to still be devasted that my dog is gone?

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smilingismyfavourite Sat 05-Jan-13 01:26:24

On the 23rd of Dec my dog was killed in a horrible accident. I was devastated and spent most of christmas eve barely holding it together. However, I have young kids and I had a houseful of guests so I manned up, put a face on and got on with it. I hope that my kids still had a happy Christmas even though I was in bits. Nearly two weeks later I am still broken hearted, but because he was "just a dog" I don't know where to go with this. I miss my boy so much but no one else even mentions it any more, like it was just an blip in the holiday celebrations. AIBU to still be gutted? AIBU to expect people to still care that I am so sad?

flowerytaleofNewYork Sat 05-Jan-13 16:33:22

So sorry. Two weeks is nothing.

We lost our dog suddenly in September. He had a bad heart condition but was supposed to deteriorate gradually over time. Instead we left him in the morning bounding and happy, popped out for breakfast and came back to find him dead on the floor. sad

He was my PFB as he was a year older than our eldest DC.

We have another dog now, got him in November which was very soon, but I couldn't bear the dog shaped hole in the house. DH said when we met our new dog was the first time I'd smiled since losing PFB dog.

I still miss him loads and cry about him, but our new dog has made it a bit more bearable.

dietstartstmoz Sat 05-Jan-13 16:40:06

oh OP, that is so tragic and it must have been such a shock to you, I dont know how you managed to get through xmas and carry on. We lost our lovely old dog in July 2011, he was 14 and had been ill for a couple of years but I still miss him and had a big cry about him last week. I will always miss him. Big hugs from me, he was a part of your family and you need time to grieve.

smilingismyfavourite Sat 05-Jan-13 19:47:02

Oh goodness, thank you everyone for all the lovely and caring messages you have all left me following my post. I have read them all and cried buckets. It has really helped me to read them and to know that it's okay to still be so sad over the loss of my poor beautiful boy. I'm not really sure that I haven't been supported by those close to me but rather that I just bottled it up, got on with stuff and haven't shown how sad and broken I feel. As I wasn't speaking about it I expect everyone else though it was okay to just move on too. I will certainly feel less awful about speaking about it now and I think DCs and I will create some way to remember him properly. Thank you all so much for your help and I'm so sorry too for all the lovely people who are still feeling the same way for their lovely pets as I am feeling about my boy sad I still feel lucky and blessed that I had him in my life, even if it was for far too short a time xxx

Oh you poor thing. I've lost a dog and a cat in road traffic accidents and there is nothing like it. One minute they are with you and healthy and the next minute they are just gone sad
I've also lost pets to ill health and cancer and that's very sad too but at least I got to prepare.
YOU need to grieve properly so cry if you want to. Let your children see you sad, this is a valuable a lesson for them.

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