Dreaded facebook.....AIBU?

(18 Posts)
SproutsMakeRudolphPongwiffy Sat 08-Dec-12 08:31:16

I've been having trouble with the in-laws, am very down about it all and want some space. I want to remove all of them from my facebook. DH doesn't want me to as I have nice photos of DD on there. I think that it's up to me. I use Facebook to keep in touch with friends etc, have a select friend list and high privacy settings. I'm not actually friends with them so why should I have them on my fb?! I don't think that IABU but mumsnet jury it's up to you..... Also people managed to exist before Facebook. It just feels like I'm reclaiming some control over my life.

Kinora Sat 08-Dec-12 08:32:57

Yanbu.

Your Facebook, your choice.

ohfunnyface Sat 08-Dec-12 08:33:50

Yanbu

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Sat 08-Dec-12 08:34:29

Depends on the trouble.

they could be genuine nightmare in laws or you could be stripping by cutting them off.

Not sure if yabu or not.

I'm thinking of doing the same thing, yanbu.
There is a fued going on with my ils and if they can't guilt trip dh, they try messaging me to cause more trouble.
No 'friend' no messages no problem imo. I'm even thinking of closing my account.

ChildoftheMonkeyBasket Sat 08-Dec-12 08:35:05

I deleted all my in laws from my Facebook, as like you they are not my friends, plus my MIL had made a hurtful comment about me. I feel much better now I can not see them nor them me, not that I use FB very often.
Delete them.

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Sat 08-Dec-12 08:35:06

Lol stroping not stripping

QuietNinjaChristmasSpecial Sat 08-Dec-12 08:35:14

Can you just hide them? Then you can't see them on there. Not sure if that stops them seeing your page or not.

FestiveWench Sat 08-Dec-12 08:48:24

Tell your dh to put the photos up on his account.

Bonbonchance Sat 08-Dec-12 10:12:25

You could put them on a select list that restricts what they can see, and the same for photo albums, you can set who gets to see it (e.g. "All friends EXCEPT inlaws"!)

or you could do what a friend of mind did due to awkward inlaws, created another page, said "officially" she was deleting her old one, messaged her friends and told them she wasn't but it was an inlaws one so just play along! So she could happily unfriend inlaws from page she uses daily. Hardly ever uses the new one, think now & again she puts a photo of her daughter on or something. A bit of hassle for you to begin with but avoids awkwardness over having to delete them if you'd rather.

But yeah YANBU in wanting to delete them!

roses2 Sat 08-Dec-12 10:22:57

Change their friendship status to "restricted". That way, it looks as though you are still friends with them but they can't see a thing on your profile. Therefore you will not antagonise them by deleting them.

threesocksfullofchocs Sat 08-Dec-12 10:24:31

delete them, I did with my sil and her family after she was a cow

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf Sat 08-Dec-12 10:34:29

I deleted SIL last year because I couldn't stand her drivel anymore! Best thing I've ever done!

Never been mentioned! But she does comment on all posts dh and I are tagged in because she can see them as she is still friends with him!

I did hide here and put her on restricted first, but knowing she was there pissed me off!

It depends on how you think they will react. Are the likely to hunt you down?

PurpleRayne Sat 08-Dec-12 10:44:37

You could deactivate your account for now. Set up a new account just for your friends only. Sorted.

TrillsCarolsOutOfTune Sat 08-Dec-12 10:51:26

Facebook is not the issue here.

The issue is that you are having problems with your in-laws and you and your DH disagree about who is in the wrong or who has behaved badly.

lola88 Sat 08-Dec-12 11:00:28

I deleted FIL's partner and her daughter because they reported all i posted to FIL who then called DP to ask why i was saying xyz simple things like if we are out where was DS as if we'd just left him to fend for himself or why did i post pics of DS for the whole world to see like you i only have actual friends and family and all my privicy settings on! No ones ever mentioned it tbh i was hoping they would to give me an excuse to tell him to fuck off set him straight.

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf Sat 08-Dec-12 11:34:20

I secretly hopes that too Lola! But alas nothing! She has so many fb friends, eleventy twelve at the last count, she might not have noticed I'm not there!

SproutsMakeRudolphPongwiffy Sat 08-Dec-12 15:40:00

Dooooone! Feels so liberating grin

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