To not share my job application form with a friend who wants the same job?

[PenguinBear]

My friend wants to apply for the same job as me (in education) and has asked me to email her a copy of my form and covering letter.

I am reluctant to do this. I'm happy to give her a list of everything I covered etc but don't want her to have my application form. She is applying in the same area I work in and if I want to apply for another job it could end up as two of us sending out a near identical covering letter and person spec as I wouldn't know what bits she had used etc.

AIBU to not send it to her?

[apostropheuse]

YANBU It's her responsibility to complete the form herself. She should also be able to write her own covering letter.

Perhaps you could offer to advise her in a more general way of how to make her application, but she really can't expect you to let her see your form if she's competing for the same job.

Good luck with it!

[EverybodysSnowyEyed]

YANBU

It's dog eat dog out there! If you were feeling generous you could chat hrough your approach or direct her to some websites tha may give advice on covering letters etc

[ilovesooty]

Headteachers are used to receiving "shared" applications. They go in the bin.

If she can't write her own application she isn't up to the job. I wouldn't tell her anything about what you've covered either.

[Catchingmockingbirds]

Yanbu, just tell her you don't feel comfortable doing that.

[Salmotrutta]

God, how old is she?!

If she needs to completely crib your whole application she can't be up to much anyway!

Fair enough if she asked for an objective opinion from a third party but not looking at another applicant's letter and form ...

[StuffezLaBouche]

Bloody Hell, I wouldn't even share the areas you've covered. What a lazy person she is!

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

YANBU. I can't believe someone would even ask this!
I've shared applications with friends in totally different areas, or after I've already secured a job, but would never agree to this.

[MarilynValentine]

YANBU.

Don't even give her a list of what you covered! I assume you're not her mummy?

What reason has she given for being unable to put it together herself?

[RubyrooUK]

No way!

I'd just tell her you haven't finished it yet and good luck with her application.

[ArkadyRose]

"Sorry, no, that's not appropriate. Best of luck with your application." Refuse to get drawn further.

[Samnella]

YANBU.


Just smile and say don't be daft.

[ENormaSnob]

Tell her to grow up.

[letseatgrandma]

What a cheek!

Wha have you said to her?!

[thegreylady]

Form yes but not the letter-how dare she even ask!

[thegreylady]

blank form I meant of course

[MsVestibule]

A very close friend and I once applied for the same job. It really wouldn't have crossed either of our minds to ask the other for help in completing the application form, let alone ask for a copy of it!

How old is she?

[LeChatRouge]

How ridiculous. How can she ask you to do this? Please don't feel like you have to! If you really think you are applying for the same role, don't help her at all. It's not mean, imagine how you'll feel if she gets it and you don't!

Email back and say that now you've had a chance to think about it, you don't want to know what she's writing in hers and can't share yours either.

[SquinkiesRule]

What a crazy request. I hop you didn't send it to her.

[PureQuintessence]

Blardy hell, you want to "help her cheat"

Dont!

I will tell you a true story.
When I was 20, in my circle of friends I had two young aspiring actresses. They had both been in films, theater productions, and wanted to apply for a highly coveted once in a life time application to a certain drama school. They practiced together. My best friend was doing a very heartfelt monologue, and her friend a comedy piece. Then the audition. Her friend first. Performed HER monologue. My friend was watching her friend on stage doing HER monologue. She got standing ovation and straight acceptance. She beamed at my friend, as she stumbled out on stage shell-shocked and unable to perform.

Guess who today is a very famous film and theater actress in my home country, and who has just about made a living doing school productions and obscure theater.

Dont show your hand, lady!

[PenguinBear]

Thank you! Though I don't think I was clear enough in my op, I already have a job and she wants to apply for the same job in different schools!

I still hope you think I am not being unreasonable!

[EverybodysSnowyEyed]

That does make a difference!

I wouldn't send her your application and covering letter because it does need to be her own work, but talking through it with her wouldn't be so bad would it?

[EverybodysSnowyEyed]

And well done on getting the job!

[PenguinBear]

Thanks for the well done, although I can't accept it as it was many moons ago!!