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To expect a thank you ...

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Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 21:23:25

I lent somebody my car for two months as I wasn't using it. It is quite a nice car.

They returned it today with a bit of damage which does devalue it, but not significant enough to warrant an insurance claim, and didn't even say thank you. They just put in half a tank if fuel which us what was in it when they borrowed it (but not a drop more).

I didn't expect much, maybe a bottle of wine, but at least the words thank you.

I feel like sending a snotty text.

AIBU?

PleasePudding Fri 11-Jan-13 21:24:57

YANBU that's awful! Could they possibly be planning you a surprise thank you?

mum382013 Fri 11-Jan-13 21:25:14

i would demand the damage repaired as well

Sirzy Fri 11-Jan-13 21:25:54

I would be asking them to pay for the repair!

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr Fri 11-Jan-13 21:26:59

They should return it in the condition they received it in, would definitely ask for them to pay for the damage.

Coconutty Fri 11-Jan-13 21:27:20

yeah,I would be seriously tucked off tbh.

VBisme Fri 11-Jan-13 21:32:07

Let me guess, brother or sister?

You do deserve to be reimbursed.

SpottyBagOfTumble Fri 11-Jan-13 21:32:36

I would be upset. And would also sake them to pay for the damage.

Flobbadobs Fri 11-Jan-13 21:38:06

Has to be family. Can't believe they didn't get it repaired! Fecking cheek, YANBU.

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 21:58:22

Not family. Boss actually ...

Definitely not planning a surprise thank you. The damage was repaired but is still visible ... it's a convertible car and the hood got slashed but he felt that to put a new hood on was out the question as it wasn't his fault so got a patch put on instead.

More cheesed off by the lack if thanks, just handed back the keys and said here you go.

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 21:59:29

Grrr iPad autocorrects of to if ...

What can I say given the fact he is my boss so can't really go off on a rant ...

LittleChimneyDroppings Fri 11-Jan-13 22:00:24

He is taking the piss. I would send him the bill for a new hood.

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 22:05:40

Should I send an email saying I think you forgot to say thanks?

I asked if he would pay for or towards a new hood and he said no.

bumperella Fri 11-Jan-13 22:24:53

I'd be livid. 2 months of a free loan of a car. And he returns it damaged. Without an explanation, or apology. And he doens;t say thinkyou????? The guy is a twat.

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 22:33:44

What can I do? My DH thinks I should forget it. I'm pissed though ...

"he felt that to put a new hood on was out the question as it wasn't his fault"
Maybe not his fault (in that he didn't personally slash it) but still his RESPONSIBILITY (because he presumably parked it somwjhere that people slash convertible hoods). How much would it have cost him to hire a car for that length of time? He should be willing to pay AT LEAST up to that sum towards the hood repair.

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 22:38:53

the guy is a twat

Totally

bumperella Fri 11-Jan-13 23:33:39

What to do? Depends on how much you need your job, really... if it was anyone else then you'd be demanding the hood is fixed as it is his responsibility. But.... he's your boss. How uncomfortable can he make your life if you kisk up bother for him?

I would be furious. Did you offer or did he ask?
My dh let someone borrow our car once for a few days and they returned it with most of the petrol gone. People are unbelievable.

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 23:46:37

He could make my life difficult.

I guess I was being nice, I didn't expect him to clock up so many miles and abuse my trust.

I'm really, really pissed by the arrogance of not saying thank you but can't really email or say anything about it (I won't see him for a while now).

Chickchickadee Fri 11-Jan-13 23:47:22

I guess I will just have to rely on karma but I'm not sure that ever really works out.

HollyTheHedgehog Fri 11-Jan-13 23:52:10

What a prick. Normally Id encourage you to send a text, I cant stay quiet when someones been ungrateful or wronged me, but when its your boss its not good. Could be more hassle.

Id tick it off as a learnt lesson.

Seriously though, what a wanker.

DeafLeopard Fri 11-Jan-13 23:54:31

what holly said

ifso Sat 12-Jan-13 00:06:01

don't worry OP

I would try try try and forget aout it - BUT - I would do LESS in your role for a while, if he is your boss, to oh, I dunno, accidentally 'forget' something he needs for a meeting, or oh I dunno, accidentally spill a coffee over some important paperwork he needs that day...

You'll think of something to help you get over this

And yes, he is 100% a wanker

PiccadillyCervix Sat 12-Jan-13 00:06:30

the karma fairy will kick his ass I'm sure

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