to ask if you use the toilet in front of your partner?

(112 Posts)
CharlLaneoxo Thu 10-Jan-13 23:44:03

(Read a comment on my previous thread and it got me thinking)

I always lock the bathroom door, but I think that's just a habit because I lock it even when there's no one else in the house.

I would possibly wee in front of oh but never have done.

As for anything else - hell no.

He's pissed with me in the same room countless times but I draw the line at him having a shit whilst I'm brushing my teeth, or in the bath etc.

In a way I think it can almost kiss the romance.

MrsPoglesWood Fri 11-Jan-13 02:10:05

To be honest I think the sooner you get used to each other's erm intimate moments the better. When you've been together 10+ years it shouldn't be a surprise that you poo, have the runs, fart or vomit. We all do it and witnessing it the odd time isn't going to suddenly kill the love and affection. And if it does then there's something wrong with you to be honest.

I think mine and DP's relationship is so much the better for it. There is no sneaking about, holding out for a poo for hours til one of us leaves the house, pretending we don't fart or anything like that. We are just open, honest and most often have a laugh about it.

I would absolutely hate to be in the position of my BF's parents who maintained the facade for years that neither weed, pooed, farted or vomited until her DF was diagnosed with cancer. Her DM then had to nurse him after surgery and through radiotherapy and chemo when he lost every ounce of dignity he had strived to maintain through 50 years of marriage. Having to care for him intimately - cleaning and toileting him and ultimately changing his colostomy bag - was as hard for her as having to watch him go through the treatments.

And if me and DP seeing each other on the loo saves us from that trauma then I'm glad!

Kytti Fri 11-Jan-13 02:27:23

? confused Really? confused Nobody wees and poos in front of their OH? REALLY? confused confused confused We've been doing it since about week 4. Both. Always. Why the stress?

Don't get it.

lol

ComposHat Fri 11-Jan-13 02:32:19

I haven't ever passed wind I front of him either or been sick in front or him. I just find it too shameful

Blimey has a portal transported. you fromte Regency period?

Go on be a devil tomorrow night and have a right rip snorting d'oyly carte tomorrow whilst eating tea. You won't know yourself.

anonymosity Fri 11-Jan-13 02:36:58

wees only, poos - never!

MammaTJ Fri 11-Jan-13 04:18:24

No, no, no!! Just NO!!!!

Lavenderhoney Fri 11-Jan-13 05:30:37

Pombears, mine do that even though we have 3 loos it has to be the one I am in.
I like an air of mystery as wellsmile dh doesn't see a problem and comes into the bathroom where I am doing my face and plonks down to chat at the same time. Cue me - there are other loos!!!

I did it all when I was prgnt though. Stopped after. I couldn't get my own pants on as I was too big to bend, so I had to have intimate helpsmile

LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas Fri 11-Jan-13 05:32:15

No been together nealy 20 years and not gonna happen. Tis the quickest way to get him out of the bathroom though, just go to pull down my pants and sit down grin

catgirl1976 Fri 11-Jan-13 06:00:56

No

I could wee in an emergency but that's it

meadow2 Fri 11-Jan-13 06:25:30

I dont think its a big deal.It doesnt kill romance and its normal

Shutupanddrive Fri 11-Jan-13 07:49:17

No!!!

MrsKeithRichards Fri 11-Jan-13 08:18:51

Pee all the time, never poo. We don't even have a lock on the bathroom door, it's hardly ever shut properly!

diddl Fri 11-Jan-13 08:32:00

Yes.

We don´t make a habit of it & we don´t watch each other wipe our arses, but if one is in the shower, at the sink, wanders in for a chat, we don´t care.

He´s seen me give birth-& I pooed then!

When the children were little & he would get to the loo when arriving home from work, they´d both run up with him & sit on his knee telling him about their day.

Now the cat sits on his knee when he poos.grin

shotofexpresso Fri 11-Jan-13 09:01:24

Wee -yes , but I always have my legs tightly together and I have to have my legs tightly together whilst *ahem wiping.

anything else....no!

he likes to come in when I'm in the bath though! Ima start locking the door!

thegreylady Fri 11-Jan-13 09:05:07

No never-either of us.I don't lock the door if I am having a wee but I close it. Farting is fine IMHO as long as it is just us there neither of us minds at all.

madonnawhore Fri 11-Jan-13 09:12:55

We wee in front of each other. DP will happily have a poo with the bathroom door wide open so I'm treated to the sight of him on the throne playing chess on his iPad.

After the first few instances of this I cracked and pleaded of him 'Why? Why are you subjecting me to this? Do you hate me? Do mine eyes deserve it?!'

And he looked really hurt and said 'No, I just feel really comfortable around you'.

So now I let him get on with it. I don't really mind tbh. We're both quite down to earth about bodily functions and stuff. No prudery here. It's impossible. Especially when DSD loves to announce when she's done a fart or a poo.

Sigh.

Bunbaker Fri 11-Jan-13 09:17:00

"no some things just are not for sharing."

I agree. Have never done so, never will.

Twattybollocks Fri 11-Jan-13 09:32:18

Yes I do. I've given birth in front of him, having a pee is small fry really. I don't poo in front of him if I can possibly avoid it, as no one likes to smell someone else's shit, but if he was in the shower and I was desperate, I might!

januaryjojo Fri 11-Jan-13 09:36:26

Nope, 17 years together never done either.

Yet my friend quite happily will use the toilet in my house or hers and leave the door wide open to talk to me..........it's a bit odd.........

EasilyBored Fri 11-Jan-13 09:36:27

No. Never ever ever. Some things are just private. I have a hard enough time convincing DS that he doesn't need to flush the loo four times while on sat on it. Husband thinks it weird to even use the loo in front of DS (who is one), so not a chance in hell of us doing toilet things in front of each other.

FriendlyLadybird Fri 11-Jan-13 09:39:36

No. Though very early on in our relationship I had terrible food poisoning -- stuff coming out of me in all directions while I was fainting because of dehydration. He looked after me the whole night and cleaned up everything -- and didn't say a word about it. I knew then that he was a keeper.

Fakebook Fri 11-Jan-13 09:40:26

Never. DH has wee'd whilst I was showering though. Some things must be kept private.

Both my children however, have seen me poo and wee from the day they were born.

scarletforya Fri 11-Jan-13 09:42:08

No way. Ever. No one wants to be present when someone else craps!

curiousuze Fri 11-Jan-13 09:42:13

Never and I hope I never have to! Who wants to smell see that??

Flobbadobs Fri 11-Jan-13 09:43:58

Yep, both as does he. After 15 years and 3 labours I have nothing to hide!
DH takes his laptop to the loo if he thinks he's going to be there a while, we actually chose our new tent while he was on the loo! (And yes, he cleans the keyboard with antibac wipes regularly).

MrsMelons Fri 11-Jan-13 09:44:16

NO NO NO

I like to have a few minutes privacy now and then and like the thought of mine and DHs intimacy not being weeing/pooing in front of each other. I wee in front of my friends and when I lived with lots of girls we would wee when each other were in the shower etc but not with partners.

I lock the door so the DCs can't disturb me!

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