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to hate the expression "the boy"

(67 Posts)
PetersburgPrincess Thu 03-Jan-13 02:19:09

I'm not even sure why.

My friend uses it all the time - "Me and the boy are going out tonight"

Or I see a photo on facebook of a couple entitled "Me and the boy"

I don't know why it annoys me so much when I see it but it really does.

AmberLeaf Thu 03-Jan-13 02:21:19

Relating to her partner/husband? or her child?

'Lil man' boils my piss.

Beaverfeaver Thu 03-Jan-13 02:22:23

I kind if understand where your coming from. But people do have weird things they call eachother.

I think it's hard to always know how eat to address DP in a public sense when you are both grown ups and not just friends as Boyfriend and Girlfriend just don't sound right.

I have a terrible hatred of 'partner' and 'other half'

myfirstkitchen Thu 03-Jan-13 02:22:52

It's gross. Also 'hubs'.

PetersburgPrincess Thu 03-Jan-13 02:23:58

I mean partner AmberLeaf

I don't like 'lil man' either though.

Beaverfeaver Thu 03-Jan-13 02:24:30

I also find it weird when unmarried couples refer to Escher as Husband/Wife

Beaverfeaver Thu 03-Jan-13 02:25:03

Escher = each other

Damn iphone

PetersburgPrincess Thu 03-Jan-13 02:25:25

Maybe I find it a little demeaning?? I'm not sure.

I just don't know why my friend can't say, "Me and Alex are going out tonight."

firawla Thu 03-Jan-13 02:29:31

I would have presumed she meant her son if she says that!
but each to their own, if she means it affectionately and he likes it? then no harm done.
wouldn't say it myself - do say hubby though which i know most people on here hate

judefawley Thu 03-Jan-13 02:29:39

Lil man/hubs/hubby/bubs are all offensive.

The boy is just ridiculous and puerile.

barbiecollector Thu 03-Jan-13 02:29:47

My SIL used to use the term to describe her DB (my DH). She'd call and ask: "is the boy there?". God, it used to annoy me.

nooka Thu 03-Jan-13 02:38:59

dh calls ds 'the boy' sometimes as a term of affection. He is our only son and a boy, so it seems reasonable in that context. A bit odd for an adult, but I've never heard it in that context. I think that in general couply nick names should only be used in private.

OrangeLily Thu 03-Jan-13 03:02:44

Oh dear you will all hate me as I occasionally refer to DH as 'the boy' and 'Hubster' grinabsolutely naff and love it. (I did meet him when he was still a teenager tho!) I am one to give people a ridiculous pet name, as is DH.

For example, we both have pet names for our sisters and have separate pet names for each others sisters too.

deleted203 Thu 03-Jan-13 03:07:33

I do have to say, I think I'd vomit if you cheesily referred to 'the Hubster' in front of me.......

PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah Thu 03-Jan-13 03:17:59

I once worked with a black South African chef who yelled at me for going in to his kitchen and saying to the all male staff "Alright, boys?" Apparently boy was what the whites called the black slaves and he was offended blush

LuluMai Thu 03-Jan-13 04:07:55

I used it for my son! grin better than little man or wee man etc!

MammaTJ Thu 03-Jan-13 05:14:41

My SIL used to use the term to describe her DB (my DH). She'd call and ask: "is the boy there?". God, it used to annoy me.

barbiecollector, used to? Did you kill her with a spade and bury her under patio for this terrible crime?

noteventhebestdrummer Thu 03-Jan-13 05:27:26

And did the boy help you??

My boy is doing the rounds on FB (wonders again why these people are on my FB) also referring to partner, vom provoking.

barbiecollector Thu 03-Jan-13 06:24:14

barbiecollector, used to? Did you kill her with a spade and bury her under patio for this terrible crime?

Ha, ha! I wish grin. She is still alive, but we don't speak to her anymore.

ripsishere Thu 03-Jan-13 06:30:16

I call my DD the girl. Is that as bad? she is a girl and the only one here.

HarkTheHattifattnerSing Thu 03-Jan-13 06:34:48

my PIL refer to my husband as "The Lad". - He is 45 years old FFS!

barbiecollector Thu 03-Jan-13 06:35:04

I don't think it is the same when you are referring to your actual child. I call my DS 'my boy'.

barbiecollector Thu 03-Jan-13 06:35:34

"The Lad". That's quite sweet, I like that.

mummyspice Thu 03-Jan-13 06:52:28

My MIL calls anyone's ds 'the boy'...makes my blood boil. I gave DS a name why can't she bloody use it. Doesn't call my DD 'the girl' for some reason. When talking about DH's childhood she regresses to calling him the boy as well. Can understand saying 'my boy' as it sounds affectionate but 'the boy' sounds impersonal and like she can't be bothered to remember anyone's name.

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