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to be pissed off that my dh doesn't know my eye colour?

(31 Posts)
staverton Fri 25-Jan-13 12:56:04

DH is at work, filling out a form and just texted to ask my eye colour. WTAF?
He then texted brown? He wasn't actually sure.
They are brown, very dark and distinctive.
My dd has eyes just like mine and they are commented on a lot.
He says he doesnt have a visual memory. We have been married 10 years (and are very happy)
AIBU to be pissed off?

HintofBream Fri 25-Jan-13 13:02:19

DH after 20 years marriage "I've never noticed before what a lovely colour your eyes are"
Me "Actually I'm wearing new green contact lenses"

willyoulistentome Fri 25-Jan-13 13:03:08

I would be very pissed of with that, too!!

StuntGirl Fri 25-Jan-13 13:04:40

I don't know, in the grand scheme of things is it really that important? If he's awesome in other ways and you have no other problems then I'd say not knowing your eye colour is pretty minor.

YorkshireDeb Fri 25-Jan-13 13:05:20

Not sure it really matters. What does it actually mean? That he doesn't spend long enough gazing into your eyes? Other than dh, how many other people's eye colour could you name? X

staverton Fri 25-Jan-13 13:11:12

He is absolutely awesome there is no question about that.
I can name quite a few people whose eye colour I know. But that's not the point, I'm his DW! With very dark eyes. It's not like they could be confused for another colour.

StuntGirl Fri 25-Jan-13 13:16:06

I don't think it's something to get too annoyed about. You obviously place more importance on noticing eye colour than he does; that doesn't make him wrong for not noticing though. I bet there's some other part of you he thinks is attractive that you hadn't even noticed. I'd let him off this time smile

Am v. curious what work form he was filling out that asks for his wife's eye colour!

My DH is like this. Been together 14 years. I used to be offended, but now just realise it's who he is. He doesnt know my date of birth, or favourite film etc. He wouldnt notice if my hair was a different style or colour. If he could remember/notice important things about others, but not me, then I would be upset. But he's crap with everyone equally!

staverton Fri 25-Jan-13 13:22:05

I suppose that's it. That he doesn't notice or remember.
Ok so maybe IABU.

It was a form for setting up a new company, heaven knows why they needed to. Maybe because it's an identifying feature, even though some people dont notice...

kim147 Fri 25-Jan-13 13:26:55

Some people are crap at remembering things like that. If I had to describe someone who I knew well, I still think I'd fail.

We're the other way around. I couldn't tell you what colour DH's eyes are just from thinking about him. I have asked him, and tried to "learn" the answer, but to be honest I've forgotten again. I mean, they'll be some sort of blue-grey colour, that's his overall colouring, but what they look like? Meh.

DH on the other hand, cares deeply about what people look like. I find it almost rude! He notices instantly if people have changed their hair colour or been on holiday. If HintofBream had been even a slight acquaintance of his when she got the coloured lenses, he'd have said "What's going on with your eyes?"

StuntGirl Fri 25-Jan-13 13:36:57

I just text my boyfriend to ask what colour my eyes were and he replied "Brown/hazel".

They're green grin

DPotter Fri 25-Jan-13 14:47:47

Even Elton John in 'Your Song' didn't know 'if they're green or they're blue'.......

musicmadness Fri 25-Jan-13 14:51:13

I'm not certain what I'd describe my own eye colour as let alone anyone elses. I'm not a big fan of eye contact though so it takes me a long time to notice anyones eye colour.

As long as it's not just you he forgets details about don't worry about it!

wineandroses Fri 25-Jan-13 14:56:04

Maybe he wanted to ask how you would describe them - like if he thought 'hazel' but you preferred 'brown' or if he thought 'grey' and you thought more 'blue'. Anyway, he got the colour right didn't he? Your eyes are brown (and v dark, and v distinctive...). Not like he said "blue?".

mathsconundrum Fri 25-Jan-13 14:56:48

I've been with dp for 20 years. I'm not absolutely certain of his eye colour.

katiecubs Fri 25-Jan-13 14:59:29

I've read about this somewhere - unlike hair colour, eye colour is not often taken in and remembered so don't be too pissed off!

My dad did the same with my mum after 30 yrs together lol.

kim147 Fri 25-Jan-13 14:59:53

I'm not entirely sure what my eye colour is.

staverton Fri 25-Jan-13 16:20:22

Ok ok fair enough I will go easy on him when he comes home

My eyes are almost black. Pretty bloody obvious.

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Fri 25-Jan-13 16:22:25

I just asked dh what colour my eyes are. He told me they are brown.

They're grey. Ah well.

kim147 Fri 25-Jan-13 16:31:31

Ask him when your first kiss was grin

Or your first date.

slug Fri 25-Jan-13 16:38:39

Pah! DSis has different coloured eyes. We pointed this out to her DH on their wedding day. He hadn't noticed.

nqtatwitsend Fri 25-Jan-13 18:38:55

Some time ago 'brown eyed girl' came on the radio and my DP said how much he liked the song because it reminded him of me. My eyes are green... we'd been together for 5 years at that point. I was really hurt at the time but I'm over it now. He is the most unobservant person I know.

freddiefrog Fri 25-Jan-13 18:46:10

We have a foster child who we regularly have to report missing to the police. Last time I called I was asked their eye colour and realised I didn't have a clue. The police officer told me that it's something that happens a lot - he had a mum talking about her 14 year old son who was stumped at the eye colour question

BalloonSlayer Fri 25-Jan-13 18:52:58

DH and I were playing one of those "couples board games" that's supposed to make you get closer and end up having sex.

He got the question - what is your DW's eye colour?

Didn't know. hmm

Outcome - One tearful and offended me, blustering and apologising DH and NO shag.

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