To think if you bring puddings, they should be served??

(74 Posts)
lisad123 Sat 29-Dec-12 22:19:18

Went to friends mum for dinner party tonight (friend live in other country and she's home for week).
I took two lovely puddings, and bottle of wine. Food was lovely, but mum had made cake and it was nice but that was only pudding served. So we have come home, and left two full puddings at house.

So if someone brings pudding, do you atleast offer it, or just shove them in fridge and eat later?

dexter73 Sat 29-Dec-12 22:21:35

I would offer all the puddings that had been made.

LRDtheFeministDude Sat 29-Dec-12 22:22:05

That's odd.

So she asked you to bring pudding?

If you just rocked up with it, I can see why she'd serve cake instead because she wouldn't have known you were making it.

peaceandlovebunny Sat 29-Dec-12 22:22:27

years ago, went for a day at a friend's house. knew she had no money so took a really good cold lunch. which she accepted, put in her fridge 'for visitors tomorrow' and doled out one tiny bit of chicken for daughter and i to share for our lunch that day.
not impressed.
so yes, your puddings should have been served. as should my lunch.

ZZZenAgain Sat 29-Dec-12 22:22:28

find that strange, I suppose they thought altogether they had too much. I would have served your puddings

Fakebook Sat 29-Dec-12 22:24:29

All puddings should have been served. What were your puddings? Maybe the host thought they were manky?

Goldenbear Sat 29-Dec-12 22:25:28

YANBU, serve the puddings don't save them for winter!

I hate this. I recently took 2 expensive bottles of wine £25 in total for a dinner party. I asked the host what we were eating so I could get the right wine. It was clear they were for the dinner and neither of them were opened. We had even run out of drinks and no new wine was opened!

Goldenbear Sat 29-Dec-12 22:26:06

Sorry fairly expensive, obviously not off the scale.

SantasENormaSnob Sat 29-Dec-12 22:26:24

Was it the baileys one from Iceland? wink

musicposy Sat 29-Dec-12 22:26:58

I personally think it's a bit rude not to offer it and YANBU.

I went to a friend's for a meal the other week and took cakes and a pudding. Neither was put out, just pizza and salad. Whilst in theory I had brought it for her and therefore up to her what she did with it, I did feel a bit miffed. I was doubly miffed in that I suspect that because it was from Asda it would have gone in the bin the minute we left.

Not sure what the consensus will be on this one, though!

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Dec-12 22:27:19

OMG it wasn't a Baileys Iceland Dessert was it? shock

The puddings should have been served or returned to you IMO.

ZZZenAgain Sat 29-Dec-12 22:29:36

I think the wineyou bring should be served too. Just weird to store wine, cold lunches and puddings for another occasion IMO

everlong Sat 29-Dec-12 22:30:13

If someone brings puddings and we don't eat them because I've made some/not hungry whatever I always say to take them home. partly so I don't pig out on them

FestiveDigestive Sat 29-Dec-12 22:32:51

Was one of them a Vienetta? grin

SCOTCHandWRY Sat 29-Dec-12 22:33:53

Re wine - I was taught that wine brought to a dinner was a gift for the host/hostess, in thanks for the meal - not to be served, I would never serve wine people brought (unless we actually ran out), unless it was very informal (BBQ or similar).

ZZZenAgain Sat 29-Dec-12 22:34:47

below - they ran out but it was not served

lisad123 Sat 29-Dec-12 22:35:29

It was a sticky toffee pudding and a lemon cheese cake. She asked me to bring pudding to ensure there was something for my kids to eat. She made a chocolate cake, which was nice (but needed cream or ice cream).
I thought maybe it was just me then, so glad I'm not odd

ZZZenAgain Sat 29-Dec-12 22:35:45

maybe we should all be doing this and stocking up for the week ahead.

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Dec-12 22:36:59

No you aren't odd-they are. They have nicked your puddings. sad

chandellina Sat 29-Dec-12 22:37:02

This has happened to me and I've learned to say "oh do you want me to serve the (pudding I made.) ". It works at least.

ZZZenAgain Sat 29-Dec-12 22:37:32

why weren't they even offered to your dc then? Strange

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Dec-12 22:38:37

Yes ZZZ. I will throw a dinner party tomorrow night and get everyone to bring a course and wine. Then serve 99p Pizza and Panda Pop from Aldi and use the stuff people bring for the next few days to feed the family. Genius!

IceNoSlice Sat 29-Dec-12 22:39:24

I always serve food/wine brought by guests - but I find that guests often bring a bottle of red and a bottle of white then drink one or the other (or beer!) so you end up drinking every bottle of white in the house and having loads of red.

AnnaRack Sat 29-Dec-12 22:39:38

Yes always eat, dont save for later, unlike wine which is a gift for the hstess.
Perhaps she thought your puds were too nice to share and wanted to pig on them in private?

CoolaYuleA Sat 29-Dec-12 22:41:14

SCOTCH I was taught the same. Gift in thanks. When I have a dinner party I match the wine to the meal. A bad match can totally ruin the flavours of the food, which I won't risk.

Obviously if it's a less formal kitchen drunken supper with close friends then we open whatever we fancy drinking and to hell with matching grin.

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