to ask if your Christmas is looking very similar to the Asda mums?

(72 Posts)
kim147 Thu 13-Dec-12 11:35:48

So far...

Or are you working as a team with your OH smile

Jingleflobba Thu 13-Dec-12 12:11:32

So far yes. And I will get my arse handed to me on a plate for this but I enjoy organising Christmas!! I will do the dinner on the day but DH and the DC's will wash up and clear away. Then we start all over again for the party we're having in the evening.
DH doesn't like Christmas at all so he is happy to hand it over to me and I am happy to do it. The only thing that will piss me off is that as usual MIL will try and give him all the credit. Thankfully he holds his hands up and points her in my direction grin

TheSecondComing Thu 13-Dec-12 12:20:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

zaphod Thu 13-Dec-12 12:21:23

Yes, as usual. And the worst part is when he falls asleep on the sofa after our Christmas eve party, having had one too many, leaving me to heft down the Santa gifts from the attic, and fill our 5 dcs's stockings singlehandedly, having done the buying and wrapping. I could mention the Christmas where the one thing I asked was that he turn the tap on in the kitchen so the pipes wouldn't freeze, he claims he didn't hear ad we were without water for 6 days (including Christmas Day)

PeshwariNaan Thu 13-Dec-12 12:23:17

No, DH does most of the cooking on Christmas (though it's me the other days of the year). He gets a kick out of scheduling it all and doing the turkey. I do potatoes, cranberry sauce, veg, etc. but essentially we work together. How could anyone possibly do it alone?! Even with the two of us it takes 8 bloody hours!!

That said I'll be 37 weeks pregnant this year so I expect him to do most himself...

Badvocsanta Thu 13-Dec-12 12:27:12

Erm...in some ways.
I do all the shopping (online)
I wrap it all.
I do the food shopping and cook it.
Dh does the dishes.
I usually get to have a nap at some point.
If dh wants tea on Xmas day he knows me well enough by now that he gets whatever he makes himself!
The only thing dh has to organise is my gifts and he usually leaves that til Xmas eve smile
Oh TSC...that's so crap sad can you and your dm return yours? as your mil is being a cow about it and get them something else?
I deal with pils and sil directly. Learnt that long ago!...

MsVestibule Thu 13-Dec-12 12:35:05

TheSecondComing why are raging at your MIL? Surely this is solely the fault of your DH confused. And if it happens every year, why haven't you done anything to stop it from happening every year?

MyNameIsLola Thu 13-Dec-12 12:36:56

Absolutely not.

I have done most of the present buying because I have more time to shop, I will write the cards because DH's handwriting is bloody awful.

We put the decorations and tree up as a family at the weekend and the cooking will be up to him on both Christmas day and for our annual big Boxing Day party, although I will pitch in a little between untwisting those bloody wires on the boxes of toys and assembling train sets.

akaemmafrost Thu 13-Dec-12 12:39:54

I don't have an OH and my children won't eat Christmas Dinner, they'll have their favourite meals for lunch Pizza for one and a little buffet for the other (both ASD).

All presents are bought, not wrapped yet though, shopping order booked for 23rd, little trip to M&S for some nice things for me and a bottle of wine a couple of days before at 9.00 am to avoid crowds and that's it. I am all over it this year.

Colliecollie Thu 13-Dec-12 12:52:55

Nothing like it!!

Treats Thu 13-Dec-12 12:53:37

No! Nothing like it. I've bought presents for my family and he's bought presents for his - although we discuss it between us and remind each other and he did a big Amazon order which was full of stuff for both sides.

I've bought and wrapped some things for DD's stocking and he's been gradually adding to the stash with a few things that he thinks she'll like.

I sent cards to my family members on Sunday, and he wrote cards for his family and friends on Tuesday night. I'm going to do my friends' cards this w/e.

He took DD out on Saturday to get the tree and also bought a wreath which he then spent the afternoon prettying up with extra baubles.

I made some bread sauce and cranberry sauce for the freezer last week. We'll all go to do a Big Shop together this weekend and get stuck into some cooking for the freezer together on Saturday pm - DD will help with the tree biscuits. On the day we'll have a schedule and divvy up the tasks - which will include something for everyone to do (10 in all) including DD - mainly because I know everyone will offer and it's better to have thought in advance what would be helpful.

It's much more fun to do it all together imo. If I was doing it all myself, we wouldn't HAVE tree biscuits or home made bread sauce - I'd be too stressed and knackered and would have to cut corners.

youarewinning Thu 13-Dec-12 12:53:39

Nope!

Another singleton here with just 1 DS (aged 8). He has helped with tree and decs and will help with mad dash clean up op for 'the big day!' over the weekend. I work in a school so both of us don't break up until Friday and will attempt to do as much washing and ironing and packing away as I can until Sunday evening as I refused to do it the 3 days over Christmas.

