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Poor ds needed a nap in school today

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I feel so mean, i had warned them that he was tired and could come home if needed. His great grandad has been in hospital and we have visited for two nights out of the five hes been there. visiting doesnt finish until 7.30 then it has been a half hour drive home which has took longer due to the bad weather. By the time he has got home had quick supper and gone to bed its been later than usual

Apparently today he told his teacher he was really tired so she said he could have a lie down, he was asleep for 2 hours! I feel like a v mean mum. Ds nanna was very poorly in hospital a couple of months ago .she was terminally ill and passed away in November, when his great grandad was taken into hosp ds was really upset so ive been taking him to reassure him that he was okay and was being looked after and would be coming home again.

Flobbadobs Sat 26-Jan-13 09:11:32

I remember having nap/quiet time right through infant school and that was in the early 80's!
Dn't worry about it OP, my DD was once found fast asleep in the home corner bed, her teacher checked her temp and left her theresmile

Ah thats a nice storyy to tell little brother about his lovely big brother and how much he wanted to see him

FaceLikeAPickledOnion Sat 26-Jan-13 08:21:40

Last year ds2 was born prematurely by emcs in a hospital 20 miles away, ds1 (was 6y/o) and wanted to visit every evening with Dh. Which he did. Bless him he was exhausted at school but it was only for a couple of weeks, his teachers were very understanding and it hasn't done his education any harm.

Don't worry.

ah you guys have made me feel better and less useless. you will be happy to know ds has had a massive sleep and is up bouncing around now

mum2twoloudbabies Sat 26-Jan-13 07:45:53

Don't worry better he misses a couple of hours having a nap than a whole day or being stressed, worried and emotional about his ggd. I think you did the right thing all round. My dd is a worrier and there would have been far worse consequences if she had been allowed to worry more.

Looking after your dss emotional well-being is very important.

My DS had a three hour snooze at school last month.
He is 15 and the medical room is very comfortable, apparently smile

CheerfulYank Sat 26-Jan-13 07:20:31

Here the kindergartners (age 5 and 6) all bring a blanket to lie down with after lunch and recess. smile I think it's just 20 minutes or so.

lannyshrops Sat 26-Jan-13 07:00:57

grin heads down time! I remember this now! After lunch I think? Oh infants was lovely, painting, stories, I still remember my teachers and lives them!

Oh, and I'm sure he's fine OP, don't worry.

CanIHaveAPetGiraffePlease Sat 26-Jan-13 05:58:49

Gosh yes I remember the mats. My memory is in the year 1 class though. I wonder if it was the whole year or just the first term!

CadleCrap Sat 26-Jan-13 05:48:12

I had totally forgotten about "heads down" time!

Ilovesunflowers Sat 26-Jan-13 03:13:19

I once taught a lad who was going through some family upheaval. He looked tired one day so I arranged some cushions in a teaching assistant work area and asked him if he wanted a nap. He slept deeply for for over four hours. Poor thing. He was 8.

I would always let children who weRe feeling a bit grotty have a nap while waiting for parents to collect. Honestly don't worry about it.

DoJo Sat 26-Jan-13 02:04:14

Better for him to miss a couple of hours having a nap than a whole day!

Morloth Fri 25-Jan-13 23:31:58

I just asked DS1 and he said at the holiday club he goes to, lots of the Kindy and Year 1s have a nap in the afternoon.

They have a quiet area with bean bags and bedrolls and stuff where they can crash out if they like.

Very civilised.

Morloth Fri 25-Jan-13 23:30:47

It is fine that he had a nap at school. I can remember being in Kindy at 5 and we all got mats out and had a lie down.

Why not? Napping is nice. I could still use one after lunch at work these days!

quoteunquote Fri 25-Jan-13 23:23:27

If he was a Danish child he would have a sleep after lunch every day.

I once had to have a sleep in P1 because I had a bug and the school couldnt get my mum. It was on a little camp bed in the house corner.

I went home with one of the reception boys mums who my granny worked for and vomited all over her house.

That would never ever happen now!

thegreylady Fri 25-Jan-13 23:13:06

My dd was August born and started school shortly after her fourth birthday. Her teacher had a thick foam mat by her desk where dd and anyone else who needed to could have a nap. The whole class also had heads down after lunch. I remember that when I was five in 1949 :-)

edwinbear Fri 25-Jan-13 22:56:58

We used to have mats in the hall we slept on after lunch when I first started school - I had forgotten all about that until I read this. Better to have a sleep and then be able to concentrate on lessons afterwards than to be dozing all afternoon at that age, surely.

i wish we had a head on desk time at home... it sounds like a good way to spend an afternoon grin bet it wasnt comfy though

unfortunatly visiting was up till three thirty which we wouldnt of made after school finished or six thirty till seven thirty so couldnt really be avoided. We went in the car with his wife and son (my dad) so couldnt leave after ten mins as they wanted him to have company for the full hour after being alone all day. Now he is home though bed times will go back to the same. I also like you wasnt thrilled at hearing he needed to have a sleep at school and id never heard of it happening before but was told by teacher today it frequently does happen. Hopefully wont be happening again now though smile

thebody Fri 25-Jan-13 21:38:26

Hi op, I was 5 in 1970!!! And I remember every afternoon it was heads on desks and close eyes..

We slept... That was a sensible age!!!

ThoughtsPlease Fri 25-Jan-13 21:35:11

I know you didn't mean to post in AIBU, but as someone else said, perhaps the visits could have been better planned so he wasn't in bed so late on school nights?

You say visiting didn't finish until 7.30pm, but surely you didn't need to stay until the end? You said he needed supper when you got home, why didn't you give him something to eat at some point in the many hours from school to getting home?

If your DS wanted reassurance that he was ok surely that could be seen without staying for hours?

Actually I am really quite surprised at the responses that sleeping at school when you are 5 is absolutely fine, obviously there may be some circumstances where it may happen, but I think we should try and ensure that our children are not so tired that they fall asleep at school due to what we have chosen to do with them the night before.

It looks like I might be in the minority in this thinking though! smile

tearoomtrash Fri 25-Jan-13 21:22:32

The children in my class are 9, and it wouldn't occur to me not to let them nap if they needed to - even less so a 5 year old. Hope it has helped him to catch up on his sleep a bit.

it seems having a sleep at school is more commonplace than i thought id never heard it before today. Hope you all get a good nights sleep fakebook

amistillsexy Fri 25-Jan-13 21:14:42

When I was in Reception class, the entire class used to have a nap after lunch. 'Heads down' it was called- we folded our arms on our desks and put our heads on them.
There were little camp beds at the back of the room as well, for those who needed a more extended sleep!
I think we sometimes expect far more of our LOs than previous generations did.
OP, yanbu. It's lovely that your DS was able to have a nap.

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