For telling 11 year old dd she can't come with us to see Les Mis?

[Picturesinthefirelight]

She turned 11 recently, still in primary school. Doesn't know about sex and stuff yet

From reading an American guide for parents website it seems the film shows fantine selling herself in a bit more detail (apparently it shows the man lowering her top, thrusting then leaving after paying)

Dd has friends at school who have been to see 12a films and indeed we have let her watch certain 12 dvd's (hairspray, Star Wars Harry potter etc)

Am I being a prude?

[specialsubject]

At 11 I hope that she does know the basics about sex.

more the issue is 'does she want to sit through a very long movie?'

[MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel]

An 11yo doesn't know about sex? I find that pretty shocking.

[Picturesinthefirelight]

She's seen the stage show.

[cuttherope]

She doesn't know about sex??

Has she never asked how babies are made?

[DragonMamma]

YANBU purely based on the fact it'll be better watched without a youngster in tow.

I booked my tickets for opening night before Xmas and I can't wait.

[Picturesinthefirelight]

Why shocking?

At school in phse they have just been covering puberty and body changes. They get a tampon talk sometime next term

Sex is covered in high school

The ad has just come on again - I have goose bumps, can't wait. Hope it isn't bad.

[Picturesinthefirelight]

Dd is a complete Musical theatre nut.

[NilentSight]

DD knows how babies are made but there is no way that I would knowingly allow her to watch a film which had any hint of prostitution or sexual violence.

[Fairylea]

Unless your dd has been in a cupboard I would say she knows about sex even if you think she doesn't..... the others at school will have told her or talked about it. My dd knew the basics from well before then!!

[NotInMyDay]

Sorry but I find your comment about 'sex is covered in high school' a bit odd.

It shouldn't be the school teaching her this. It should be you.
Age appropriate and without embarrassment.

I wish my mum had been more open.

[SrirachaGirl]

I'm going to take my 11 year old DD next week. She knows all the basics and we've talked about prostitution before (after watching a documentary that mentioned impoverished sex-trade workers). I'm not sure it's a conversation I'd want to have in the theatre though, tbh. Perhaps you could talk about the story with her before hand?

[Hulababy]

Sex Ed including intercourse is in Y6 PHSE I think.
Puberty and Periods etc in Y5.

[Picturesinthefirelight]

I don't think she has any need to know about sex just yet. She's very young in attitude.

Which is why I think the film isn't going to be suitable.

[VivaLeBeaver]

Sex is covered in primary school never mind secondary school. I'm sure they have sex ed in year 6.

Then there will be kids like my dd who know about sex, childbirth, etc by year six and tell everyone else!

[Fakebook]

Does it matter if an 11 year old knows how babies are made or not? I wouldn't let my dd watch a sexual scene at that age.

[Clary]

Yes I agree I cannot imagine any NT 11yo not knowing a bit about sex. How have you not had this conversation?

[Picturesinthefirelight]

Not at dd's school hula. They follow their own programme. Puberty year 6. Sex year 7.

[ZZZenAgain]

entirely up to you whether you think it is appropriate for your dd

[Hulababy]

I would think she probably knows more than you think tbh - playground talk will most likely cover it from time to time ime.

[LadyBeagleBaublesandBells]

I can't believe she doesn't 'know' about sex at 11.

[Picturesinthefirelight]

In the stage show it goes a bit over their heads in lovely ladies as you don't actually see anything other than a bit if flirting.

Dd was in a show recently that had prostitutes in (but not in her scenes). She never questioned what they were (she was a lead part do had a full script)

[Nixea]

"She's very young in attitude" are the exact words my mum used to describe my sister with when she was that age. At 13 she came home pregnant. Now I'm not saying that age appropriate safe sex knowledge would have been enough to prevent it, but it would have at least meant she knew there were options.

I find the idea that an 11 year old has had no guidance from their parent about sex really concerning actually.

[MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel]

At 11 they will hear allsorts in the playground, do you really want her being misinformed?

Its your job to educate your daughter about sex and puberty, not the schools. A lot of girls have already started their periods by 11, I find it shocking that you don't want her to be as informed as possible with the right information and that because its clearly something you can't speak about with her she isn't going to come to you with any questions or problems.

I think whether to take her to see this film is the least of your worries tbh.