About buying BIL underwear for Christmas

(46 Posts)
PurpleTinsel Tue 04-Dec-12 23:24:20

I had a chat with DSis on the phone today. During the conversation, I asked if she had any idea what BIL might like for Christmas. She said that BIL would like some underwear. I was a bit confused "Really???" but DSis insisted that this would be a good present. Even told me what size to get.

The more I think about this, the more uncomfortable I'm getting with the idea. It just seems a little too intimate.

WIBU to call DSis back tomorrow and tell her that I don't feel comfortable buying BIL underwear for Christmas? Or am I being a bit prudish here?

McChristmasPants2012 Tue 04-Dec-12 23:27:11

Yanbu I would be very worried if my sister bought DH some boxers

I think you are being a bit prudish tbh. Its no more intimate than buying socks.

jennywren123 Tue 04-Dec-12 23:28:58

YADNBU that is a bit ewwwww hmm

I would buy something else and if the topic comes up in conversation, just say one of the following -

Sorry, I'd forgotten I'd already brought him xyz

Sorry, people must have been panic buying, none left in M&S

Sorry, I would find it a bit weird buying underwear for BIL

PurpleTinsel Tue 04-Dec-12 23:40:37

Chris - surely it's a little bit more intimate than a pair of socks? Feet have no sexual connotations as far as I'm concerned (but maybe they do to everyone else?)

TuftyFinch Tue 04-Dec-12 23:42:56

Buy him a nice thong or some big Y fronts. She won't suggest it again.

If I had a BIL then his penis would have no sexual connotations to me either grin
Would you buy him trousers?

catus Tue 04-Dec-12 23:48:42

If your relationship with them is normal, they obviously think it's an ok present to ask for. What you do is up to you, but unless you are really, really, really bothered, I suggest you go to M&S and buy some nice quality underwear.
I don't think it is a big deal personally.

floweryblue Tue 04-Dec-12 23:49:23

Your DSIS is just getting familiar with her DPs undies and she doesn't l;ike what she she sees, so fresh ones that justify her getting rid of the old ones, seems a good idea to me x

TuftyFinch Tue 04-Dec-12 23:54:57

I wouldn't want my BIL buying my pants. I just wouldn't.

ravenAK Tue 04-Dec-12 23:55:52

We (collectively, me dh & the dc) bought BIL some Big Pants last year.

As expected, he immediately donned them - over trousers - & wore them all day. Dc thought it was hilarious.

But then, dh & I once had to practically carry each other out of Hallmark due to the hysterics engendered by buying BIL birthday socks embroidered with the name 'Ken' (BIL is called Ben), so we possibly already have an unhealthy relationship wrt to sniggering at poor BIL's underwear.

But no, I probably wouldn't buy BIL grundies as a proper present. Get him some nice socks!

ChippingInLovesAutumn Wed 05-Dec-12 00:06:59

Wouldn't bother me at all - it's not as though he's going to strip off and try them on is it grin

StuntGirl Wed 05-Dec-12 00:08:10

My DP days buy him extra small and say "Dsis told me this would be the right size" - she won't do it again!

marimama Wed 05-Dec-12 00:11:50

My brothers, dad and my DH got same underwear for christmas one year. Forget which one of them bought for the others, but they were tiny camouflage pants, and they put them on over trousers and still laugh about it now. Guess it depends on your family!! wink

Mostly on how you think your BIL will react to gift. Good lick shopping!

marimama Wed 05-Dec-12 00:13:05

Errr. Good LUck shopping. blush

Stonefield Wed 05-Dec-12 00:17:01

If I received underwear from SIL or anyone else other than my DP I would feel weird. Get him something else. It's not like getting socks, but then I reckon no one but my mother or my DP can buy me socks anyway.
Just sounds weird to me, can't she suggest something else?

TrazzleMISTLEtoes Wed 05-Dec-12 00:31:02

My MIL always bought me lacy pants for Christmas. When she died, my Aunt in law took over blush

OkayHazel Wed 05-Dec-12 00:58:54

If she has suggested it, it is okay.

It's not buying a man undies on a whim, it's his wife saying that he needs some and asking you to help.

Steer clear of man thongs though!

AdoraJingleBells Wed 05-Dec-12 02:31:04

YANBU, I wouldn't buy undies for a BIL, or a DB. Maybe get him a voucher from whichever store he likes his undies from. It's such a personal thing, IMO, that I just wouldn't feel comfortable.

SomersetONeil Wed 05-Dec-12 02:40:22

It was only a suggestion, not a command.

If you don't want to buy BIL undies, then don't. Just get him something else.

Am I missing something? Are either of them even going to notice, let alone mind if you decide to buy him something else?

HalloweenNameChange Wed 05-Dec-12 02:46:02

Just a multi pack from m&s or next right? not a big deal..wouldn't go picking special ones though. Get something xmasy.

honeytea Wed 05-Dec-12 02:52:50

I buy my brother funny underwear, ones with transformers or something we liked as kids on some years.

If you don't feel happy about it just buy some vouchers and give them to BIL.

catgirl1976geesealaying Wed 05-Dec-12 08:51:14

Wouldn't bother me at all

It's only some pants

It's not like you have to see him in them

I'm sure DSis has bought DH some boxers in the past

I don't think he boffed her in gratitude

SomersetONeil Wed 05-Dec-12 09:04:31

It's all this talk of calling DSis back and being 'prudish' that I don't get.

Putting aside the fact that it's men's undies - plastic-wrapped and multi-packed up - they really are pretty a-sexual. Surely a bit of a mountain being made out of a molehill. Buy them, don't buy them. No need for any angst.

TheShriekingHarpy Wed 05-Dec-12 09:06:23

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