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To think she was exaggerating

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Bluebelleswood Thu 13-Dec-12 12:43:33

I've just had coffee,in Costa, with a friend and my friends friend. I have never met this person before.

On her arrival, she announced that she had a terrible migraine.

It didn't prevent her drinking a large, sweet christmas special coffee with whipped cream. She also described her symptoms at length, and was generally very voluble and animated.

As a migraine sufferer myself I find the only way I can cope with migraine is to go to bed in a very dark room.

Aibu to think that she was exaggerating.

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Sat 15-Dec-12 15:45:18

I do know what a migraine is sigh ... I was stating about yawn woman at work who roll eyes says every head ache is a migraine.

I'm not implying that people who have migraines blah blah blah

I do "suffer" purely optical migraines myself, which thankfully don't even lead to a headache ... Just visual disturbance ...

kiwigirl42 Fri 14-Dec-12 18:31:59

My main issue is boredom! Thank goodness for podcasts and my ipad (and my wonderful DH who does everything a lot of the time and never makes me feel guilty)

kerala Fri 14-Dec-12 18:07:41

That sounds dreadful you poor thing.

kiwigirl42 Fri 14-Dec-12 18:06:27

I get 4 to 7 days of migraine per week - its destroyed my life. I've had to give up work and are virtually house bound. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I spend up to 6 days in bed with just one migraine sometimes, unable to lie down due to pain, then might have one day off recovering before the next one kicks in. I have anti sickness injections to use at home if I can't stop vomiting and have to take morphine the pain is so horrific. Its been 5 yrs now since my migraines went from monthly to almost daily. The saddest thing is that DS (13) can't remember me being well sad
I've tried almost every drug/ complementary therapy etc available and have had heart surgery among other things - on menopause inducing injections prior to hysterectomy to see if that helps now.
Saying that, I'm quite happy in myself! I'm used to my 'new life' and don't look further than tomorrow. I have my family, my pets and generally keep on top of things.

Migraine is not just a headache.

jinglebellyalltheway Fri 14-Dec-12 18:06:22

I've read that if its early enough in the migrane, caffine can actually help, its regular caffine that makes them worse?

and QOD when I was first diagnosed with migranes it had nothing to do with headaches at all.. it was through going to the eye A&E because my eye wasn't working... which I went to at the end of my shift at work.. which I'd finished in artificial light! Migranes do all kinds of things to different parts of your body, maybe your arm, maybe your eye, maybe your digestive system (can stop peristalsis) etc. its not always a photosensitive headache for everyone

kerala Fri 14-Dec-12 17:59:05

Oh its like the flu thing - "I had flu yesterday but feel fine today" you didnt have flu then did you you muppet. I had proper flu I actually thought I was going to die blush I couldnt move for a week getting to the loo was a huge effort and it took about a month until I felt normal again.

riverboat Fri 14-Dec-12 17:40:12

Until quite recently I thought migraine was just a word for a really bad headache. Until I met a regular migraine suffererer and realised that it is something else completely. So maybe your friend's friend is just confused re the terminology, like I was.

Crinkle77 Fri 14-Dec-12 16:43:42

If she did have a migraine surely caffeine would be the last thing you would drink?

SledYuleCated Fri 14-Dec-12 16:30:50

Sounds like my old housemate. I had flu and had just about managed to shuffle from my bed to the loo, had to stop for a rest on the settee on the way back. He came through and announced he had it too, but was going to go and play cricket because exercise is good for you when your ill.

Yes, when you have a cold angry

tunnocksteacake Fri 14-Dec-12 16:27:46

Really interesting re Amitriptyline. I am not a migraine sufferer but was on Amitriptyline for a couple of years in my early 20s for depression. I had terrible trouble getting off it and had to do so super gradually because the withdrawal was giving me cracking headaches

SamuelWestsMistress Fri 14-Dec-12 16:21:04

I've suffered from silent migraines in the past. No pain at all just funny vision for about twenty minutes. No way would that stop me enjoying a fancy coffee if I'd been looking forward to it!

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Fri 14-Dec-12 16:08:47

I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about her and how she calls every headache a migraine and also about how my mum and dad call every cold "the flu"

I was joining in on a thread, its not directed at you, calm down.

ShamyFarrahCooper Fri 14-Dec-12 11:29:02

QOD that's really unfair. We can't all just take off from work when we get a migraine. I've had 3 this week. I NEED to work. It's about managing the pain, doing what works.
People suffer all sorts of illnesses and go about their jobs/lives. It's not always possible to just take to bed.

neverputasockinatoaster Fri 14-Dec-12 11:23:35

My mum gets migraines - hers make her feel sick and she feels like she needs to poke out her own eye.

If she doesn't take her meds when she feels one comimg on she is wiped out for about 3 days. However, if she takes her pills - Zomig I think they are called, as soon as she gets 'that' feeling then she is left with a headache and can function normally. Paracetemol etc don't touch hers as her stomach shuts down.