I have friend and her DC's over on Christmas eve and will do a little buffet and Elves will visit! Christmas morning will be breakfast at home with DS and then Mum and dads for Christmas lunch with them and my sister, brother and nephew. Boxing day will be back at mums for another meet up and my brothers girlfriend will be there so we exchange gifts with her.

ChristmasIsAcumenin Thu 13-Dec-12 12:55:14

I have done everything except bought my own presents and I think DP has bought my dad's present. I always do it all but I don't actually find it in the least stressful or time consuming (freakish, I know, I'm sorry!). I just sort of got the hang of it when I was about 25 and now it's sorted. I do everything online, except baking, obviously.

Sometimes I cook two full Christmas dinners on the day (one at dad's house, one for DP here). This year my brother will cook my dad's so I'm just cooking DPs. I always eat two dinners. grin Glutton!

FrequentFlyerRandomDent Thu 13-Dec-12 13:04:29

For now yes. DH announced that, because he is so busy with work, I am in charge of Christmas this year.

And I thought Santa was... Argh. Where do I find a sleigh and six flying reindeers?

As for the more mundane bits of Christmas, I am doing cards, decorating, shopping.

MIL will do dinner and BIL is sorting out crackers etc, so the actual day is team work.

TheSecondComing Thu 13-Dec-12 13:12:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lemonylemon Thu 13-Dec-12 13:16:17

TSC To be honest, in future I wouldn't bother telling him what you've organised for the kids. Let him and his bloody mother figure something out for themselves. Time to stop being helpful....

elfyrespect Thu 13-Dec-12 13:27:39

Mine is. I'm in the middle of sewing tinsel onto an angel dress right now.
I hate admitting it on here though - it's like you're some sort of loser.

I deal with the school related stuff anyway and there's a lot of school related christmas stuff.
And being quick to defend myself: I am currently on maternity leave while DH is at work. And, having a new baby, I am keen to be ahead of the game this year.

SantaWearsGreen Thu 13-Dec-12 13:28:53

I actually do think asda 'martyr' mums still exist, or at least mums (or dads) who have no choice but to do everything through seperation, death or oh working long hours/away. I don't think it is THAT unrealistic.

My mum and nan are both total martyrs. Oh I am so tired, stressed, nobody helps etc. 'Do you want some help' No I was about to do it anyway or when you do help 'oh ffs you're not doing it right, let me do it'.

I refuse to be like that. DH wraps because I am the worlds worst wrapper, we 50/50 do the cooking or one cooks and the other washes up, I do the present buying but I do it all online.. I think that is it.

Allegrogirl Thu 13-Dec-12 13:32:26

No.

I have done the present shopping because a) I enjoy it b) I'm better at it c) I'm part time so have more time to do it. I have also done the majority of card writing because DH just isn't bothered.

DH hoovered and cleared a space for the tree while I went out and bought it. He did the window and tree lights while I helped the DDs to decorate.

We're spending Christmas with the in-laws but DH and I will cook together (MIL not a great cook) whilst GPs entertain children. MIL and FIL will tidy and wash up.

The most irritating thing about the Asda ad is the way mum shops, cooks and washes up single handed, and doesn't even get a proper chair at the table!

Sonatensatz Thu 13-Dec-12 13:33:41

Well, I do all the christmas shopping and wrapping, because I enjoy choosing presents and dh is rubbish at choosing presents.

This year we're at my parents where my brothers will be dominating the kitchen (1 is a chef) and my mum will be trying hard to get a look in as she loves cooking. Dad will be in charge of the washing up I'll offer to help and get turned down 'cause I'm not up to his standard

If we were at home I'd do all the cooking but Dh would do the washing up.

TwinklingWonderland Thu 13-Dec-12 13:34:02

No. Dp is as offended by the advert as me. He does at least half the cleaning and housework, probably more, but then I tend to do more of dc bedtimed etc

PrincessMononoke Thu 13-Dec-12 13:35:15

No not really, I have done more of the present shopping, but everything else we will split.

StuntGirl Thu 13-Dec-12 13:39:41

Nothing like it. Thank god.

Well I loathe advert, but its so far rather accurate.
I've bought the presents, ordered the food, made decorations with the kids etc.
He only has to buy something for me and his mum. Hasn't done either yet.
But he will be washing up on Xmas day, and to be fair I'm at home and he's not.

As a single parent the work is all down to me.

However I have opted out of being a martyr. I am not having any ungrateful presumptuous guests round this year expecting to be waited on, riling me and overstaying their welcome.

I am enjoying it just me and DS and some simple food. Oh and I will have him all day and night as it seems his dad is opting out of seeing his little boy on Christmas Day this year. Useless wanker. So I shall also get to snuggle up and watch Doctor Who with him Christmas night too.

diddl Thu 13-Dec-12 13:41:49

We´re not working as a team.

I´m going away & leaving it all up to him to sort out.

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