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to think that my friend shouldn't just let her 1yr old scream in public

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fexedmamma Wed 28-Nov-12 16:45:57

he's always been a loud baby. He screams a lot (although only in public). It's not screams of anger or upset. It's more like screaming for screaming's sake. My friend just sits there whilst everyone around whinces in pain (it's an ear-piercing pitch). This happens is resturaunts and libraries. I find it very stressful and unpleasant. Worse still, my kids (who aren't screamers) start to copy.

takataka Wed 28-Nov-12 16:48:25

definitely. She should put the baby in a cupboard when he starts to scream. Or put a pillow over his head. Or maybe never go out in public with him at all.

WhatsTheBuzz Wed 28-Nov-12 16:49:40

so, what's your solution?

MrsjREwing Wed 28-Nov-12 16:51:01

A WWII gasmask should do the trick, baby will be upset, you won't be stressed though.

PessimisticMissPiggy Wed 28-Nov-12 16:51:50

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charlmarascoxo Wed 28-Nov-12 16:52:41

Hmm I agree with the cupboard suggestion.

Or invest in some ear muffs.

SneakyNuts Wed 28-Nov-12 16:53:09

Oh fucking hell.

What do you suggest she does, OP?

RyleDup Wed 28-Nov-12 16:53:55

Yes you're right op. She is clearly a terrible parent who has no idea how to control her child. Please tell her she needs a roll of gafer tape. Every good parenting books suggests this. This will solve the problem quickly and effectively.

WhatsTheBuzz Wed 28-Nov-12 16:53:57

Maybe the baby just doesn't like you OP?

WildWorld2004 Wed 28-Nov-12 16:54:35

I totally get what you mean. Your friend could just ask her child to stop or destract them with something else so they stop screaming. I dont think there is any need to LET a child scream.

Discipline. Screaming unnecessarily is out of order IMO and the child needs to be told firmly that this is the case. What a brat! I'd not meet up with them that would stress me and DD out too...

WhatsTheBuzz Wed 28-Nov-12 16:56:31

hahahah how many 1yo babies have you successfully persuaded to stop doing something by asking them, wildworld?

Ellellie Wed 28-Nov-12 16:58:15

I suggest you keep your distance in the future.

Nobody wants to be friends with a judgey know-it-all

fexedmamma Wed 28-Nov-12 16:58:39

What do I suggest she does?

Distract comes to mind.

Mintyy Wed 28-Nov-12 16:58:46

Its a developmental phase and I have found that most babies can be persuaded not to do it repeatedly. Takes a bit of effort though!

Yanbu.

coppertop Wed 28-Nov-12 17:00:20

So it's not your fault when your children scream, but it's your friend's fault if her child screams? confused

SamSmalaidh Wed 28-Nov-12 17:00:37

Maybe you could try distracting him every time he does it? It might just not have occurred to her that it is something she could and should stop.

CecilyP Wed 28-Nov-12 17:02:20

You're right. Gaffa tape is very effective!

CecilyP Wed 28-Nov-12 17:04:59

Or a polite, 'please stop screaming, DC, fexedmamma is getting a little annoyed', might do the trick.

SusanneLinder Wed 28-Nov-12 17:06:45

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fexedmamma Wed 28-Nov-12 17:07:57

"Its a developmental phase and I have found that most babies can be persuaded not to do it repeatedly."

My kids never did it, so have they skipped an important developmental phase?

And how can a parent get them to stop?

Janeatthebarre Wed 28-Nov-12 17:09:12

If she just sits there smiling and ignoring him YANBU. She should try and distract him, walk him around or take him outside if its a restaurant or library.

WildWorld2004 Wed 28-Nov-12 17:09:21

WhatstheBuzz even at 1 years old a child is old enough to be asked to do something. Just because the child is a year old it should be allowed to scream?

fexedmamma Wed 28-Nov-12 17:09:44

coppertop - the minute my kids start copying, I tell them to stop because it's too loud and then distract them. That works.

Yet my friend just sits there and lets her son scream the whole resturaunt down.

SneakyNuts Wed 28-Nov-12 17:10:08

My 1yo DD has just learnt how to do this- I try to distract her but it just feeds it to be honest.

Asking a 1 year old to kindly stop screaming...good one!

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