To wonder why the fucking world is filled with spiteful rude fucking bitches who are bitchy with every given moment?

(263 Posts)
BITCHdumbBJTCH Mon 21-Jan-13 14:51:56

My dd was unplanned. She was born a month before our first wedding anniversary. I felt amongst all other emotions really embarrassed I conceived so quickly after marriage. Comments from family members saying things like "oh you couldn't wait could you?!!" And "your little one wanted to come along quickly eh?!!" Didn't help with my embarrassment.

Fast forward 6 years, but dd is 5 now. I just had a phone call from one of my sil's friends, who for some fucking reason has my phone number instead of hers. I haven't seen her or met her for about 10 years. So this is the little gem this woman comes out with whilst laughing uncontrollably :

"I found out you were married <laughter> and had a baby <laughter> really quickly. I mean how old is your daughter now?"

Fucking fucking cunt bitch.

All those insecurities I had about having my dd quickly came rushing back. This fucking bitch has 4 sprogs. FOUR. Who the fuck does she think she is? The baby making police? Fucking bitch.

[if I'm being unreasonable just tell me gently, as I have serious pmt right now so might not be viewing things properly]

???

Why...just why??

You know, it actually seems very ODD to me that these people pick on you conceiving two months after getting married. Not so long ago, pre-Pill, this would have been the norm. My sister was born just a couple of days before my parents' first anniversary. My mother was very proud of this fact as it proved they did not have to get married IYSWIM. They do know pregnancy lasts 9 months and not 12, don't they? Ooh, perhaps you could ask them that as your riposte, OP? grin

I remember your previous thread about your SIL. She deserves every swear word in this thread sad. What is your brother's (her husband's) take on her behaviour? Or is he as thick nasty as she is?

HildaOgden Wed 23-Jan-13 23:05:28

1.On some level,your sister-in-law feels inferior to you,or she wouldn't be trying to put you down.Remember that.

2.Block the number of sister-in-laws friend.

3.Take large doses of evening primrose to help with the PMT.

4.Don't feel embarrassed about successfully conceiving quickly on your DD.It isn't a shameful thing.

Sorelip Wed 23-Jan-13 23:08:12

I conceived DS less than a month after getting married.

Fuck what other people think.

nickelbabe Wed 23-Jan-13 23:09:21

iunderstand.

ynbu actually.

you feel angry and embarrassed because they'r taking ng thr piss.

and actually as your dh is your only sexual partner, you feel like they're mocking your suddenly becoming sexually active and therefore must be doing it loads now you've found out what it's like.
like your sex life has been made public.

I understand because when I was younger, before i was with my ex, I used d to say I would never get married because it it's ould be like i was telling everybody I knew that I would be having sex.

it's okay.

confused

Marriage = sex

Really?

MidnightMasquerader Wed 23-Jan-13 23:27:15

Slightly O/T, but...

...is Michael Winner dead...?

Yep. He died yesterday.

MidnightMasquerader Wed 23-Jan-13 23:43:33

shock

I am not in the UK.

Dd2 was born 9 months after we got married. That was a great honeymoon ;)
I never saw it as an issue but we did already have dd1. They are 15 months apart. I've had comments about how close they are in age, but not about how quickly after wedding we had dd2. They were planned that way. I don't understand your embarrassment, or what she found funny. Sil's friend sounds a bit soft in the head.

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 10:58:29

Exit - empathy, dear, empathy.

Clumsyoaf Thu 24-Jan-13 11:28:31

I think I get where you are coming from OP (I may even know your sil!!).

I have a close friend whose brother had an arranged marriage (Sikh), he was from down south and she lived up someplace near Bradford. They met a couple of times before the wedding (which by the way was completely mind blowing – sorry another thread) and ten months later out popped a baby. My friend couldn’t believe that they hardly knew each other but had jumped into bed with one another and that they should have taken time to get to know one another before bringing a third person into the relationship!

I have to say I haven’t quite got my head around it fully as they are now married and when they married they did so for life so the timings etc are no one elses business. But my friend always pokes fun and kind of implies that the brother and wife aren’t worldly etc

Like I said I don’t get it – but enjoy your little one and being married!

Clumsyoaf Thu 24-Jan-13 11:29:59

Oh and I have told my friend I dont get it but apparently im a "little slow as you americans are!" shock lol but I have thick skin wink

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