To think that parents who give their children unusual names are egotistical...

(297 Posts)
Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 15:36:18

I live in an area where there are lots of children with unusual first names, one might say contemporary or ever preposterous. Names such a Lux, Brutus, Fire, Ace, Rudy. Most of these children are mild mannered and don't stand out in any particular way. I wonder if the name giving is more to show other parents the: "we are creative and middleclass and bit different". I feel that the parents havent given their children much consideration in later life. A man in his 50s called Brutus doesn't have the same appeal as a small boy. I guess that is why David Bowie's son changed his name from Zowie back to Duncan.

I think many of them were pissed off with being one of 3 Claires in their class at school and being known as Claire B throughout their childhood. Not that my DD has a name like that, but I think she is more likely to be one of 3 in her school with her name rather than one of 3 in her class.

noseynoonoo Sat 22-Dec-12 15:47:13

YANBU

FredFredGeorge Sat 22-Dec-12 15:47:31

If the individuals don't like their names they can change them. You're projecting a lot on what a current 50 year old may feel when in 50 years time it's likely to be completely different.

Why do you think it's "middle class" to give someone an unsual name.

IWipeArses Sat 22-Dec-12 15:47:38

I find this weird need to all have common, dull names a real shame. I was looking through the list of Presidents and Vice Presidents of the US on wiki the other day, as you do, and there were some amazing names, really unusual, yet distinguished.

There was a Saxon at college, doing music the other year, and he was a lovely boy, quiet, but a good one, talented and worked hard. Wasn't a burden to him. Much better than being Thomas 1, 2 or 3 imo.

InNeedOfBrandyButter Sat 22-Dec-12 15:49:36

I think it's really really nice not to have the same name as everybody else. My dc have slightly unusual names but nothing to make you raise an eyebrow, I do like that they are the only ones in the school not called Hugh, Charlie or Felix.

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 15:52:27

Yes FredFredGeorge, maybe it's not that middleclass, thinking about it's mainly the middle class kids with the traditional names and the ones who aren't with the stand out names...in the local school.

True IWipeArses, Barrack for example. I guess they are marmite names so you either love or hate them.

VelvetSpoon Sat 22-Dec-12 15:55:17

I have a very ordinary name, but with a very unusual spelling. My mum deliberately chose the spelling to make me stand out in life blush

My parents were not middle class at all.

LoopsInHoops Sat 22-Dec-12 15:59:54

I have a very unusual name, and I love it. Didn't so much as a child, but it has served me well. People remember me, and it suits my extroverted personality. My parents were not middle class btw.

My own kids have names that are familiar - people have heard of them, so not outlandish, but I'd hate to have the same name as other children in my class.

Ps. many of your examples don't seem unusual to me. Rudy is a lovely name.

maddening Sat 22-Dec-12 16:01:23

<hopes against hope that Velvetspoon is using her own name grin>

maddening Sat 22-Dec-12 16:02:01

Sorry misread blush

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 16:07:01

' we are creative and middle-class and a bit different '

And?

There's nothing wrong with any of those things.

And Rudy is perfectly wonderful I'll have you know smile

Duncan Jones (David Bowie's son) only ever had Zowie as a middle name, and actually used another middle name when he was younger (a "normal" one). Bowie was never his surname.

FWIW my DDs all have unusual names (not because we're middle class confused) but because we like those names. All of them work as they grow up as they are proper names, albeit unusual. Dh was one of 4 of his name in his class at primary school, and quickly adopted a nickname so that he wasn't just eg John B.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:10:19

I think that some names are egotistical: Maverick, anyone?

But the names you mention are mainly just failry uncommon - how uncommon depends where you live. For instance, i'm told Jack is a common name, but not here in my bit of inner London

I think the urge for your child to have an uncommon name is quite natural. Otoh, i have a very unusual name, not wacky or anything, and it does get a bit tiresome spelling it, explaining where it comes from and what it means.

My own particular bugbear is very childish or cute names that suit a baby or small child but imo, not an adult.

This is all very subjective and I would not wish to offend anyone by listing them.

Theicingontop Sat 22-Dec-12 16:10:58

Let's all call our children Jennifer and James so we don't come across as trying to be different. That would be awful.

Meglet Sat 22-Dec-12 16:11:06

YABU.

I was one of 4 'meglets' in my class. I hated it as teachers never knew who was who angry.

I refused to use any names in the top 100 for my dc's.

Wacky is better than common IME.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:11:25

Rudy is great

YouCanBe Sat 22-Dec-12 16:11:26

Rudy is a bit different to Fire!

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:15:07

Yy Fire and Ace are a bit silly, imo

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:16:12

Rudy is great. Lux is a soap.

And there are stand out middle class names and stand out not so middle class names.

This is probably the least useful post I've ever made on MN. I think I shall go and eat cake.

badguider Sat 22-Dec-12 16:16:46

I am not a big fan of names that are in the dictionary as nouns or verbs. But I also think it's just practical to try to have a firstname that is unique within a social circle such as school class or extended family. Otherwise you end up living your life with your surname initial tacked onto your first name all the time sad

My name was really common where I am from when I was young, but thankfully isn't all that common in the rest of the UK so now i'm older and people of my age have moved and mixed more around the UK i only know a couple of others now.

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:17:13

Highly amused to hear that Zowie became Duncan.

gordyslovesheep Sat 22-Dec-12 16:19:21

he was ALWAYS Duncan

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:21:00

Ok. I thought the poster meant he'd been given two names and he chose the duller one.

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells Sat 22-Dec-12 16:21:14

My late single parent council flat friend and neighbour had a son called Rudy.
He must be about 25 now.
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