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To think that taking ages in the family shower cubicle at the gym when you know there is another family waiting, is selfish and bad manners?

(31 Posts)
hermioneweasley Sat 05-Jan-13 21:39:59

That's pretty much it. Gym has one family shower area, big enough for 3 or 4, seat for the kids, can take shower unit down to hose kids down etc. more convenient than trying to manage them in the small stalls with fixed heads - picking up slippery kids to get them under the spray etc. when we got out of the pool, this shower area was in use. Must have been there for at least 5 mns already. Woman saw we were waiting (looked around the curtain and then pulled it shut again) and just stayed in there for ages, lathering. Gave up in the end and took the kids into the small stalls. By the time we were out and half dressed she and daughter emerged. Must have been at least 20 mins. She was also talking her to DD (who looked about 6) about the benefits of "fat burning exercise".

AIBU to think she was selfish when she could see another family waiting? I don't take 20 mins at home!

(I don't care if I ABU re fat burning exercise - I judged and will continue to judge about putting this in a young girl's awareness).

hermioneweasley Sun 06-Jan-13 16:27:23

Thanks for the replies - different strokes for different folks I guess!

Don't get me started on people who leave their stuff in the changing rooms while they go off and shower!

Binkybix Sun 06-Jan-13 07:54:55

Separately I get annoyed when people leave their stuff out on (limited) benches rather than in the plentiful lockers. Then look annoyed if it gets at all damp/have been moved out of the way by people actually needing the space to change.

Binkybix Sun 06-Jan-13 07:52:06

20 minutes seems a very long time to be in there to me. I've got long thick hair and can still do it in less than 5.

ChristmasJubilee Sun 06-Jan-13 07:29:36

Shower when you get home.

Mosman Sun 06-Jan-13 06:59:45

Find another gym, when I look around them, the showers is more important to me than the equipment.

SomersetONeil Sun 06-Jan-13 06:54:04

Personally, I agree with you and think you are not being unreasonable in the slightest - but that is because I absolutely hate, hate, hate to keep people waiting. It makes me a bit panicky and uncomfortable.

My DH on the other hand, would say you were being utterly unreasonable. His opinion is that you take the time you need to take, and don't worry about keeping people you don't even know waiting. Don't get me wrong - he doesn't advocate taking the piss but he really hates it when I rush and stress to save other people and get myself all bothered and flustered in the process.

I can see his logic, but it makes no difference to my brain which hates to needlessly inconvenience others.

So - I can see and totally relate to your side, but am also aware of the other school of thought on this issue and can see their side, too. In fact, sometimes I wish I was more like them...

Imaginethat Sun 06-Jan-13 03:09:18

It may be annoying but it's not the fault of other gym users, it's just terrible facilities. There should of course be more showers etc

LuluMai Sun 06-Jan-13 02:59:01

This is not answering the OP's question but another thing that annoys me about swimming baths is when people leaves their kids' clothes in the cubicles instead of lockers, thus rendering them unusable for anyone else (well not me cause I'll still use the cubicles whether or not there are clothes in there- you don't get to reserve cubicles).

FreePeaceSweet Sun 06-Jan-13 02:26:07

If its free then surely it makes sense to use the bigger shower? You'll be out faster.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights Sun 06-Jan-13 00:43:56

Surely we don't need to label showers as 'Larger Family/Mixed Sex/SN' for people to use their common sense?? One adult and one 6 year old do not need to use a bigger shower cubicle than an ordinary one - thus it is selfish to do so and make others wait.

tittytittyhanghang Sun 06-Jan-13 00:39:44

Worra i call my child fatty boom boom hes 2 and thats his favourite song :D

mumeeee Sun 06-Jan-13 00:05:01

YABU 20 minutes is not that long and she was there first.

WorraLiberty Sat 05-Jan-13 23:57:17

YABU, you managed didn't you?

Not sure what your problem is with discussing fat burning exercise...it's not different to discussing muscle building exercise or cardiovascular exercise.

It's not like she called the child fatty boom boom or anything.

If she did, then my apologies.

CloudsAndTrees Sat 05-Jan-13 23:52:40

Yabu. I don't think it's selfish, it's just doing what you need to do. I take ages in the shower because I have really thick long hair, so it takes a while to wash and condition and get all the post swimming knots out.

I wouldn't go home without washing it properly just because someone else was waiting if I have as much right to use facilities as anyone else.

I realise I'm talking about myself more than me as part of a family, bit that's because I have boys so I get to send them off to be showered with DH! The same principle still applies though, as it does when we all use a family changing room.

tittytittyhanghang Sat 05-Jan-13 23:16:00

YABU, its first come first served. Its a family shower, so i would assume it was a mother and daugter i.e. family. Its not a larger family shower or a shower for sn neither. She is entitled to take as long as she likes imo.

gordyslovesheep Sat 05-Jan-13 22:38:07

surely two people don't normally share a shower if the big shower is available?

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights Sat 05-Jan-13 22:37:41

I mean, I'm the size of a small truck and I'd just take one 6 year old into the normal shower cubical and leave the family one free - for someone with a couple of small children to manage or someone who has an older or less mobile child with SN or even say an older couple where one needs help - I just don't see the need to use it with just one 6 yo. Selfish IMO.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights Sat 05-Jan-13 22:36:07

Surely if she only had one child she didn't even need to go in the family shower?

itsmineitsmine Sat 05-Jan-13 22:32:19

Yabu and precious. You had other means to get your dc clean. She was there first.

lockets Sat 05-Jan-13 22:21:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MajesticWhine Sat 05-Jan-13 22:19:29

YABU - you had no more right to be in there and I doubt they stayed in there out of bad manners, nobody wants to hang around in the shower for ages with their kids do they?

1944girl Sat 05-Jan-13 22:18:13

I used to go to a gym where there was only one shower, a large communal one.I stopped going because;

You had to wait ages as it was always full.
More importantly, the reason for the long wait was because all the shower occupants were shaving their body hair.
They would then leave their used razors on the floor, despite notices being put up about the dangers of this.

I complained to manager about the dirty razors and was told it was a cultural thing with the offenders.They had to shave their body hair.If they were found leaving dirty razors they would be banned from using the gym.Surprise surprise they were never caught.

It was a pity as it was a council owned gym where you only paid for each visit eg. no suscriptions.(sp)

hammyimo Sat 05-Jan-13 22:14:36

God yanbu. After group swimming lessons at our pool there are only 2 showers. There's one girl, who I swear is trained to leap out of the pool and get in their first. she then takes at least 20 minutes to wash her hair, condition it, use shower gel - taking time out from time to time to dab her eyes - whilst all the others stand there freezing. It makes me spit bile - not at her but her dm who allows it.

gordyslovesheep Sat 05-Jan-13 22:13:42

yabu a bit - you can manage - depending on kids ages they can stand under a shower themselves and you can even not wash them at all

Glaring and other passive aggressive stuff makes me want to go very very slooooowly

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange Sat 05-Jan-13 22:11:36

They've done studies and found that people take LONGER when they know others are waiting (for the toilet, I think this study was). Some people are bastards.

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