'My kids never screamed like that' - old bag says loudly at the supermarket checkout...

(335 Posts)
TeenTwinsToddlerandTiaras Sat 05-Jan-13 18:14:22

about my DS (2). He is a screamer and it drives me nuts. Not when it's just me and him but when my older DSs are anywhere near him - he wants what they've got, wants to do what they're doing. He's trying to dominate, it's the pack mentality!

He screamed around Tescos as he was in the trolley and he wanted to put the food in the trolley. He screamed at the checkout as he wanted OUT! Cue santimonious, smug middle aged woman making the above comment very loudly. I don't want him to scream either but short of putting a sock in it, what can I do? I should have asked her what her secret was but I just glared.

Really unnecessary comment that only made me feel more shit and stressed and angry.

BREATHE!!!!

'Well good for you' would have been my answer

LadyKinbote Sat 05-Jan-13 18:17:06

"That's interesting. My Grandmother never made outrageously rude comments like that either."

grin

BluelightsAndSirens Sat 05-Jan-13 18:19:09

A whispered fuck off normally does the trick.

TeenTwinsToddlerandTiaras Sat 05-Jan-13 18:19:31

I wanted to say 'you must have a short memory then', just heightens my frustration that I did'nt!

CaptChaos Sat 05-Jan-13 18:20:35

I'm sure supermarkets employ these women to make those of us with less than 'perfect' children feel like shit.

'Well! A round of applause for Mrs Helpy!' could be a useful phrase?

BadDog Sat 05-Jan-13 18:21:16

im on team old bag

ILoveTIFFANY Sat 05-Jan-13 18:22:49

Old bag??

LeonieDeSainteVire Sat 05-Jan-13 18:24:39

Well I bet it was luck and not her superior parenting that meant hers didn't scream. Neither of my older two screamed, my third does and it drives me crackers. But as you say OP how can you stop them short of a gag?

I can't think of any clever retorts I'm afraid.

fedupofnamechanging Sat 05-Jan-13 18:25:58

"Old age does terrible things to one's memory" is a good response.

I doubt very much if her kids never had a tantrum.

PartTimeModel Sat 05-Jan-13 18:26:05

I'd like to think I'd smile and her and simPly HISS! But I'd probably say something inane instead.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 05-Jan-13 18:27:12

Old Bag?
Middle aged?
You lost me there Op [angry}

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 05-Jan-13 18:27:34

Or angry even].

NippyDrips Sat 05-Jan-13 18:27:53

Oohh I like karmas response!

ILoveTIFFANY Sat 05-Jan-13 18:28:01

Well you are both as rude as each other I think!

Totally lacking in empathy and not helping anyone. Silly woman.

I've had similar, old man telling me how to parent. I asked 'if he was so good at it, would he like to take DS?'
He refused, so I told him to keep his opinions to himself and flounced off with screaming child in tow!
People like this get right on my tits!

We3NipplesOfVoldiesWeAre Sat 05-Jan-13 18:30:09

My answer used to be "He wants his own way, he'd really like to run round the shop and help himself to sweets and toys, obviously he's not allowed so he's having a tantrum." People would soon remember the difficulties that toddlers present.

I would have started throwing packets of food at her to be honest. Foul old fucker wink

ilovesooty Sat 05-Jan-13 18:31:40

Agree with Lady BeagleEyes

Yes: she was judgmental. She may be middle aged (though I don't see why that's relevant to whether she was rude)

But "Old bag"? Did you mean to be so rude - and ageist?

oldpeculiar Sat 05-Jan-13 18:32:42

I was on your side until you refered to middle age as 'old'

Narked Sat 05-Jan-13 18:32:45

'Old bag'?

biscuit

ilovesooty Sat 05-Jan-13 18:33:14

* Foul old fucker*

And there's another one. angry

TeenTwinsToddlerandTiaras Sat 05-Jan-13 18:34:31

Oh the 'professionally offended' are out in force I see. She was middle aged as in at at age where her DCs were older or had left home (so relevant to potential short memory) and she WAS an old bag. Sorry!

CaptChaos Sat 05-Jan-13 18:34:41

Oh dear! I've suddenly realised that I might be classed as an old bag as I am middle aged.... when does one become middle aged anyway now? Is it still 35? Or later. When can I tut at people in supermarkets? When's my turn!

envy

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