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To be daydreaming about having a minor accident that puts me in hospital for a couple of days :(

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larks35 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:14:26

I know I am really. But I am just so worn out! I work full-time and have a 3yo and 8mo. Mine is the main (at this point only) income we have. I do enjoy my job (teacher) and that is my main focus during the week. But I obviously also love my family and they are my focus in the evenings and weekends. DD has been teething and a bit ill recently so nights have been broken. I had another parents' evening tonight (have had one per week for the last 3 weeks). I have a mound of marking that I'll struggle to do, probably tomorrow, saturday and sunday evening.

I just need a break! And yes, I know I'll get two weeks off over Christmas and I am lucky with that compared to others, but that is just another kind of work and I'm all out of steam sad.

So my daydream is to have a minor accident that entails a two night stay at hospital. Work will be sympathetic, DP will have to cope and I'll just sleep and read. I obviously need to work on my work/life balance.

I knew you were a teacher before I clicked. I am extremely familiar with that feeling, sadly!

EndoplasmicReticulum Thu 13-Dec-12 23:17:20

It's endoftermitis. I found myself wishing for the norovirus last week, just so I could have a day off! Bit drastic really. The Autumn term is the longest, hardest - everyone has had enough by now including the children. Hang on in there, not long to go now!

deleted203 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:19:53

I KNEW you were a teacher too! I once taught in a school where I used to dawdle along hoping I'd get run over on the way there - nothing fatal, obviously - but something that would land me in hospital with a broken leg, perhaps, to give me a decent rest!

FromEsme Thu 13-Dec-12 23:19:57

I'm on a PGCE, OP. I doubt it's anywhere near as stressful as being a qualified teacher, but I can sympathise a bit. I am praying every day for snow as I just need to lie in bed for a day!

TheFarSide Thu 13-Dec-12 23:20:55

I remember one job I had where we were all very stressed, studying while working full-time, etc, where a couple of us used to fantasize about getting old and living in a care home with all our needs taken care of. grin

It's just a temporary reaction - YANBU

Purple2012 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:23:58

I'd love this too. Just a couple of nights, can take my kindle and do nothing.

larks35 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:25:20

Thanks all, your right about the length of the term. What stresses me is also the shortness of next term and all we need to achieve in it! Still, the break from work is coming, I just hope I can muster the energy to make Christmas what it should be for my kids!

FromEsme - I'm 10 years in the job, believe me the only thing as stressful as the PGCE was the NQT year for me. The job does get easier. Good luck with it.

Well yes YABU, but I have found myself wishing the same sometimes (but the reality is no-one really get to stay in hospital unless they're REALLY ill these days, so it wouldn't be much fun....)

babybythesea Thu 13-Dec-12 23:26:07

Nope. NU at all.
I sometimes wonder about minor crimes that might get me a week or so in prison - but then i wonder if they do such short-term sentences and if I'd just end up with community service and even more stuff to get done.
But my own cell, locked in for 12 hours at a time and presumably no access to a hoover or anything so therefore no need to clean it... as long as I have a supply of books, I'm there.

Either that or a damaged leg or similar. I don't want to feel ill, in case I am too ill to read. Something like a broken leg which keeps you immobile for a bit but doesn't affect your ability to enjoy old re-runs of Morse or that really good book you've been trying to finish for weeks would be best...

sweetkitty Thu 13-Dec-12 23:28:29

I a SAHM and I dream about it too. I have 4 DCs, 8 to 2, a DH who works long hours and no family help or support at all. It's down to DH and I. I'm fed up with the endless hard work of it all, I don't ever get a break. Oh I had half an hour tonight to have a shower sad

Two nights and days sounds bliss

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells Thu 13-Dec-12 23:29:16

I've been in hospital a couple of times, and I hated it.
But the staff were wonderful, I could doze off without guilt, and if I hadn't been ill, I might have enjoyed it. TBH, a minor illness (with no worries) being looked after 24/7 would be rather restful.

Whoknowswhocares Thu 13-Dec-12 23:32:43

I take it you've never actually stayed in hospital then? Can't say I've ever met ANYONE who's had a decent nights sleep or a rest there!!!

TuftyFinch Thu 13-Dec-12 23:33:29

In out straffroom we would spend weeks coming up with elaborate plans where we could be off work but not in too much pain.

VicarInaTutuDrankSantasSherry Thu 13-Dec-12 23:35:24

police here - also know where you are coming from. except im meant to be working xmas day and the whole week from the 25th,

i was thinking today if i could get something that would allow me to claim on my critical illness insurance i could pay off the mortgage and jack it in.....

larks35 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:37:14

saintly and LadyBB&B, you're right of course. If I was ill enough to be in hospital, it most likely wouldn't be the break I dream of. babybythesea - the problem with being imprisoned is that I would most likely lose my job and therefore the family income, way to stressful to consider!

I know what I really need is a good nights sleep, too late for that tonight but I think I'll turn in early tomorrow night and try to get in the festive spirit this weekend.

deleted203 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:38:34

Only 6 days of term left......

AboutThyme Thu 13-Dec-12 23:38:48

YANBU. Have you any family/good friends to call on for a couple of hours of a break? Anyone near you on the locals bench?

BadRoly Thu 13-Dec-12 23:40:06

I'm with babybythesea and a night in the cells - I know it's a concrete bed but I'm assuming no one will crawl in with me at 4am wide awake and ready to start the day...

And I too am a sahm to 4dc and book keeper for dh's business. Which involves him working away every week. I can't believe there is still another week of term to go - all our teachers are hanging, poor buggers!

larks35 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:41:11

Vicar - you have my utmost sympathy, like I said I know having 2 weeks off at this time of year makes me luckier than some. Will you have a traditional Christmas Eve Christmas?

smugmumofboys Thu 13-Dec-12 23:41:18

I knew you were a teacher too. I've got tomorrow off as both DSes really fluey and spiking temps.

Great, except my school will no longer pay me for the day and I've already shelled out for childcare I won't need. It's taken the shine off it somewhat.

AboutThyme Thu 13-Dec-12 23:42:47

If you are near me I will happily give you an hour off :-) (NW - but you must help me wrap presents grin)

VicarInaTutuDrankSantasSherry Thu 13-Dec-12 23:43:19

no larks the kids dont want to do that and ive to be up at 5am xmas day and boxing day
unless the gp continues to sign me off....i just started anti depressants a week ago.

the stress is intolerable.

maximusminimus Thu 13-Dec-12 23:43:51

YADNBU.

When I was in a job I loathed, I used to walk to the tube and hope to be hit by a bus. Nothing serious - just enough to let me lie in bed in hospital for a few days and catch up on all the sleep my cow of a supervisor prevented me from having

VicarInaTutuDrankSantasSherry Thu 13-Dec-12 23:47:30

i cant whip up one ounce of enthusiasm for xmas at all. not a jot. i just want a sodding break and to feel happy again.
if losing a kidney is the price of that then fine.....or anything that would allow me to claim on the critical illness cover....

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