go and get one, so it was the norm among my friends to work part time as a teenager.
Like many posters are saying I had a part time job from 14 (full time in holidays from 15), and a paper round before that. Driving self to school from 15 (not UK).
Still, I was really naiive about the ways of the world. As you might expect from a 15 year old. And frankly I don't believe those saying they weren't.
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