to not understand why so many people are 'proud' of babies rolling over, crawling, walking etc?

(285 Posts)
HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 21:21:21

Unimportant bollocks I know, but humor me smile

I have a 3yo DD. Lately I'm noticing more and more people on facebook and in general conversation going on about how very proud they are that "DS rolled over" or "DD crawled"

As for toileting hmm

I've always felt that pride is an ugly thing and hand on heart I have never been proud of DD Crawling, walking or taking a shit. I mean, these are human bodily functions and surely no reflection on your offspring's intelligence or your capability as a parent? So what's to be proud of?

Sure - when DD is a little older and does something for someone else of her own volition as an act of kindness, then yes, I might be proud of that. If she helps people and achieves happiness for herself and others then I might also be proud of her for that. But rolling? Nah.

Am I being a twat?

Scheherezade Sun 27-Jan-13 22:00:13

....and its amazing to watch that little ball of mess and noise develop their own autonomy, independent thought, self will, determination. Each pathetic nothingness to you, is to a loving mother an amazing moment of wonder and delight.

I feel sorry for you and your DD that you will never experience it. Did you honestly never congratulate her or share in the magic of each new discovery?!

neveronamonday Sun 27-Jan-13 22:00:13

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HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:00:17

Gotta be honest it is mainly a fb thing, yeah blush

PenelopeChipShop Sun 27-Jan-13 22:01:26

I felt proud of my son within days of his birth! I can't explain why and it took me by surprise but I guess it's just part of my love for him.

I do choose not to post info on his milestones on fb though... I might be obsessed with them but I do realise that others aren't. I will continue to be proud inside though! So there .

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:01:46

Grrr! YES I congratulate HER, bit I don't go around swelling with pride and telling everyone how proud I am of something most kids do as a matter of course hmm

MrsKeithRichards Sun 27-Jan-13 22:02:17

Picture the scene in a few year's..

'ma look, I can write my name'

'and? No big deal, I've been doing it for years'

Ya know, I have a mother who has never once said 'I'm proud of you, well done' and it bloody sucks.

Iggly Sun 27-Jan-13 22:02:49

YABU

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:03:16

Grrr again!! I tell HER I'm proud of her and congratulate her every step.

CheeseOnTop Sun 27-Jan-13 22:03:32

"Please don't post on facebook"

As the majority of other posts are thought-provoking, super-important non-trivial nuggets of information??? People spending there time browsing facebook don't need there time wasted.

neveronamonday Sun 27-Jan-13 22:03:32

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Iggly Sun 27-Jan-13 22:04:53

You don't go around telling people what kids do as a matter of course?

Why not?

I tell people what ds has done, I don't give a flying monkeys if other children walk - when both of mine started walking I was very proud and wanted to share.

Do you not like to display emotions or summat?

StuntGirl Sun 27-Jan-13 22:05:31

YANBU, it annoys me too.

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:07:17

Sorry, it does fuck me off.

Maybe I'm misreading this whole pride thing confused

tbh I read it as 'look at what a great parent I am and look at what a super-advanced child I have and it's all down to me'. Over a kid rolling, walking or weeing ffs!

Altinkum Sun 27-Jan-13 22:08:23

In what way isn't it the same OP, you haven't specified, just made a general abservation that ALL children are the same.

I live in a different contry from my immediate family, slo by heck will post my ds development updates on Facebook.

Facebook seems to get a bad name, but where can you get, free family updates, pictures, all in one social family networking website... NONE, none that is anywhere near as good and reliable as Facebook and did I mention its global and free!!! And you can chat to many family members all at the same time for FREE!!!

I loathe the snobbish attuide when it concerns Facebook, some people give it a bad reputation as with many a things in life, but the majority of people use it for what it is... A social networking brillaince.

Iggly Sun 27-Jan-13 22:09:01

You read it wrong. People are just proud and very excited so they stick it on FB. You sound cynical wink

Shelby2010 Sun 27-Jan-13 22:09:16

YABU
"hand on heart I've never been proud of DD" "when DD is a little older..... I might be proud of that"
Or
"I tell HER I'm proud of her"

Well which is it? Are you proud of her or not?

neveronamonday Sun 27-Jan-13 22:10:07

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HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:10:40

Fair point Altinkum, many of us use it as an essential tool to share with family smile

But "I'm SO PROUD of my little man <vom>. He just crawled to the TV"

Bleugh.

pigletmania Sun 27-Jan-13 22:11:13

Yabvvvu to not feel proud f your child. What you take for granted other parents with sn/disabilities cannot. Yes imam proud of bth my chikdrens milestones (dd has ASD and dev delays. It means that they are heading in the right direction, due to dd Autism some milestones I may never see sad. So thank your lucky stars that your dd is making good progress and celebrate every but of teir lif because tey will soon grow up,into adults and you my regret it

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn Sun 27-Jan-13 22:11:40

YANBU.

By all means be proud of your child, but I, and everyone else on Facebook, don't need to know every last detail of their most recent bowel movement.

MakeHayInAManger Sun 27-Jan-13 22:11:46

The thing is, talking/walking/rolling/peeing/whatever may be something that the vast majority of babies do at some stage as part of their development, but for that one child it is the first time they have done it and generally they have worked hard, shown determination and put in effort to have achieved that particular skill. So yes, it is totally right to be proud of them for achieving it and no one is going to tell me not to be proud that my ds has just managed to put two words together for the first time (they happen to be "where willy?" when I was changing his nappy, but there you go!).

Might go post that on FB now.

pigletmania Sun 27-Jan-13 22:12:33

I am proud of dd and ds but don't expect others to be apart from their immediate family.

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:13:48

Shelby2012 I do think being proud of rolling over is a trifle daft. I realise that makes me in the minority here.

I do tell DD all the time about all the things she does that are wonderful, but they tend to be a teensy bit bigger/more impactful on others than rolling iyswim.

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:14:37

Pigletmania you haven't read my posts properly at all.

Altinkum Sun 27-Jan-13 22:16:51

As again you miss the point, not all children are like YOUR CHILD!!!.

As you can see from my child mine is very much different, he cannot do and doesn't understand that most 3 year olds isn't like him.

He lives in his own bubble, my family want to see my proudness, considering he was in intensive care and ICU. For 3 months and islolatuon for many months also.

I find it weird that you cannot see by your own opinion, and why Facebook serves a purpose to updating our families in our childrens developments even if its outside the normal reams of your "opinion" or understand that Facebook serves a uproar, expecially when family is involved living in different countries.

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