To be pissed off with school over this? Nativity show related.

(66 Posts)
bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Thu 13-Dec-12 14:40:06

DD is 7 and in P3. P1-P3 are the groups who are all involved in the nativity show, with P1 in main roles. P2/P3 usually do the narration or backing choir. P3 is split over 2 composite classes - P3/2 and P4/3. DD is in P4/3. News letter was in DD's bag on friday last week to confirm P1-P3 are involved in the nativity show, and this is a ticketed event. No note in DD's bag with option of a ticket on Friday, nor Mon/Tues/Wed. I work Tues/Wed so couldn't get into speak to office staff or teacher as I drop DD off early and then she goes to after school care. I went to the office this morning to ask about tickets as I hadn't had anything in DD's bag, and wanted to attend (DD wants me or her gran to attend, as she always wants someone to make an effort and see her, no matter how tiny her involvement is). I was told by office staff that only parents of classes 1/2/3 were offered tickets, and P4/3 were not as 'they are only in the choir'. DD is gutted. I'm pissed off - basically P3 kids, as long as they are in P3/2, get the option of having their parent attend, but parents of kids in P4/3 don't get given the choice, yet have the same role to play as P3/2.

So, AIBU to be really pissed off at this? DD was clearly upset at the thought I won't be there to see her, nor will he gran tomorrow (I wasn't even looking for 2 tickets, just one to let one of us 'show face' for DD's sake).

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 16:06:39

Yes if the P3s are in it their parents should all be offered tickets not just some. It's unfair otherwise. I'd ring school and say how disappointed your DD is and see if you can wrangle a single ticket.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 16:09:51

X-post but I'd give them a ring now and see if they can organise a ticket for you. The office is probably still open.

LoopsInHoops Thu 13-Dec-12 16:10:34

Totally unfair.

SantasBigBaubles Thu 13-Dec-12 16:11:08

is this during school hours? Are you suposed to come pick her up and drop off out of school hours but not stay and watch?

youarewinning Thu 13-Dec-12 16:11:11

YADNBU.

Your DD is part of P3 whichever of the 2 classes she's been placed in. She didn't chose which class she was in and should have the same priviliedges as the other P3's.

nannyl Thu 13-Dec-12 16:12:50

I also under stand

YANBU

So the school is teaching the children that some roles are more rewarding of praise(parents attending) than others. That's a horrible thing to teach, all roles are and should be treated as equal.

Is seating allocated? If not I would turn up on the night and loudly explain I'm here to see my DC perform and although the school has prevented me from showing her everyone in a team is important, I would like to teach her that all the children are equal and should recieve the same reward.

cloutiedumpling Thu 13-Dec-12 21:29:30

I bet you that there was no intention to exclude parents and the p3/4 class just wasn't considered.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Thu 13-Dec-12 21:36:08

Kick up a fuss and they'll find a ticket for you.

badguider Thu 13-Dec-12 21:38:51

I agree it's unfair but they probably just didn't think - and didn't think that it would mean so much to the P3s in the 3/4 class to have a parent attend.

I grew up attending a small school with composite classes and I think it's very important to be hyper-vigilant about things like this to ensure the class are treated equally and fairly throughout no matter which composite half they are in each year.

GW297 Thu 13-Dec-12 22:16:21

That's unfair. You should complain.

mam29 Thu 13-Dec-12 22:18:03

turn up tommorow and demand to be let in.

glad dds new school has no limits on numbers and ticket nonsence. ring school 1st thing tommorow surprised other parents in same position not complained.

CabbageLeaves Thu 13-Dec-12 22:18:41

More performance... more places ?

gymmummy64 Fri 14-Dec-12 00:04:22

Our primary is split classes so I know exactly what you mean and this would never happen at our school (there would be absolute uproar!). Either all P3s or none, regardless of whether it's the bottom split or the top split. I would complain loudly!

SellotapeInMyHairExtensions Fri 14-Dec-12 00:28:23

It's a very long shot, but my dd is performing in her Nativity tomorrow with P1-P3. I have 3 tickets, 2 are spare now (they were for the grannies but they're both sick sad ) you never know, they say its a small world ... grin

It's crap, all the children performing should get an equal chance to have a parent/carer attend, regardless of the part they are playing.

There was a similar thing at my DDs school last year, only it was school trip related.

AmIthatTinselly Fri 14-Dec-12 00:41:07

I understand your post too. I can't imagine how any school could think that fair. DD spent her p2 year in a p1/2 composite, where there were only 8 of them compared to 30 in the straight p2. If she or I had been excluded from anything I would have been straight to HT and if not satisfied then onto the Council

Rachel130690 Fri 14-Dec-12 00:53:23

Yabu even just for saying P4/3, it should of been p3/4. I couldn't read post properly as it irritated me. Sorry

LookingForNewName Fri 14-Dec-12 01:16:55

Stupid rule, pull her out and have a nice day out. On the other hand she won't be the only one in class with no one in the audience. I would definitely be tempted to pull her out though just to make a stance and save her from disappointment.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Fri 14-Dec-12 06:36:10

Rachel P4/3 means that there are more P4 children in the class than P3s; a P3/4 class would have more P3s than P4s.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Fri 14-Dec-12 06:38:10

Rachel Also, it's should have, not should of.

HTH

Can't believe the rudeness of those people who posted to say they couldn't understand it or be bothered to read it. Why comment then?

OP, YANBU. Presume only a handful of P3 children are in the P4/3 composite, so I think the school should have squeezed in an extra row of seats for their parents.

And, Euphemia - my thoughts exactly.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Fri 14-Dec-12 07:50:14

Indeed, Agent - I start reading many threads where I can't follow the OP, so I go and read something else instead. Some people just like to make snarky remarks to put other people down.

SellotapeInMyHairExtensions Fri 14-Dec-12 07:50:23

I think it depends on the school. My DD is in P3/2 and there are more P2 children than P3 children. My other DD is in P2/1 and again there are more P1 children.

But I agree, what a ridiculous point to pick up on.

roughtyping Fri 14-Dec-12 07:53:14

That is rotten sad I would speak to the HT. Not fair at all.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Fri 14-Dec-12 07:54:48

Sellotape Give me the school's number and I'll phone them to tell them they're doing it wrong. grin

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