To not go out and rescue dp at 5am as that is what we have breakdown cover for?!

(40 Posts)
MummysHappyPills Wed 21-Nov-12 05:48:19

Got woken up at 5am by a call on the house phone (which scared the crap out of me as O thought someone had died!). It was dp - he has a job where he starts very early that is in the middle of nowhere, and on the way he drove through a big puddle too fast and conked the car out.

He was asking me if I could come out and take him the rest of the way to work. I ask him why not call the breakdown service that we pay good money for and never use? His response is that they would take ages to get there and he needs to get to work ASAP to set up and let everyone in (he has a supervisory role and is a key holder).

Bearing in mind it is dark and pissing it down outside, and I have a 22 mo dd in bed fast asleep next to me as she has had an unsettled night due to a cold and molars cutting through who I would have to drag up too. And he is about half an hours drive away, his work is even further, and unusually I get up not long after 6 to get ready for work myself, so chances are this would all make me late for my job too!

I reluctantly agreed at first, but a few minutes later it occured to me that perhaps one of these other people that would also be on their way to work with him could maybe leave 10 minutes earlier, take a detour and go and get him, so I called him back. He said he had got the car started now anyway sonot to worry.

But was ibu for being reluctant? I feels bit guilty now! But my reasoning is we pay for breakdown cover for a reason, and if he was late for work just once that would have to just deal with it?! It takes me back to the time dp said he was reluctant to ask for time off for my elcs because it was a busy time at work! I told him in no uncertain terms it wasn't a question of asking, he was to TELL them he was having the day off for the birth of his daughter!

I feel a bit guilty now and can't get back to sleep (thanks dp!). If I was broken down I have to admit I would quite like to be rescued, but I am pretty sure I wouldn't expect someone to drag a sleeping baby out of bed. It was just late enough as well that I reckon if I had woken dd up she wouldn't have gone back to sleep in the car and would have been tired and cranky for the childminder all day...

Tell him to stick a can of WD40 in the car glove box. Next time he drives through a big puddle too fast, he can spray the electric points in the engine with WD40, which will blast out the water and he can get going again without the need for you or the AA. not that I did the same when U first passed my test and my dad had to drive out with some WD40 and spray it for me, oh no

MummysHappyPills Wed 21-Nov-12 17:50:50

Ok so he is really not happy with me. I am a bit pissed off actually. He has this whole kind of "I ask you to do one thing for me" attitude going on - forgetting all the other things I do for him on a daily basis.

I have got so much to do atm, and have had a really unproductive day today due to being tired, but of course I can't say anything about that as he's tired too you know...

Anyway better get back to cooking his majesty's dinner hope he chokes on it grin

MummysHappyPills Wed 21-Nov-12 17:53:38

Oh and this worst thing is he has bought himself some beers and not bought me any wine! I ALWAYS buy him beers too if I ever decide to buy myself a bottle of wine.

Should I leave the bastard? grin

StuntGirl Wed 21-Nov-12 18:03:34

Gawd he sounds like a grumpy inconsiderate sod! Fwiw I would not have gone and got him at 5am when other options were available, and I would not be happy about the sodding attitude tonight!

diddl Wed 21-Nov-12 18:05:45

Oh dear he´s sounding childish & mean now!

Would he have come out to you-bringing a toddler as well at 5am?

Come on Mr not very Happy-lighten up-no harm done!

Drive more carefully in future!

longjane Wed 21-Nov-12 18:12:07

drink his beers the then will remember the wine next time

MummysHappyPills Wed 21-Nov-12 18:14:37

I would long Jane but I don't really like beer!

And apparently he would have come out for me no questions asked, though tbf I don't think I would ever ask him to take dd out if bed like that, unless it was an actual life or death emergency.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Wed 21-Nov-12 20:16:27

Tell him to grow the fuck up and stop being so childish.

McChristmasPants2012 Wed 21-Nov-12 20:30:12

I wouldn't even think to call DH. I have Break down cover I would ring them.

MummysHappyPills Wed 21-Nov-12 20:38:14

That's my logic christmas pants, yes you have to wait for them and it is an inconvenience but that's life surely? I wonder if there is really any point in us having breakdown cover seeing as we never use it! grin

McChristmasPants2012 Wed 21-Nov-12 21:42:47

Mine is free smile

Iteotwawki Wed 21-Nov-12 22:18:02

I'd have called my husband (who has 2 kids plus a puppy to pile into the car) and he would have been there far faster than the AA. He wouldn't have hesitated but I can certainly see myself saying "I ask you to do one thing.." if he had done. And yes, he does a whole lot of other stuff for me too but I don't ask him to do that, it's his role in the family.

I think you were being unreasonable.

However him buying himself beer without wine for you is childish and silly and completely unnecessary. I'd have bought the wine and beer and been smug in my "you might not have done me this one small favour but I have bought your drink anyway". And yes, my husband adores me. Good job really smile

Heifer Wed 21-Nov-12 22:30:53

I thought yabu until I read the part about the beer v wine!

I love the fact that my DH would have done it for me, it makes him 1 of the good guys, and I in turn try to be nice in return..

BUT to not get you wine is just petty and not worthy of a YABU!

deste Thu 22-Nov-12 16:54:17

I would have done it for my DH, I think you need to ask yourself, would he have done it for you and if the answer is yes then that is your answer.

Whoknowswhocares Thu 22-Nov-12 17:23:18

So he is the ONLY person who can gain access to the building? sorry but that is quite clearly rubbish! what happens when he is ill and doesn't make it in? I suppose they all sit outside for the day in the car park do they?
He is just making an excuse for calling you because he couldn't be bothered to wait for the breakdown....and besides, why did he wait for you to call once he'd got the car started?

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