to thiink just for once my family would pretend to give a fuck ?

(80 Posts)
Kashdogg82 Sat 05-Jan-13 01:16:33

Name Changed though this in itself might out me .

It's my Birthday yay me & as per usual my Dh , My mum & all siblings just don't bother to even get me a card never mind a present the most ill get is a 'Happy Birthday' on Facebook & that's it & its the same every year , even as a child .
It's not that I want presents its the principal of it .
I'd love to have a night out with friends to celebrate or even have a few friends round but I can't so ill just spend yet another day wishing it would all go away .
I even asked if I could go to my mums tomorrow in hope that any one if them had got me a card but they are all to busy to see me .
The worse part is having to answer my Ds's (4) questions as to why I have no presents it cards .
I feel completely unreasonable for feeling this way & maybe I should just grow up .
AIBU or do I really deserve better confused

LineRunner Sat 05-Jan-13 01:20:18

OP, that's terrible. You need to tell your DH that you will in future be having a card and a nice little present from him and your DS, and don't flinch in the face of moaning.

I don't understand why you can't have a drink with friends?

shesariver Sat 05-Jan-13 01:21:12

But why cant you celebrate with friends and have them round?

LineRunner Sat 05-Jan-13 01:21:21

p.s. as for your mum and siblings, do you bother getting them stuff? I wouldn't, personally.

aprilrain Sat 05-Jan-13 01:21:46

You deserve better.

Have you considered throwing yourself a party? Or organising a birthday outing / night out with one or two close friends?

I hope you have a wonderful day.

Happy birthday!

LineRunner Sat 05-Jan-13 01:21:59

And happy birthday smile

ResolutelyCheeky Sat 05-Jan-13 01:22:21

Well happy birthday from me.

You cannot choose your family so you are pretty much stuck on that one.

You can however choose your dh. If you want to show your ds a good example then maybe start by getting a dh who loves and respects you.

A present to yourself so to speak.

I wish you happier birthdays in the future.

bigpantspam Sat 05-Jan-13 01:25:55

Is there any reason you couldn't arrange to go for drinks/dinner with friends?

How about buying yourself something nice?

My gifts from my husband this Christmas were rather house orientated, so I bought myself a lovely Osprey handbag that I had been eyeing up over the last year.

Also, you could tell them you don't like it this way?

Kashdogg82 Sat 05-Jan-13 01:30:16

I have nobody willing to watch Ds atm as he is been a handful with not sleeping & been hyperactive , Dh works nights at the weekends & Days through the week so says he has not had time to go anywhere to get me anything .
Would not be fair on friends to invite them round & them have to deal with my adorable uncontrollable Ds that seems to think he is the old guy off Father Ted grin

Kashdogg82 Sat 05-Jan-13 01:33:09

I gave in telling my Family that its not fair but there is always an excuse Money is tight atm else I would of bought myself something , All I wanted was a card

he has not had time to go anywhere
shock I'm assuming your birthday is on the same day every year?
It doesn't just spring up without warning?

Happy Birthday Kashdogg

Kashdogg82 Sat 05-Jan-13 01:39:49

Ha Ha that made me laugh 70
It seems I'm generally forgotten with all the Christmas hubbub

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sat 05-Jan-13 01:47:33

Also my sisters birthday yesterday, she'd kick her husbands arse if he didnt get her anything, but then this man spent an absolute fortune on her for christmas.

Although, my older siblings and i dont really celebrate each others birthdays, we celebrate our little sisters though.

Damash12 Sat 05-Jan-13 01:48:54

Ahh bless you and happy birthday. Yanbu, personally I'd find a tenner ( ask Dh for it) don't justify not having it as money a bit tight at mo or you are just as bad at not putting priority on yourself and if you don't who will? Anyway, nip to supermarket, radox, wine, chocolate, candle & book. Tell Dh he needs to up from 5pm (or do it in his days shift) when he come home, he looks after son while you run a bath and sit in it undisturbed for as long as it takes to feel a little less stressed and a bit more pampered!

Kashdogg82 Sat 05-Jan-13 01:56:39

Thanks Damash sounds like a good idea

Longdistance Sat 05-Jan-13 02:02:02

Doesn't a card in the Card Factory cost something like 79p confused

That's really tight of them sad

Happy Birthday Kashdogg82 thanks wine chin, chin.

Bloody miserable lot not even sending a card.
We live so far that I usually only get a couple of cards, so I make myself a big cake and light candles and let Dd blow them out, she loves it.
You could post a pick of the cake on facebook saying "Happy Birthday to me", they'll all wonder why you didn't invite them to the party.

noblegiraffe Sat 05-Jan-13 07:01:29

Happy birthday! Tell your DH that amazon deliver and even wrap presents so his unable to get to the shops excuse won't wash.
Definitely treat yourself today.

CSIJanner Sat 05-Jan-13 07:10:54

Well happy birthday from this house - we all understand the lack of sleep and handful here. Agree with Damash and Noble.

And I really do hope that your family raises that money's going to be a bit tight on their birthdays as well? Not the kids but you see what I man. Make them stew then give them a card factory card.

TuftyFinch Sat 05-Jan-13 07:17:54

Happy Birthday.

PrincessFiorimonde Sat 05-Jan-13 07:27:05

Happy birthday, Kashdogg.

Hope you take up Damash's idea.

cozietoesie Sat 05-Jan-13 07:27:51

Happy Birthday, Kashdogg.

smile

Happy birthday. My birthday is the 10th and my birthday is always always always a damp squib. I do get cards but as a child i'd get a tenner in a card which would hastily be borrowed off me as money was tight after.

My dh will have got me something but it'll be small cos xmas means he'll have run out of ideas and it wont be small like makeup more like a biscuit barrel! His is in june and so he always has some gathering in the garden and i go mad spoiling him.

Theres been quite a few threads about xmas/jan birthdays of late and i must admit it really gets my goat "well its so soon after xmas, money is tight/we're all partied out/ran out of ideas/your bound to have had loads for xmas". And thats me sounding ungrateful cos i do get something.

I think you should ignore all their birthdays even those in the height of summer and just mutter "oh i know but well, xmas really hit me hard you know how it is". Grrrrrrr happy birthday

PM me your address, I'll send you a card! Happy birthday!

pigletmania Sat 05-Jan-13 07:33:46

Oh I feel your pain. I would at laeast expect something from dh, you have to tell him that you would like something for your birthday or plan a nice day out. In the future when your ds gets bigger and can be left plan a nice night out with friends

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