to find the kids annoying when I've had them all day?

(232 Posts)
BlackMaryJanes Sat 19-Jan-13 14:12:19

I'm a SAHM. DH leaves for work at 7am and arrives back home at 6pm. Up until recently DH would take the kids to the supermarket for an hour when he got home in every evening to give me a break. An absolute lifeline for me. Now, he doesn't want to do that anymore. During our argument I said to him that after having the kids all day, I find them annoying. To which he responded, "Do you hate motherhood that much?!"

So, AIBU to find them annoying after having them all day? Does this mean I 'hate motherhood'? By the end of the day I feel touched-out, exhausted, irritable and in need of some breathing space. The kids are 2.5 and 12 months. I'm still BFing the 12 month old.

manormuppet Sun 20-Jan-13 10:05:01

Sorry just realised who the op is. This thread will be like the others, op will be utterly negative about her situation, loads of good suggestions all ignored, no point suggesting nursery or a cleaner or anything really. Op will vanish, name change and post much the same in a few weeks.

SunbathingintheRain Sun 20-Jan-13 10:20:22

Oh, yes, I think I recognise this person (from previous threads) too. I also recognise my feeling of combined empathy for her situation (I'm currently a SAHM of a toddler and a baby living in a small flat too) and frustration at the OP's seeming unwillingness to take any suggestions on board.

Correct me if I'm wrong OP? Is any of the wonderful advice of others on this thread making a difference?

HollaAtMeBaby Sun 20-Jan-13 12:40:38

OP, is this thread from October yours?

If it is, I'm sorry things are still so difficult..

MuggledWoman Sun 20-Jan-13 12:54:45

To look at this from his point of view, when I get home from work, the last thing I would want to do is take DS to the supermarket!! I'm aware that there may be good reasons why you can't but have you thought about part-time work? That's my escape!

ukatlast Sun 20-Jan-13 13:22:10

I found it worked better for me to leave kids with DH and escape to the supermarket myself...try it you might like it, particularly if you are in no rush and grab a cuppa too. Him taking them instead sounds like a nightmare.

BadztMaru Sun 20-Jan-13 13:54:15

Hi op, I know when you're worn out everything feels shit but you sound a little martyr-ish. If you need the toilet then make sure the kids are safe and go. If you want a sit down and some peace, put cbeebies or whatever on and have a coffee.
It'll seem like a very short time before your eldest starts nursery, your workload will lessen. When they're both at nursery/ achool you'll have a lot of free time.
No one likes wi

BadztMaru Sun 20-Jan-13 13:55:39

Wiping bums but it will pass. Then you can have a little think about what you want to be doing, working, hobbies, watching daytime tv.

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