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To not like DD going to sleepovers

(49 Posts)
bigbadbarry Fri 25-Jan-13 18:37:57

Because I miss her! DDs 2 and 3 are here causing chaos as usual, but I just like everybody here tucked up safe. I am pathetic ;)

exoticfruits Fri 25-Jan-13 18:54:15

YANBU to feel it-just unreasonable if you let her know.

bigbadbarry Fri 25-Jan-13 18:56:28

Absolutely not! I send her off with a big smile and tell her to have fun.

freddiefrog Fri 25-Jan-13 18:58:01

I don't like it either.

One DD is 11, other one 7, and I still like to tuck them in every night so I can check they're all warm and cozy

I never stop them going and they always have fun but I like them to be all warm and safe at home blush

Unreasonable and irrational grin

Fleecy Fri 25-Jan-13 19:13:08

I'm the same. My older two are 6 and 4 and they sometimes sleep over at my parents, PIL, Dsis, SIL's etc but I miss them. Give DD2 extra cuddles when they're not here smile

andtheycalleditbunnylove Fri 25-Jan-13 20:18:05

why would your daughter sleep away from home?

my mum (probably an abused child) was absolutely rigid that everyone had to come home for sleep.

lilackaty Fri 25-Jan-13 20:20:20

I don't dislike it but the house does feel weird if one of them isn't here.
So YANBU.

Oh god. I love it. My long term goal is for all three of them to be gone on the same night blush

No such luck tonight, ds1s friend has only just left and dds bf is staying over. All four kids are piled on the couch with nintendos and tablets and dp is hiding upstairs.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Fri 25-Jan-13 20:24:18

YANBU..I hate going to bed and seeing his door open and bed empty. I don't stop him going though.

seeker Fri 25-Jan-13 20:26:35

I'm the same about dd and she's 17! I like everyone home and safe before I go to bed.

OK to feel it, not OK to say it. Or not often anyway...........

Just refuse if you don't like it. I have made it clear to all and sundry that I don't DO sleepovers (mainly because I don't want to reciprocate...or come to think of it, deal with tired and grumpy kids the next day) and the kids are cool with that. If there's a sleepover party, I let them stay out late then collect them before bedtime. Nobody complains.

HollyBerryBush Fri 25-Jan-13 20:31:13

Nothing like dispatching the kiddiewinks and having some quality time with your DH - no interruptions grin

bigbadbarry Fri 25-Jan-13 20:33:09

I can see the attraction of them all going at once! But no quality time here, it's the quiet one who is out smile creepy I let her go because she loves it.

Holly grin

I do miss noisy 'quality time' wink

TomArchersSausage Fri 25-Jan-13 20:36:53

Ah yes going up to bed and seeing their room and bed all dark and empty...<sniff>

Then I think of the lie in and cheer upgrin.

Then I remember that 'sleepover at friends' means 'rematch at ours'. Aargh!

HollyBerryBush Fri 25-Jan-13 20:42:35

Believe me - you won't miss 'quality' time when they hit 17 .... grin

seeker Fri 25-Jan-13 20:52:22

You get fantastic quality time when they are 17! Trouble is, it tends to be at 2 in the morning.............

seeker Fri 25-Jan-13 20:54:58

Ah, just realised what sort of "quality time" you meant! blush

Morning after they've all gone to school is best for that. One of you does the school run, the other makes the bed all lovely.........

What you want to do is arrange for them all to be at a sleepover on the sane night.

Bliss.

freddiefrog Fri 25-Jan-13 20:58:44

I never manage to get them all out at the same time.

DD1 is at a sleepover, our FC is on a contact weekend but DD2 didn't want to sleepover despite an invite. I can't even watch Silent Witness as I'm being bored shitless with Disney DVDs we're having 'movie night'

NanaNina Fri 25-Jan-13 21:00:14

I am just happy that my dear grdghtr is invited to sleep overs and goes. She is 13 in April and was always a shy child and wouldn't even go to birthday parties until she was about 10. I thought she would miss out on all the fun of sleepovers but her parents and me are delighted that she feels independent enough to go to parties and sleepovers (also proves she's popular too) so that's another plus!

sukysue Fri 25-Jan-13 21:01:44

yanbu imho! When we had our 2 dds I vowed that we would never have any child for sleepovers and that ours wouldnever go on one. I did this partially cos I didn't want them exposed to ppl who may abuse them and partly cos I didn't want to babysit for others.

bigbadbarry Fri 25-Jan-13 21:04:43

I'm quite confident she hasn't gone off to be abused! She is staying with her best friend, whose mum is one of my best friends! There are 6 children.

2kidsintow Fri 25-Jan-13 21:05:43

I don't do sleepovers. I know that there are lots of people who think you are depriving your children if you don't let them.

If my DDs are invited to a sleepover and I know the family well, then I won't stop them going, but I don't reciprocate with another sleepover. They have been allowed to invite the same friend on a day out with us instead, but my DH doesn't like the idea of being responsible for other people's children and I like my sleep.

seeker Fri 25-Jan-13 21:10:19

". I did this partially cos I didn't want them exposed to ppl who may abuse them and partly cos I didn't want to babysit for others."

What a profoundly depressing point of view!

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