I am a regular but have namechanged because I don?t want to be recognised in rl.
Me and DH are in the process of splitting up. I don?t want to go into details, but there was fault on both sides, neither of us is perfect, we have both acknowledged our part but the relationship is beyond salvage. We are splitting amicably but at the moment are still living under the same roof.
My family have remained on good terms with DH because firstly he hasn?t done anything to them, and secondly there are children so it is in their interests to all stay on good terms for their sakes too. His family on the other hand have completely cut me dead since DH told them, have refused to speak to me, haven?t said anything to me openly but have maintained a silence. Even though we had a very good relationship before me and h split.
I?ve just opened a Christmas card from one of DH?s aunties. Someone we don?t see often but with whom I?ve always got on really well. It was addressed to h and the dc. They know I am still here as I?m not moving out until after the New Year.
I know it?s just a Christmas card but it has upset me more than I can say. It is such a deliberate and visible snub and will now go on display to everyone who comes into this house. Even my ds asked why I wasn?t named and said that I should have been because I?m still living here.
Me and h are still friends and on speaking terms and yet his family can?t even be civil enough to name me in a Christmas card which also includes my children. And I feel as if they are sending a message to the children that it?s ok to take sides and that it?s ok for them to not want anything to do with their mummy.
I am sitting here in floods of tears and know I need to get a grip but ibu?
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To be sobbing over a Christmas card? Or are they in the right?
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TheGostOfChristmasCards · 11/12/2012 16:27
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