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AIBU to be quietly pissed off with a woman taking up a buggy space with her "reborn" doll?

(162 Posts)
VinegarDrinker Sat 26-Jan-13 21:31:53

First up, I fully accept that this woman may well have psychological issues. And there is NO WAY I would say anything out loud.

And people are welcome to whatever hobbies they enjoy, and if that involves buying big expensive travel systems for your doll then be my guest.

But taking up a buggy space on a busy bus/train? AIBU to think this is taking your hobby a tiny bit too far?

DizzyZebra Sat 26-Jan-13 22:25:20

Mine slept pretty motionless... that's why people thought they were dolls. Some teenagers actually had an argument about my son once.

VinegarDrinker Sat 26-Jan-13 22:29:43

Dizzy It was the arm sticking up vertically for 15 thing I was pointing out, not sleeping motionless!

Good point pixie!

When ds was born he was only 4lb5 and when I was in town people actually came up and asked me where I got him. One lady wanted a lifelike doll for her grandaughter's birthday. He projectile vomited all down her front. Think he was trying to make a point grin

I think that woman should have moved, those saying that it's ok if nobody else needed the space, if someone with a buggy or wheelchair saw the space was full they wouldn't try to get on would they? So she should have left the space free in case someone actually needed it.

VinegarDrinker Sat 26-Jan-13 22:30:41

Hmm meant to say 15 minutes. Plus, well, it just was a doll. You may have to trust I can tell the difference! I was standing behind her so got a good look.

HollyBerryBush Sat 26-Jan-13 22:31:47

ummm DS3 could sleep for 14 hours with both arms vertical and never move an inch

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 26-Jan-13 22:32:30

How sad, that poor woman.
I'd have ignored,

5madthings Sat 26-Jan-13 22:34:11

What arms up in the air verticke, lots if babies sleep with their arms above their heads but not up in the air which is what I think thee op means.

If I had needed the space I would have politely asked her to move.

But if nobody needs the space then its not hurting anybody.

HollyBerryBush Sat 26-Jan-13 22:35:34

I mean up in the air, not above his head. Out at right angles

DoingTheSwanThing Sat 26-Jan-13 22:36:25

I'd be pissed off too, while trying very hard to understand it. A woman at work brought one of her "babies" in once and was surprised I didn't want to cuddle it... Never thought there was anything odd about her before that! Months later I'm still confused. Seemed to make her happy though <shrug>

bringnbuy Sat 26-Jan-13 22:36:33

i don't see a woman with one of these dolls as doing it for a hobby. i see it more than likely as some kind of emotional comfort/support for something she has either lost or can never have. if i were on a crowded bus and saw similar situation, i think i would feel sadness for the women rather than anger

VinegarDrinker Sat 26-Jan-13 22:37:01

Honestly, it was a doll. I promise, I can tell. I was a couple of feet away absolute maximum.

I am impressed at your son's super skills though Holly - my arms ache after about a minute of holding them over my head!

LouMae Sat 26-Jan-13 22:37:48

That is pretty odd.

VinegarDrinker Sat 26-Jan-13 22:39:12

I felt sad too, bringnbuy but then thought isn't that a bit patronising of me? Maybe she just enjoys it? Maybe people feel sorry for me because I enjoy geeky choral singing?

VinegarDrinker Sat 26-Jan-13 22:41:09

"I'd be pissed off too, while trying very hard to understand it."

I think this is the closest to how I was feeling... I'm not posting to laugh at her.

bringnbuy Sat 26-Jan-13 22:43:26

i don't think there is anything wrong feeling a genuine sincere sorrow for someone. i can't have more than one child/have had to deal with secondary infertility for 8 years and whilst i wouldn't DREAM of having one of those creepy dolls i would feel some kind of sadness towards the women if her reason for having one was because she was infertile. then again, she might just like dolls/be eccentric but my natural reaction would be to think it was an infertility issue.

bringnbuy Sat 26-Jan-13 22:44:29

ps: nothing wrong with choral singing :-) i still love watching Little House On The Prairie and still usually end up crying at the ripe old age of 48 whilst dd 9 sits there looking at me as if i was mad...

greeneyed Sat 26-Jan-13 22:45:46

I have this hilarious image in my head of her getting the doll out and putting it on the luggage rack and being so realistic all the other passengers thinking, fucking hell that woman's just put her baby on the luggage rack!

greeneyed Sat 26-Jan-13 22:47:20

Yabu however, to her it's her baby

I've seen a woman stood at a bus stop with a dog in a huge pram

bringnbuy Sat 26-Jan-13 22:56:22

i often see eccentric women walking around bootsales with dogs in buggys, normal to me as used to it. when i used to live in notting hill i remember going into an old electrical shop, quite run down shop. near to the counter was what i thought was the shop owners dog. lovely sheep dog, curled up on the floor. i commented to the man how lovely the dog was and realised about half way through my comment that the dog was indeed dead/stuffed. really surreal and sad at the same time. totally freaked me out actually.

MuddlingMackem Sat 26-Jan-13 23:38:28

greeneyed Sat 26-Jan-13 22:45:46

>>>> I have this hilarious image in my head of her getting the doll out and putting it on the luggage rack and being so realistic all the other passengers thinking, fucking hell that woman's just put her baby on the luggage rack! <<<<

I never thought of that! shock grin

You did make me laugh! grin

Xmasbaby11 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:40:50

Poor woman. Yes, be quietly pissed off. And not say anything.

Chunderella Sat 26-Jan-13 23:45:39

I'd have done what you did OP.

pigletmania Sat 26-Jan-13 23:47:45

YANBU how odd

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 27-Jan-13 00:17:52

YANBU. It's weird. And potentially rude and inconvenient to others with real babies.

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