to want my in-laws to just go home now...

(98 Posts)
Florabeebaby Thu 17-Jan-13 19:58:00

they have been here for 7 weeks...the flight is on Sunday.

We have a 2 bed flat, DD 2yr and DS 3m...AIBU to want them to go home now and give me my home and my TV back?

If they ever come back again it's not for more than 2 weeks...otherwise DH will be faced with divorce papers.

That is all.

Euphemia Thu 17-Jan-13 20:00:42

Seven weeks good grief you poor woman. I assume they live in another country?

marriedinwhite Thu 17-Jan-13 20:01:55

YABU. But only because you are clearly a saint to have managed to put up with them for 7 weeks. I think you are entirely reasonable to want them to go home now but you have clearly done exceptionally well for 35 days and nights and it would be a shame to lose the upper hand by pissing on your own parade now when there are are only three more sleeps to go.

thanks recurring and in spades.

DeafLeopard Thu 17-Jan-13 20:03:11

7 weeks shock

Sunday not too far away

Florabeebaby Thu 17-Jan-13 20:03:55

Yep...3 hour flight away.

They were supposed to be here to help me but all they really have been doing is shopping and eating...and expecting entertainment. I enterntain my DD, not them! Not that I can even speak the language...sounds brilliant, eh!

Really struggling, I know it's only 2 days but really struggling....

Poor poor you.

Could you go and stay with your parents the next two days?

Mynewmoniker Thu 17-Jan-13 20:11:36

What about flooding your house by loosening a few radiator pipes or removing a main fuse to effect a 'power cut'.

OR

Feed yourself lots of garlic and have long face to face conversations with them.

They'll only WANT to stop for two weeks next time. grin

Squeakygate Thu 17-Jan-13 20:13:36

Do you have any friends to call upon / who can pop round? Dilution with more people certainly helps me.

Spuddybean Thu 17-Jan-13 20:14:13

holy fuckamole! 7 weeks!!! shock

ISeeSmallPeople Thu 17-Jan-13 20:14:36

Poor you.
3 hours is hardly longhaul. They could have driven home for the weekend!
Don't consider moving to a bigger place. Next time kids will be bigger & you have NO room. But there is a nice hotel down the road...

CunningPlan Thu 17-Jan-13 20:15:04

Only three hours away? I was fully expecting you I say they lives in Australia.

YANBU. But also what married said.

Next OP you'll be putting your foot down, won't you OP grin

MrsMushroom Thu 17-Jan-13 20:16:59

Yanbu. I had MIL with us for two months once.

It never happened again.

Sounds like an absolute nightmare - you deserve a medal!

You are nearly there! You can do it! (Go to bed early to escape? I guess the dcs are in your bedroom though?)

happynewmind Thu 17-Jan-13 20:21:23

7 weeks??? I love my mum dearly but after 5 days at Christmas we had both had enough!

Where do people get off imposing themselves on others for this length of time, I'd have a hard time hiding my rage at the invasion. I would never allow this, how can you even enjoy your new baby with other people around your house constantly.

SpottyBagOfTumble Thu 17-Jan-13 20:28:30

shock ya d nbu!

marriedinwhite Thu 17-Jan-13 20:30:38

Could you phone your mum and plot a cunning crisis that means you have to go to hers until Sunday morning and give them the impression you are the perfect daughter as well as dil and come back on Sunday morning or Saturday evening revived and charming to see them on their way.

They will remember the ending OP - for a very long time. Put yourself first for the next few days so it is a good one. >>>>>>hugs<<<<<<<<

GregBishopsBottomBitch Thu 17-Jan-13 20:33:06

Dont think i'd manage 7 minutes, you must have the grace of a saint.

LucyGoose Thu 17-Jan-13 20:35:59

Sorry, they only live a 3 hr flight away? Why the heck were they there for 7 weeks? After 9 days at xmas with inlaws I was a raving madwoman.

If you want to vent, this is the place - go on, we can commiserate.

Living a 3 hour flight away is not grounds for a 7 week visit. 1 is acceptable. 2 if you're generous and patient. 7? You must be mad grin

Florabeebaby Fri 18-Jan-13 07:25:33

Sorry Idisappeared...FIL took the laptop for all night! As usual...

My mum lives another 3 hour flight away (in another country) so I'm stuck...count to 10 and breathe!

Last night just was too much, we had a doctors appointemnt for DS who was born prematurely and didn't get home tilll late so dinner was frozen pizza and salad. FIL truned his nose up at it and demanded an omelette instead...I did not cook it, MIL did. He gets treated like a child!!
No thought on their part to prepare someting while we were all out. they didn't want to have DD either so she came to the hospital with us!
They have been out with DD twice in the whole 7 weeks...to the shops and then were surprised she was whinging all the time.

I am NEVER doing this EVER again!!!!

WaynettaSlobsLover Fri 18-Jan-13 07:28:35

Oh my god I genuinely don't know how you survived!! Well done OP. where are your pil from? And yanbu!

AThingInYourLife Fri 18-Jan-13 07:32:40

Let them stay in a hotel from now on.

If they won't muck in like family, they shouldn't be treated as such.

Doyouthinktheysaurus Fri 18-Jan-13 07:34:28

shock 7 weeks!

My mum stayed for 2 nights once when I'd been in hospital and she wanted to help, I begged her to go homegrin I can't share my home with anyone!

You deserve a medal op, I have no clue how you have survived!

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