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Poor ds needed a nap in school today

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I feel so mean, i had warned them that he was tired and could come home if needed. His great grandad has been in hospital and we have visited for two nights out of the five hes been there. visiting doesnt finish until 7.30 then it has been a half hour drive home which has took longer due to the bad weather. By the time he has got home had quick supper and gone to bed its been later than usual

Apparently today he told his teacher he was really tired so she said he could have a lie down, he was asleep for 2 hours! I feel like a v mean mum. Ds nanna was very poorly in hospital a couple of months ago .she was terminally ill and passed away in November, when his great grandad was taken into hosp ds was really upset so ive been taking him to reassure him that he was okay and was being looked after and would be coming home again.

Thought i was posting in chat but never mind, aibu to feel totally crap that he needed to go to sleep in school?

dexter73 Fri 25-Jan-13 21:03:09

What is your question? Do you think you should have kept him off school today or do you think the school should have phoned you to collect him?

sittinginthesun Fri 25-Jan-13 21:03:54

Ah, I think it's a really good sign that he felt comfortable enough at school to tell his teacher, secure enough to sleep there, and that his teacher was able to work with this. smile

My DS2 used to crash out now and then, and they had a lovely quiet area for tired LOs.

apostropheuse Fri 25-Jan-13 21:04:03

What age is he?

dexter73 Fri 25-Jan-13 21:04:13

x-post! Kids often used to have a kip at school if they were tired so yanbu. I assume he is quite young?

Hes 5, sorry for the no aibu i thought it was in chat. I feel very bad for sending him in but he seemed his normal self,no problem with what the school did

dexter73 Fri 25-Jan-13 21:08:46

Don't feel mean - I bet he enjoyed his snooze at school!

blackeyedsusan Fri 25-Jan-13 21:09:00

i have had children curl up on the floor and go to sleep. poor things arer exhausted by school at first. not that unusual.

apostropheuse Fri 25-Jan-13 21:09:10

Gosh five is still very young, the weel soul was obviously exhausted.

Maybe in future it would be better only to visit the hospital at weekends so that he gets enough sleep during the week.

The teacher seems very kind and thoughtful to let him nap though.

tearoomtrash Fri 25-Jan-13 21:11:40

Don't worry, I have often made up a little bed of cushions at the back of my classroom for children who have felt tired or a little unwell. The teacher will not think badly of you, and neither should you. Better for him to be in school but miss a couple of hours than to be at home all day.

Lexiesinclair Fri 25-Jan-13 21:12:30

Oh bless him. I remember at my primary school there was a sleeping corner where tired reception kids could have a nap.
At least he's managed to catch up a bit and like Sitting said he felt comfortable enough to do so.
I hope his Grandad gets better soon.

He has been telling everyone about his sleep at school so i imagine he did. Hopefully visiting again wont be a need as his great grandad came home today. I thought i was doing the right thing as he was quite upset and kept saying he didnt like his grumps being at the hospital because they didnt make his nanna better. felt so sad for him that thats how he was feeling and what he thought of hospitals sad

LittleChimneyDroppings Fri 25-Jan-13 21:13:13

Oh don't worry, he got a nap and he's fine.

Fakebook Fri 25-Jan-13 21:14:06

Don't worry about it. I know how hospital trips can get tiring for children. It's good he had a nap. Dd is 5 and was told to go to sleep as soon as she got home today by her teacher because she was snoozing during story time. We've been having terrible nights due to ds's teething.

amistillsexy Fri 25-Jan-13 21:14:42

When I was in Reception class, the entire class used to have a nap after lunch. 'Heads down' it was called- we folded our arms on our desks and put our heads on them.
There were little camp beds at the back of the room as well, for those who needed a more extended sleep!
I think we sometimes expect far more of our LOs than previous generations did.
OP, yanbu. It's lovely that your DS was able to have a nap.

it seems having a sleep at school is more commonplace than i thought id never heard it before today. Hope you all get a good nights sleep fakebook

tearoomtrash Fri 25-Jan-13 21:22:32

The children in my class are 9, and it wouldn't occur to me not to let them nap if they needed to - even less so a 5 year old. Hope it has helped him to catch up on his sleep a bit.

ThoughtsPlease Fri 25-Jan-13 21:35:11

I know you didn't mean to post in AIBU, but as someone else said, perhaps the visits could have been better planned so he wasn't in bed so late on school nights?

You say visiting didn't finish until 7.30pm, but surely you didn't need to stay until the end? You said he needed supper when you got home, why didn't you give him something to eat at some point in the many hours from school to getting home?

If your DS wanted reassurance that he was ok surely that could be seen without staying for hours?

Actually I am really quite surprised at the responses that sleeping at school when you are 5 is absolutely fine, obviously there may be some circumstances where it may happen, but I think we should try and ensure that our children are not so tired that they fall asleep at school due to what we have chosen to do with them the night before.

It looks like I might be in the minority in this thinking though! smile

thebody Fri 25-Jan-13 21:38:26

Hi op, I was 5 in 1970!!! And I remember every afternoon it was heads on desks and close eyes..

We slept... That was a sensible age!!!

unfortunatly visiting was up till three thirty which we wouldnt of made after school finished or six thirty till seven thirty so couldnt really be avoided. We went in the car with his wife and son (my dad) so couldnt leave after ten mins as they wanted him to have company for the full hour after being alone all day. Now he is home though bed times will go back to the same. I also like you wasnt thrilled at hearing he needed to have a sleep at school and id never heard of it happening before but was told by teacher today it frequently does happen. Hopefully wont be happening again now though smile

i wish we had a head on desk time at home... it sounds like a good way to spend an afternoon grin bet it wasnt comfy though

edwinbear Fri 25-Jan-13 22:56:58

We used to have mats in the hall we slept on after lunch when I first started school - I had forgotten all about that until I read this. Better to have a sleep and then be able to concentrate on lessons afterwards than to be dozing all afternoon at that age, surely.

thegreylady Fri 25-Jan-13 23:13:06

My dd was August born and started school shortly after her fourth birthday. Her teacher had a thick foam mat by her desk where dd and anyone else who needed to could have a nap. The whole class also had heads down after lunch. I remember that when I was five in 1949 :-)

I once had to have a sleep in P1 because I had a bug and the school couldnt get my mum. It was on a little camp bed in the house corner.

I went home with one of the reception boys mums who my granny worked for and vomited all over her house.

That would never ever happen now!

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