To let dc2 cio at 18 mnths?

[stella1w]

Am at wits ends... Dc will usually only go to sleep in my bed at around 10pm whereupon he wakes several times in the night to feed.
A few times he has fallen asleep in his cot but when he wakes at 11 won,t go to sleep there.
A couple of times he has stayed in his cot and i have ignored him so i have had those nights childfree in my own bed.
But usually i amn shattered. Can get nothing done in the evenings.
If i let him cio it goeson for more than an hour. Have tried staying there, or popping back but that doesn,t work.
Would never have cio,d with dc1 but i don,t think i can take anymore. He is in room with dc1 so not alone

[littlewhitebag]

Would help if you could decode this post. What is cio? I know it as Chief Information Officer and i am sure it not that.

[sherazade]

did dc1 have to listen to dc2 cio?

[SashaSashays]

What is CIO?

[SashaSashays]

Wait is it 'cry it out'?

[gordyslovesheep]

cry it out?

[FriedSprout]

Am guessing " cry it out" ?

[stella1w]

Cry it out and dcone can sleep through it.

[stella1w]

Am now sat next to cot with hand on dctwo.... He is quiet but will prob wake if i move

[Softlysoftly]

Think you need to night wean first, he doesn't need feeding in the night if he's eating well in the day. If go over to bottle and breastfeeding and get help on night weaning.

Then when that's done if things don't improve look into options such as gradual withdrawal.

YANBU to want to resolve his sleeping issues and most resolutions involve a few tears but from your choice to comfort feed in the night for so long to cry it out seems a little harsh.

[Softlysoftly]

*I'd not if.

[beatofthedrum]

You sound at end of tether, poor you. Came on to answer yes yabu then read your post and felt so sympathetic. Severe sleeping problems are awful. Like you, I do not like the idea of leaving them to cry...sounds like you feel you have run out of options. Have you tried that 'pick up put down' thing? I didn't find it hugely successful I must admit but some people have found it worked well. Doesn't sound as if your heart is in leaving him/her to cry, and not nice for other dc either. Sorry to be unhelpful, I do feel for you.

[catgirl1976]

We did controlled crying (returning to reassure after set intervals, which gradually increase)

It was HELL the first couple of nights but did work

I think you will have an issue with it disturbing DC1 though, plus it sounds like you need to gently break the habit of feeding at night before you address the sleep issue.

[HelenLynn]

We did controlled crying as catgirl describes much earlier than 18 months, and I'd have no qualms about doing it at that age. If I had to repeat it with DS now, the same age as your DC2 and increasingly verbal, I would include lots of verbal repetition about what was going on. I'm not sure how it would work around several night feeds though.