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to think he needs to grow the fuck up?

(73 Posts)
VitoCorleone Sat 05-Jan-13 10:26:59

"D"P has just had a package delivered. Its a calander of p3 girls. Apparently him and all the lads at work "chipped in" for it, they apparently HAVE to have a "boob calander" (his actual words) up at work "for the lads"

These "lads" are all middle age men, my DP being the youngest at 29

I told him i thought it was sad and pathetic and that its like being with a schoolboy. He said if it upsets me then im the sad one and need to get a grip.

Im getting sick of this, he knows the name, surname and fucking bra size of every glamour girl out there. Its just sad.

Smudging Sat 05-Jan-13 15:30:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

"And certainly not worth leaving him for."

Calendar on it's own? Probably not.
His attitude to it and reaction to the OP? I wouldn't stick around.

NotOnTheBeach Sat 05-Jan-13 15:35:51

These calendars are stiill commonplace in many workplaces.

Pathetic and immature, but I am surprised that people are surprised by it.

TheProvincialLady Sat 05-Jan-13 15:44:47

I think you'll find that racism, homophobia, xenopobia and the rest are also pretty commonplace in lots of workplaces, but I don't think it's OK and I wouldn't have sex with a racist homophobe either. Those of you who are happy to sleep with people who think you are fundamentally lesser than them are welcome to, but I'm darned if I would.

NewYearNewNN Sat 05-Jan-13 15:50:06

So where do we stand on this one?

Euphemia Sat 05-Jan-13 15:51:05

Please please refer him to the No More Page 3 campaign.

My DH rants to me about examples of the objectification of women he finds in the media! I can't imagine sharing my life, and raising a daughter, with a sexist prick like that.

Euphemia Sat 05-Jan-13 15:52:55

I am surprised that people are surprised by it.

I am surprised that you are surprised that people are surprised! Most of us work in the 21st century, not 1973.

Chunkymumma Sat 05-Jan-13 15:56:06

He sounds a prat, YANBU!
However, the majority of men like to look at tits. Those who say they don't are either lying or gay.
Please don't let it get to you, men are just idiots sometimes. Get yourself a calendar full of big cocks. If he complains just say, well girls will be girls!

Euphemia Sat 05-Jan-13 15:58:20

There's nothing wrong with liking tits, it's just not suitable in the workplace.

dashoflime Sat 05-Jan-13 15:59:58

Is anyone else wondering why this calender was delivered to your house (not the workplace-if thats where its for?)

Do you think he's done this deliberately to make you feel uncomfortable?

Chunkymumma Sat 05-Jan-13 16:01:45

Didn't say it was did I? But the OP is upset her DH is looking at them. I doubt she cares about them being in the workplace, she'd be upset if he was at home reading Nuts magazine. It's the fact he's looking at other women's bodies. I don't agree with it anyway, but it's just a fact of life. Men like tits!

Andro Sat 05-Jan-13 16:03:46

These 'lovely' calendars used to make a regular appearance where I work (and being management it was my job to deal with it even though I really couldn't care less). I got fed up of the 'hard ass' routine - which invariably failed - so got creative. It was amazing how quickly the glamour calenders were removed when a couple of ultra buff firefighter and rugby player calenders made an appearance. These calender were seemingly 'objectifying men' and 'turning them into sexualised pieces of meat', so I pointed out that the same argument could be made about the girly ones they had! Problem solved within a week...never to reappear (thankfully).

IfNotNowThenWhen Sat 05-Jan-13 16:10:38

I like tits. I just don't think that any workplace needs pictures of them.
I hardly think that saying that a workplace should be free of pictures that make more than half the working population uncomfortable to be around (and some men find these type of publicly displayed calendars distasteful too actually) is trying to inflict a "totalitarian regime"!
I once worked at a restaurant where the waitress changing room had pictures of men with huge erect cocks plastered all over it. I didn't much like that either, much as I like a bit of cock.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sat 05-Jan-13 16:38:52

Get a gay porn pin-up and hang it behind the toilet door. He'll get a shock when he sits down!

Now thats an idea.

HenryCrun Sun 06-Jan-13 07:46:07

If my DW sees a model or a celeb with huge boobs, she will point them out to me. "Oooh, Henry, you have to have a look at this".

Up until a few days ago DW had a massive cardboard cut-out of Harrison Ford. Was there a problem? No.

I think labelling all male owners of glamour model calendars as misogynist is getting into Andrea Dworkin territory.

Blistory Sun 06-Jan-13 09:52:55

No, it's getting into a territory called respect.

And as for calling it glamour, what a load of tosh. It's ogling a young woman's breasts because you think you're entitled to do so. It's sexist, immature and indefensible. IMO.

Feminine Sun 06-Jan-13 10:08:28

Couldn't care less actually.

They are normally rubbish pictures, women of very average appearance.

They are just pictures of tits. The photographers are mostly women, the 'models' want to do it...they get paid very nicely too!

I think the men are silly for wanting to look at them actually, they are the poor souls being manipulated IMO.

SleepyLittleSunshineGirl Sun 06-Jan-13 11:30:38

Time tip get a sharpie out and draw underwear on the 'models' from Feb onwards. By the time they realise the calendars won't be on sale any more. Job done.

gimmecakeandcandy Sun 06-Jan-13 11:32:40

Get a male hunks calendar - preferably with their cocks hanging out and hang it in your room. Lets see how he likes it!

TheCatIsEatingIt Sun 06-Jan-13 14:28:37

Wouldn't bother me the slightest little bit. A friend buys her husband one every year. Both m/c professionals in their early 40s.

mrsseed Sun 06-Jan-13 14:37:52

Back in late 90's I worked as engineer on construction sites..I became blind to the pictures in the end....but did buy an anne summers calender and pin it up....
got a few comments but generally they accepted that if they were going to have calenders then so was I!

lisa1968 Sun 06-Jan-13 21:52:30

It actually wouldn't bother me in the slightest. It's no different to him looking at page 3 in the sun, or at Pamela Anderson on the TV. And all he's doing is looking-if he ever met one of them in real life, he'd shit himself!!

MrsKeithRichards Sun 06-Jan-13 22:12:49

I had pictures of bottles of tanquary at my old desk.

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