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To call your children "kids"?

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VIX1980 Thu 03-Jan-13 11:06:22

I was in a shop i volunteer in yesterday morning helping out on the till when a family of 3 adults and 4 children came in.

the adults were paying no attention to the children, letting them pick everything up and throw the toys about on the floor trying to play with them. I noticed 1 of the boys (around 4-5) was eating a cream cake, as we dont allow any food in the shop but he had about 1 more bite left i just watched to make sure he wasnt putting it verywere as he was covered in cream all over his hands and on his coat. When he had the last bit in his mouth i looked over to the adults who locked in conversation about some curtains.

They were no more than 2 feet away from the till where i was so i said to them, is it k if i give him a baby wipe so he can clean his hands?, they ignored me, so i asked again moving closer, Is that your little boy, is it ok to give him a baby wipe, again i was ignored, i said excuse me are these your children? nothing still.

So i finally went over and said sorry to bother you are those your kids over there? I didnt even get time to finish my sentence before one of them screamed in my face not to call them kids, they are children, and with that she took a load of clothes of the rails threw them on the floor and stormed out the shop followed closely by the rest of them, then i watched through the window as the mother mouthed to me "ill have you".

I walked to the door and shouted over to her what are you going on about and she came over and had a go at me for calling her little kids "kids".

Would you be offended if someone called your children "kids"? I dont get it to be honest?

Tee2072 Thu 03-Jan-13 11:07:54

Loon! I call children kids all the time. No one has ever objected!

EuroShagmore Thu 03-Jan-13 11:08:16

What an extreme overreaction!

I don't object to the term "kids" or know anyone IRL who does, but I have seen on here that some MNers dislike it.

sleeplessinsuburbia Thu 03-Jan-13 11:08:26

What? She was crazy, let this one go!

Tailtwister Thu 03-Jan-13 11:09:22

No, I wouldn't have been offended. Judging from the overreaction from the mother, I suspect she was just using it to have a go at you. Very odd.

Barking. Just as well you never made it as far as asking her to hand over her cash.

Panzee Thu 03-Jan-13 11:10:08

Someone once told me (but I can't find anything to say its true) that 'kids' comes from a Middle English word meaning 'children'. S tell them that. grin

Sounds like a delightful family if they're being left to cause havoc in a shop.

teacherandguideleader Thu 03-Jan-13 11:10:28

My mum hates the word 'kids' - she always said I was her child, not her baby goat. However, I don't think she would have behaved in such a way! I myself use it all the time.

HDee Thu 03-Jan-13 11:11:18

I don't like the term 'kids' and never,ever refer to my children as kids.

VIX1980 Thu 03-Jan-13 11:11:28

Just wondered as my manager had been watching and listening and not doing anything about it but after pulled me aside and said i was wrong for calling them kids.

I still dont get why, guess its each to their own. I can think of far worse things i could have called them though grin

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Thu 03-Jan-13 11:11:52

She was obviously barking.

VIX1980 Thu 03-Jan-13 11:13:06

hdee Can i ask why you feel so strongly about it? Not trying to cause an arguement by the way just genuinely interested as ive used it most of my life and never had a problem with it until yesterday so im interested to know why it causes such a reaction in some people?

KenLeeeeeeeInnaSantaHat Thu 03-Jan-13 11:13:12

I have encountered some who feel a bit cringey about likening a small child to a baby goat, but in my case that is a pretty accurate likening considering the mess they make & how much food they eat.

Regardless of the word "kids" though, her reaction was bizarre to say the least. She sounds delightful.

ouryve Thu 03-Jan-13 11:13:43

YANBU

"Stressed" mother is a very kind way of putting it. She sounds like a bit of a nightmare.

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 03-Jan-13 11:15:30

Jesus some people are fucking strange
call mine kids all the time allthough i know there are people who dont like the word but i dont really mix with anyone that uptight so dont know of any. Thankfully

amck5700 Thu 03-Jan-13 11:16:51

Doesn't bother me either - woman was clearly a lunatic. ven if you don't like the term, it is hardly abusive is it? If I was that way inclined, then if someone I saw regularly called them that and I didn't like it then I guess i would say something, but not if it was someone you are unlikley to see on a regular basis.

......and who in their right mind lets a child (kid grin) take food into a shop?

drownangels Thu 03-Jan-13 11:17:07

'Kids' has aways, to me, an affectionate way of calling children.

I really like it.

iseetinselandtantrums Thu 03-Jan-13 11:18:23

YANBU
I call small people 'the kids' sometimes when wanting to be less formal than 'the children'. Didn't know it was a MN transgression! blush

Ephiny Thu 03-Jan-13 11:19:20

I could maybe understand someone not liking the term...but screaming in your face, throwing merchandise around, 'I'll have you', etc confused. What a bizarre reaction.

nokidshere Thu 03-Jan-13 11:21:35

well i have lots of children at my home but my username gives a clue to how I feel about the word "kids".

However, it doesn't offend me if other people say it - its just not a term I use myself smile she sounds like a nutter to be honest!

Hulababy Thu 03-Jan-13 11:22:31

I don't really use the word "kids" myself, but not for any particularly dislike/reason. I do tend to say children/child.

However, I would never ever be offended by anyone else saying it. It is hardly offensive is it? Doesn't even have negative associations does it?

PavlovtheCat Thu 03-Jan-13 11:22:37

Loon. Simply put (not you).

cinnamonnut Thu 03-Jan-13 11:23:39

I don't really like the term kids much but it wouldn't bother me - what a bloody stupid woman - huge overreaction!

Autumnalis Thu 03-Jan-13 11:25:51

Was she a MN-er? smile Lots of threads on here about disliking 'kids'. Not middle class enough or something like that.

sudaname Thu 03-Jan-13 11:26:18

I would have said - 'I've been calling them children for last five minutes but you've been blatantly ignoring me, so l thought maybe you didnt recognise that term !'

[arsey cow, with ignoramuses me though]

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