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AIBU? Yes probably but....

(47 Posts)
BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 19:15:11

....its really starting to get on my wick!

I have a small crafty type business/hobby which I sell mostly on Facebook. Only started a few months ago and its going well.

In the last few days I have been asked on 4 separate occasions where I buy my supplies from.. Everyone who has asked has been direct competition.

AIBU to be a selfish bitch and not tell them?

Tbh, they aren't hard to find if you bang some key words into Ebay so why message me?

I wouldn't dream of asking where someone got their stock, I would just try and find them myself if I wanted them that bad! As it happens I'm not a copycat and use my own head!

<dons flameproof suit for selfish bitch replies>

Catchingmockingbirds Sat 12-Jan-13 19:18:42

If it's competition asking you then no I don't think yabu in not telling them.

Bearmonkeysmum Sat 12-Jan-13 19:20:52

Yanbu & definitely not a selfish bitch!

How cheeky of them!

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Sat 12-Jan-13 19:20:54

Just say that a friend of the family gets it for you.

BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 19:24:20

Ah feel bit better now!

I also think its very cheeky!

Use some bloody initiative!

I may start telling them that I get them handmade in my own home by squirrels!

BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 19:26:07

<Completely of subject>

MrsR

I have just had a nosey at your profile coz I'm nosey - just about to pm you if thats ok. smile

badtemperedaldbitch Sat 12-Jan-13 19:27:00

Yes, let them do their own hard work...

Say.... I can tell you, but then I'd have to kill you
Twitch when you say it too

DamnBamboo Sat 12-Jan-13 19:27:12

Just don't respond. YANBU to not tell them

Chottie Sat 12-Jan-13 19:32:51

No, you are not. You are running a business not a charity.

namechanger11111 Sat 12-Jan-13 19:47:40

I do something similar and i get people asking all the time.

I just say I'm sorry but it took me a long time to find my suppliers.

Most people are ok with that but i had one who kept going on with but why can't you tell me. I just ignored her from then on.

The thing is it has taken me a long time and a lot of research and money so there's no way I'm going to tell someone my suppliers and have them sell the same items as me in the same place.

Just say no they're rude to even ask.

RedToothbrush Sat 12-Jan-13 19:47:57

Don't tell them. Just because they are friends doesn't give them the right to ask you things that could impact on your income. Its as simple as that.

HOWEVER if you are selling just on facebook, you probably are relying a great deal on goodwill and friendships, so I would say to seriously consider broadening your horizons so that a) you feel under less obligation b) people who you are selling too also don't feel like you potentially 'owe them' something in terms of their custom and/or contacts (FTR you don't).

The problem with mixing business and pleasure is it always ends up putting you in some sort of awkward situation.

BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 19:58:26

Red they aren't friends - just random other page owners that are asking, people who do the same craft!

Most of my customers are strangers who have come across my page because I have worked my arse off to get it out there, so I am buggered if I am going to make it easy for someone else. <bitch again> wink

namechanger I'm glad there is someone else who feels the same! that is it!

Theicingontop Sat 12-Jan-13 20:00:24

I had another cake lady ask me how to do one of the designs I put on my cakes. She started her message with "I know this might sound cheeky but..." Yeah damn right it's cheeky! Yanbu.

gimmecakeandcandy Sat 12-Jan-13 20:01:08

Could you pm me a link to your page? Would love to see what you sell x

Theicingontop Sat 12-Jan-13 20:01:58

Ooh me too me too smile

NcNcNcNc Sat 12-Jan-13 20:06:57

I have this all the time! I took ages to source my supplies and then direct competitors contact me through etsy and ask if I'll tell them where from!

They usually start with a 'Sorry to be cheeky but...'

BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 20:13:56

Lazy bastards! angry

MarmaladeSkies Sat 12-Jan-13 20:14:36

YADNBU.It'd be madness to give your competition that information.

And can I please have a pm with the link too?

BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 20:20:40

You nosey buggers! grin

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Sat 12-Jan-13 20:25:14

Nosey buggers - or potential customers Bonkey!!!

Get your Sir Alan head on woman!

<despairs>

wink

Oh and YANBU,

MarmaladeSkies Sat 12-Jan-13 20:29:24

Gorgeous stuff,but I think you're not charging enough for some items.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Sat 12-Jan-13 20:31:13

Marmalade - agree, I think you could charge more Bonkey.

I have bought several items from her and can highly recommend them for quality.

NcNcNcNc Sat 12-Jan-13 20:32:18

send me a pm ! <hopes you're not one of my competitors> grin

BonkeyMollocks Sat 12-Jan-13 20:33:41

Pm'd you Marmalade!

Brian Are you after freebies? wink

namechanger11111 Sat 12-Jan-13 20:33:52

Can you send me a pm too please so i can be nosy.

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