...to kick up a fuss because DS (7) was confronted with (soft) porn on school's iPad?

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allrightluv Wed 05-Dec-12 19:13:26

DS is 7. He and a friend were using the school's new iPads in class. His friend googled some explicit words and, hey presto, they stumbled across some soft porn... Luckily only breasts, butts but no genitalia. But still: This should't happen at school!!! Can't decide how enraged I should be about this...

GreatUncleEddie Fri 07-Dec-12 07:57:37

grin Nice link feenie

freddiefrog Thu 06-Dec-12 23:19:16

I put a filter on our computer and then it wouldn't let me google anything with our old county in the title as it had sex in it.

It got turned off

whois Thu 06-Dec-12 22:27:01

This just reminded of when my daughter was about seven or eight and wondered how to tell the difference between male and female dogs. I'm 101% sure that she will never google 'dog sex' again

Very funny!!

Feenie Thu 06-Dec-12 22:17:11

Ha ha! Yes, Scunthorpe residents had a similar problem years ago. grin

GreatUncleEddie Thu 06-Dec-12 22:06:34

Ha ha. I did like the story about socialist worker staff getting loads of email blocked because the word socialist, which presumably featured highly in their correspondence, includes the word cialis

EuphemiaInExcelsis Thu 06-Dec-12 19:52:13

My DH had a phone call from the internet police at his workplace to check whether it was okay to release to him some emails that had been blocked by their filters as they had the words "birds" and "sex" in the subject.

DH is a zoology prof! grin

Catsnotrats Thu 06-Dec-12 19:51:41

I've googled the same without safe search and I think that I have the same results as you greatuncle

Although the dog sex was a little more interesting!

GreatUncleEddie Thu 06-Dec-12 19:08:42

I Have locked google safe search on our iPad. (Yes, I know the kids could use another search engine if they wanted to circumvent this. ). I have googled breasts - and got images of woman in bras and bikinis. Russian birds got me ornithology sites. Nice biscuits got me nice biscuits! Dog sex got newspaper articles about a man convicted for same. I'm quite impressed so far. Off to clear my search history now!

lljkk Thu 06-Dec-12 10:37:13

So you are sure that the unsuitable images you found from searching on home PC are the exact same ones your son saw on school iPads?

Even if not, it's a reasonable concern to raise, but I would be unsure about insisting that I knew exactly what they'd found, and how unsuitable it was. Only that it sounded rather unsuitable.

I've got too many filters on my home computers to see anything but head shots of clothed women if I google "naked girl". And even then a password is required to search images. So I can't see the same things as you've found.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Thu 06-Dec-12 10:35:36

I would be annoyed with the school. The school's filters really should stop that sort of search. Of course you also need to chat to your son.

merlottits Thu 06-Dec-12 10:02:33

It reminds me of the time I walked in to the living room a few years back and caught DS, then aged 8, googling 'huge tits'.

Trying to tell him off while shaking with laughter was so hard grin

allrightluv Thu 06-Dec-12 10:00:43

pictures were not clinical, but on the erotic to soft porn side. try googling "naked girl" and see how many "clinical" images you get...

lljkk Thu 06-Dec-12 09:51:13

Testing our filters, I find if I google breasts I get pictures of naked breasts. Ditto for penis or even vagina. Never mind arse.

They are clinical, could be out of a text book, just pictures of parts of the naked body.

I wouldn't call them porn just because they are naked parts of the body.

So yes I would complain, but I wouldn't call it porn. Not sure exactly what OP's son saw, but I suspect it was more along lines of medical text book pictures than "soft porn".

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly Thu 06-Dec-12 09:42:24

erm...

teaguzzler Thu 06-Dec-12 09:06:09

We are all getting our knickers in a twist somewhat. Seeking out these images has always been a rite of passage for kids.

I once taught in a school where some year 7 boys were caught up a tree reading a playboy magazine. One of the boys got such a shock when caught by the teacher on duty he fell out of the tree and broke his arm. I still remember him waiting for his mum to come and get him begging us not to tell her what he had been doing! We all, including his mum, found it all rather amusing (not the broken arm bit obviously)

I think the difference these days is that while the intentions of the children may still be relatively innocent, we know that the images they potentially have access to may not be. That highlights the importance of supervision

AndABigBirdInaPearTree Thu 06-Dec-12 06:36:47

I remember the day in primary school when we all found out what shit meant!

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly Thu 06-Dec-12 06:35:01

I think some people have forgotten what it's like to be a child grin

When I was a kid I spent many a furtive moment looking up 'naughty' words in the dictionary grin

Kids do that sort of stuff. Snigger at naughty words, love poo and bum and fart. Find the rude swearwords!

We just have to guide them through that.

Tell the school that they may want to look at their filters. Explain what happened. And talk to your son about it all. What's appropriate and when. And address his body curiosity.

AndABigBirdInaPearTree Thu 06-Dec-12 06:25:59

yeah, I would be really careful how you phrase it so it doesn't sound like ranty pissed off mum and instead comes across as hey, thought you might like to know this.

Something along the lines of that you thought they might want a heads up that the kids were able to get to some inappropriate pictures and that you will be addressing what is ok and what isn't ok to look up on the computer at home with DC, but that you thought the teacher might like to know so she can hit it her end too. I would also mention that if the IT manager wants to know what triggered the search you'd be happy to communicate with them too.

Endofmyfeather Thu 06-Dec-12 05:27:28

"I just think if we remove all risk from our children's lives we are depriving them of the opportunity to learn to manage it for themselves"

Absolutely agree.

moonstorm Wed 05-Dec-12 23:09:28

Teaguzzler I just think if we remove all risk from our children's lives we are depriving them of the opportunity to learn to manage it for themselves

exactly this - I totally agree.

Bogeyface Wed 05-Dec-12 22:59:51

And the telling off mainly focussed around breaking the rules, not the actual stuff he was searching for. I told him that if I had done that at work then I could lose my job and that rules are there for a reason. I explained that sometimes you dont understand the reason but you must accept that someone has made that rule and you must follow it, or suffer the consequences.

Bogeyface Wed 05-Dec-12 22:56:32

Not at school but when DS was about 7 or 8 (he is 22 now) he was into X-Men, and got Action Man for Xmas.

That was a lesson very quickly learned by both of us! grin

The reason he got in trouble at school was for googling "naked ladies". I was actually quite touched by the naivety of it, considering he was about 12 at the time! Still put a rocket up him about it though!

katiecubs Wed 05-Dec-12 22:54:30

I hardly think you need to have a 'stern' word with DS as some posters have said!

Surely it's all very normal behaviour for a curious 7yo?! Perhaps get some books out of the library on the human body instead.

I do think it's worth mentioning to the school though as I'm sure they would like to be aware and improve their filters.

FlojoHoHoHo Wed 05-Dec-12 22:45:05

The children are taught not to click on the 'images' tab in my school. I got told off by a 10 yr old for clicking on it, as I didn't realise it was banned!

HenriettaTurkey Wed 05-Dec-12 22:43:38

My DH googled images for the Vernacular Architecture Group using just their initials.

It got very biological very quickly.

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