to chase this debt?

[bugslife]

I arranged to send some flowers on behalf of my four siblings when a family member died a few month ago. I asked for the money to be transferred into my bank account. I'm still owed the money from three of them - its not a huge amount - £30 (a tenner each) but we are so seriously broke, any little helps. For some reason, this just popped into my head today.

AIBU to follow it up? (they are all more comfortable then us btw)
Or do I look mean?

[DamnBamboo]

Just remind them and say I'm short and I would like the money you owe me so I can finish my christmas shopping.

If you have already agreed this then no YANBU

[whois]

If you need it follow it up, can't help being broke. They probably just forgot.

Not sure how to phrase it nicely tho.

[EverybodysSnowyEyed]

I'm really sorry to chase you about this but we are running into a few difficulties in the run up to Xmas and could really do with this cash

[EverybodysSnowyEyed]

Actually that makes it sound like they are doing you a favour

Do you think they have just forgotten?

[BluelightsAndSirens]

Can you call them for a hello chat and then add that Christmas is fast approaching so you really would appreciate it if they could send you the £10 for the flowers?

[bugslife]

They have just forgotten. Re xmas shopping, I have already said no presents this year (we have done this on both sides) though I do get selection boxes for their Dcs and will send some home made biscuits but they may still buy for our Dcs (who are under 5, theirs are all in early teens).

[mothmagnet]

Yes, ask them like EverybodySnowyEyed said originally.

It's the kind of thing I'd forget, or dismiss as a tenner owed for the distant future but would appreciate a reminder of.

[bugslife]

I feel bad for asking....two of them will be fine about it, the other, who can afford it most, will probably call me on it and call me tight.

[FlourFace]

You shouldn't have to justify asking for it! I would say, 'Hi guys! Just a polite reminder - could you please send that money you owe me for the flowers! Thanks :-)"

[FlourFace]

And if two of them call you up on it so what if you offend them - you don't need twats like that in you're life! Twats.

[FlourFace]

(via text)

[bugslife]

Yes Flourface, I need to be bright 'n' breezy, perhaps an email along lines suggested, 'hello, a polite reminder for this, it all helps in the run up to Christmas?'
It will just be one sibling who will make me feel shitty and whose response I am dreading, a tenner is nothing to them, so will make me feel bad by saying 'bugslife I spend ££ on your kids and you want a tenner off me'.

[FlourFace]

If they say that then say, 'I know, that's great of you. It's embarrassing asking but I am really poor at the moment.'

There's not much they can say to that.

Bloody hate it when people don't pay their debts. So rude!

[WinkyWinkola]

Broke or not, they owe you money. And you organised the flowers too!

I sometimes wonder if people who are well off are that way not just through luck and graft iyswim!

Call them on money they owe you. It's not tight at all.

[BluelightsAndSirens]

It doesn't matter how much they spend they owe you!

[bugslife]

Said sibling just does not understand being broke.

Ha Winky, I think that too, I have a well of friend who sends 'birthday gifts' all nicely wrapped which in fact are her DCs cast offs and thinks nobody notices!

[RobotLover68]

I've a sibling who does this to me time and time again and they are as rich as Croesus - funny they never seem to have any cash on them and I pay for something with promises of paying back which never materialise - I am so fed with it, I have to ask for it every single time - earlier this week it was less than a tender but I still had to ask

[RobotLover68]

Tender = tenner

[cozietoesie]

Don't feel bad, bugslife. You were the one that spent the money with a promise of repayment so now you're owed it back - and £30 in total is not inconsiderable just before Xmas. Just a bright little email reminding them. They've probably forgotten.