I've had one. I wanted to hide in a darkened room and not see anyone or anything.

cory Fri 14-Dec-12 09:17:32

Dd sometimes goes through a stage in her migraines (before she is sick and helpless) when she is completely hyper, in a very unhealthy way, but I imagine to people who don't know her she could come across as bright and chatty.

Later on, she gets speech confusion (as in being unable to remember any words at all) and excruciating pain.

Also worth remembering that some people react to pain and fear by bubbly chattiness. I do, it's a way of keeping yourself under control. I had 40 minutes surgery last year and the local anaesthetic didn't take, so felt every twinge: I somehow got into my head that it was my job to make cheerful conversation with the doctor throughout so she wouldn't get too tired.

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Fri 14-Dec-12 09:06:06

There's an anti depressant, Amytriptyline, that has been shown to reduce the number and severity of migraines. DP is on this one and it is working for him.

Fakebook migraines do not always involve headaches, but I agree that people with ordinary headaches should not call them migraines.

Fakebook Thu 13-Dec-12 17:40:08

Yanbu. When I get migraines I feel sick, my left eye feels like its about to pop out and no paracetamol or ibuprofen touches it. I have to just lay very very still in the dark with a pillow fluffed up under my neck to get a bit of relief. It starts normally during the night and I wake up with it and it stays all day. The worse time it happened about 2 years ago I vomited twice and fainted whilst trying to get up the stairs.

I hate people trying to pass off a minor headache as a migraine. Arseholes.

slatternlymother Thu 13-Dec-12 17:25:04

Strawberries I love you! You are such a cheeky tease, purposely missing the point. You have cheered me up no end

grin and I love YOU op!

YANBU btw. I don't suffer, but DH gets them about once a year. He can barely speak more than a few words at a time, at a whisper. It frightens me every time, I get scared and think he's going to die or something sad

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 17:22:52

QOD I can finish my shift at work in the early stages of my migranes. In the later stages I would actually shoot my own head off to make it stop if I had a gun and cannot do anything but dark room

but I can and have finished work first

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Thu 13-Dec-12 17:20:46

My mum and dad get terrible flu ... Uh no it's a cold?

Someone at work does the migraines thing, but she can sit there, in artificial light, on a pc, eating and talking, that's a headache ... Not a migraine!

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 17:16:02

TMI oh and at some point before the one eyed blindness stage, I'll sometimes just out of the blue bring back up my lunch totally undigested - no stomach juices in it at all

there can be so many different stages to a migrane other than the severe headache bit

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 17:13:54

"I get visual migraines with no pain. I just go blind in my left eye and get pins and needles down the left side of my face and neck. They're unpleasant and make me feel a bit drunk, but I could manage coffee with friends without too much issue"

mine are just like that on day one, my sight goes in one eye but no pain, and I never get any verbal disturbances at any point although during day 2 in bed I don't want to talk

but when its the visual stuff I am otherwise fine. I can hold a conversation and other than driving do most things

I do think that people are compeditive about their migraines though

MyLittleAprilSunshine Thu 13-Dec-12 17:05:23

I have suffered with migraines on and off since hitting puberty and you can tell the difference from a normal headache which I do get as well (I go quiet, my head hurts a bit and sometimes feel slightly nauseous) and having a migraine (I need to be in the dark, quite a cool room, with pretty much no light and no sound snad I could easily vomit, I also feel dizzy).

I couldn't sit and smile and make jokes in a coffee shop, but perhaps she's just great at hiding it.

LadyFlumpalot Thu 13-Dec-12 17:01:17

I've had a few. Only one (touch wood) with debilitating pain. The first one was aura only and I was so scared, I thought I was losing my sight.

I tend to get a blind spot then flashy lines, usually just in one eye. Then comes dizziness, nausea and I start slurring my speech. Then I get the headache. Usually it's bearable, but once - oh my... I seriously thought I was dying.

StinkyWicket Thu 13-Dec-12 16:41:34

I was so concerned that my really bad headaches (they are undiagnosed as migraines but I think I may have to speak with a doc about them - basically headaches so bad I can't function or speak properly and often just have to lie in a cool dark room whimpering to myself) would get worse during pregnancy, but actually they disappeared for a while.

During my second pregnancy I did have a never-ending headache which paracetamol could keep at bay, it was linked to anaemia.

OP, I might be judgy but it would annoy me too! A friend I work with - she's lovely - but she insists she has a migraine sometimes. It's never enough for her to even take any painkillers for it.

I've just googled it, and all definitions (ok, probably not all, but the first four or 5 definitions at least) define it as '..a chronic disorder characterized by recurrent moderate to severe headaches often in association with a number of autonomic nervous system symptoms'. I didn't know you could get them without the headache part.

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