to think some people give up their social life once they get married?

(79 Posts)
selectionboxoflife Mon 31-Dec-12 19:16:38

I'm not judging as I know circumstances change, especially when people have children.

But sometimes it feels like once someone is married they feel they don't have to go out anymore.

I hear lots of sneery comments about I don't like going out and getting drunk, it's a phase in my life that I'm over.

Me and a few friends still enjoy getting dressed up on a Saturday and going out for a few cocktails, not getting ridiculously drunk and falling over.

Some friends I've barely seen since they moved in with their partners and get married.

Some of them would need surgery to be separated from their partner, therefore if its a girls night they will more than likely refuse.

Or I hear, I'd rather have a take away and curl up on the sofa than go out.

And on that note, I'm off out for a meal.

But seriously aibu?

PackItInNow Tue 01-Jan-13 16:00:53

Why do you feel the need to call posters 'Too thick to understand your post'?

"Me and a few friends still enjoy getting dressed up on a Saturday and going out for a few cocktails, not getting ridiculously drunk and falling over". This is what you quoted in your OP (and I C&P'd it from the opening post, so you can't say you didn't say that) and it specifically states about Saturday and cocktails. So correct me if I'm wrong, but where in your full OP does it say about going out in general and not just on a Saturday?

The posters on this thread aren't too thick to understand you post, you didn't make it clear enough to them what you were implying.

You also quote "But sometimes it feels like once someone is married they feel they don't have to go out anymore". They have commitments now and they also change as time goes on, so NO they don't have to go out anymore if they don't feel like it, and whatever reason they have is their business and no-one elses.

YouOldTinsellySlag Tue 01-Jan-13 16:33:38

Well said PackitIn.

The OP implies that it's marriage that stops people socialising and going out, but in fact, in my case it's the fact that after looking after two small children all day I am exhausted and the thought of going out to queue in noisy places when I just need relaxation and peace and quiet is just really unattractive to me. It's also relevant that since having babies my tolerance for alcohol is dreadful and getting drunk wipes me out for nearly two days. I don't have two spare days anymore to be hungover so I just don't like getting drunk.

I have usually spent at least 12 hours a day trying to keep two short people happy so by the time that's done, I don't feel like pleasing anyone but myself.

I still see my friends but we are scattered all over the country so we tend to meet in the day, say for Sunday lunch.

Luckily most of my friends feel the same as me so they are a lot more tolerant and understanding than the OP is being!

OkayHazel Tue 01-Jan-13 16:39:04

I'm 20 and single and would still rather have a takeaway in my pjs.

OkayHazel Tue 01-Jan-13 16:40:30

Though that is probably the New Years hangover talking.

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