About my newborn's name?

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Having a hormonal morning. Finally decided on our baby's name after much deliberation yesterday and told a few friends who all said it was lovely.

My mother calls this morning and I tell her we have decided on Oliver James L.M (surname) to which she replied 'OH NO!!' Like I've told her I'm calling him Crap Bag or something hmm this really upset me as I feel like I could never call him this now as I know she hates it.

So now DP has declared he doesn't like Oliver either and was 'going along with it for me' sad I really thought we both liked it as he has always expressed this.

Now I feel so confused, I really liked it and think it really suits him but now it's completely tainted and DP is looking up names like Ivander and Cassius confused. I guess I'm upset because the baby has his surname and now he's going to choose the first name when I'm the one who carried him and pushed him out and will no doubt be doing the majority of caring as I'm ebf and he's back to ft work next week,

Sorry just needed to rant, feel so upset.

PhallicGiraffe Fri 11-Jan-13 21:18:08

YABU to name your kid after Jamie Oliver. He is a tosser.

ceebie Fri 11-Jan-13 20:01:51

Have you settled on a name hun or still deciding? Just curious to know how you got on! You've still got weeks to decide, obviously.

Heavywheezing Sun 06-Jan-13 18:58:38

Oliver James is a lovely name. Keep his name.

My cousin called her baby Felix,which apparently her mum and dad hated. What's rude is that they let her know.
It's difficult when you know somebody doesn't like the name. Stuff them. They will come round, they will and say how much it suits him in the months to come.
Op, I thought you would have called him Noel!

Amber, I love the name Ivor, it was my great grandfather's name, I wish I had called ds2 Ivor. Of course we are welsh so it's said I vor rather than iver.

squoosh Sun 06-Jan-13 18:34:17

It really needs to be a name you both agree on. The 'both' being you and your husband, your Mum had her own baby naming chances!

Personally I prefer Cassius to Oliver, but that's neither here nor there.

We have a seven week old son called Cassius and have had nothing but positive comments so far. We are definitely not middle class and chose the name because it was the only one DP and I both loved.

There is nothing wrong with Oliver James, Hugo or any of the other names you mentioned. Just decide on a name and stick to it. It's nobody else's business. Like you said, they have already had their chance at naming their own children. It's not their place to name yours as well.

ComposHat Sun 06-Jan-13 15:01:31

Your mum can go boil her head frankly.

But I would work on getting a name that both you and your partner like though. Maybe he should have spoken up earlier, but as his father he should have an equal say in his name.

ceebie Sun 06-Jan-13 14:47:02

OP please please please tell all members of your family to stop making suggestions and offering opinions on names. Please make it crystal clear that the baby-naming process is going to be undertaken just between you and DP and no-one, seriously no-one, else.

Horsemad Sun 06-Jan-13 11:13:04

Hell would freeze over before I'd let anybody try and sway my choice on MY baby's name!

Apart from DH of course! smile

SarahWarahWoo Sun 06-Jan-13 09:45:23

Choose a name before mentioning it to anyone else. Otherwise they will feel able to contribute their opinion. Everyone asked me about names and I wouldn't discuss it with anyone other than DH. Agree with him a name and stick to it.

MadonnaKebab Sun 06-Jan-13 09:31:04

I see your Samsung and raise you......
Porntip
(Girls name, I have met 2 of them. Maybe OK in home country of Thailand but not if you intend to bring up said unfortunately monikered child in an English-speaking country)

diddl Sun 06-Jan-13 08:56:48

Perhaps the rule should be-if you were at the conception, you get a say in the name!

MudCity Sun 06-Jan-13 00:31:56

Chuckling over Pekas MIL's party game idea. That is horrendous!

Why is it that everyone feels they should have a say when a baby is born? I mean, seriously?

Your baby, your choice. Start as you mean to go on and don't let other people's comments rock the boat.

Peka Sat 05-Jan-13 23:26:54

Oh my. This is ridonculous. It doesn't really matter whether Oliver is a lovely name or not (lovely is afterall in the eye of the beholder), it's not a name anyone has a right to get so exercised about! I think your whole family has possibly lost their collective minds possibly with the excitement of said baby's birth? If Oliver was a 'lovely' but slightly strange name (like Evander???) your mil might be justified in mentioning it was a tad unusual but Oliver is just so utterly inoffensive!!! Why does every name have to be totally unique or have a really special meaning or spelling ffs? It's the child itself that will be unique, the name is well... just a name, and you are bound to have a slim, willowy boy who is keen on fixing computers and Sudoku if you name him after a boxer - it's just tempting fate.

If it makes you feel any better, my mil sat me and DH down the day after my 3 month scan and suggested we all put names into a hat and pick one at random. When I said we wouldn't be doing that she proceeded to veto every name we both had chosen, luckily managed to find one for a boy and one for a girl we could all agree on but took a mighty long time (and still not quite sure how I got myself into that situation in the first place, ho hum)... please DON'T mention the 'party game' approach to name choice to anyone in your family - sounds like your mil might actually go for it!

KRITIQ Sat 05-Jan-13 23:22:46

Oliver James is a lovely name. It's also the name of a well-known child psychologist. I've heard him speak though and he seems a top class guy.

DewDr0p Sat 05-Jan-13 23:17:27

I agree it's really NONE of your mum's business! My Dad isn't over keen on any of my dcs' names tbh but I just ignored that (he never said outright but I could tell grin )

More talking required with dp though... I had great results just by holding the baby in my arms in an aren't-I-amazing-giving-birth kind of way and just saying "can we call him X? Please? It just feels right"

EllenParsons Sat 05-Jan-13 23:09:09

I can't believe the cheek of your mum! For what it's worth Oliver is a lovely name but it's not her choice at all and once a baby has arrived I think it's just out of order to criticise the name, maybe unless it is something really ridiculous and offensive that will cause the cold problems, but definitely with a "normal" name like Oliver there is no reason to criticise at all!

AlwaysHoldingOnToStarbug Sat 05-Jan-13 22:35:18

Oliver is a good classic name. It's one of those names that I think of as really popular but don't actually know many.

If my MIL had her way 3 out of my 5 would be called something different. But I didnt want mine being called John or William like every other male member of the family (nothing wrong with those names but there's tons of them in the immediate family)

If your DH agreed to Oliver and has only changed his mind because someone said something negative then tell him to grow a pair and tell your family to butt out. Like others have pointed out your mum had her chance at naming babies, I wonder if she let her mum name you or your brother?

mummaxmas Sat 05-Jan-13 20:24:15

Do what you what!! I look at my baby and I'm sure he's the name I wanted ha ha, do wish I'd put up more of a fight ! And what the hell do mums know ! Nothing, I should know I am one ha ha ha

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sat 05-Jan-13 20:18:40

OP its yours and OP's baby, your right to name him.

Same names for ya all:
Idris,
Etienne
Dylan,
Lucas
Milo
Boden
Odin
Theo

lockets Sat 05-Jan-13 20:17:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

5madthings Sat 05-Jan-13 20:17:00

I love oliver james cassius!

James is the name all the men on my fathers side have as a mn.

My mum suggested Nathan and Joshua

LynetteScavo Sat 05-Jan-13 19:50:19

How about Oliver James Cassius?

thebody Sat 05-Jan-13 19:49:30

Yes honestly Samsung.. I didn't believe her so made her show me his Facebook page. It's absolutely true I mean I ask you..

Love Cassius and Oliver James. Go for it op.

Hedgepig Sat 05-Jan-13 19:48:35

Oliver James is a great name (but I'm a bit biased cos that's DS2s name smile)

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