To think this isn't a cafe and hence now both children are in bed in tears!!(92 Posts)
Friday, I made wedges, chicken drumsticks with garlic and herbs, corn on the cobs and salad. They didn't like that, althrought the previous week it was the best meal ever.
Sat, was feta, spinach and tomatoe tart, with roasted medetarrian veg, hated that and refused, even tho both love the meal.
Sunday, Sunday dinner, stuffed chicken, carrot and swede mash, roasties, cabbage, broccoli, and Yorkies. They ate the puds and that was it.
Yesterday I made tuna pasta bake with rosemary bread and they ate the dry pasta.
Today I made scots broth with homemade tiger bread and they have refused to eat it.
Normally it would make them toast or cereal etc... But today I've simply had enough of cooking meals I know they would like, and then refusing them.
They won't eat "yellow" food, nor and prefer home made food, like roasted chicken, mixed rice etc... But they then complain that its what they always have.
They are 6 and 3, AIBU not to be a cafe no more (its just a phrase I think as normally they eat everything I make) and leave them in bed until they eat the tea I've provided which incidentally they love.
Just as a different view to this, DS has spent the last 5 nights turning down all food he's offered for his evening meal, even things like roast chicken dinners that he usually loves. He was sent home from nursery this morning with chickenpox.
Are you sure there aren't any underlying factors which may explain them turning their noses up? Dh has been grousing about DS not eating "as usual" and trying to fill him up with weetabix before he want to bed, but it looks like there is an underlying cause.
My youngest son seems to live on air. It doesn't matter what I give him, he will always turn his nose up or pick at it for a while and then announce that he's done. He's been like this since I first tried to wean him and I still have no idea how to get food inside him. I'm past caring now - he seems to be doing OK on air for now. I am looking forward to the legendary teenage boy appetite, when I might actually witness the miracle of food passing his lips. Only another nine years of gruelling, wasted effort in the kitchen to go...
Obviously I don't mean he's picking at his nose...
I hear you Anon. DD(5) lives on air too. I can not even think of sending her to bed without food as I fear she is permanantly hungry. She must be.
Instead of spending 3 hours in the kitchen making tiger bread
wtf, chuck some chicken nuggets in the oven and spend the spare time playing with the kids instead. They might work up an appetite.
Not eating is a form of control, often. I would be relaxed over it, cook them a meal and give them a small portion so there is less waste. If they eat the main meal (or a give it a fair crack) then they get a pudding. If they don't eat, they get no pudding and will not have anything else until the next meal time. No snacks like cakes or biscuits or crisps etc.
I grew up eating adult food. I didn't experience other choices and if I didn't eat dinner then there was no pudding and no other food until breakfast. I learnt to eat things that would make me gag if necessary.
Lovelyladuree... Have you even read the thread all, eveidently not!! The food was made in the morning in the slow cooker!!!
The bread was made on Tuesday night (which I haven't mentioned tbh) which in part baked and dh cooked the rest!!! And if you choose to read the thread none of my ds like "golden food" -- as they call it--
Well putting them to bed seems to have worked, today they had beef and onion pie with carrot and swede mash both devoured the lot and asked for seconds plus they had shop brought cheesecake.
vile but dh and ds love it
In having wine... As I've been playing on the family wii
getting my arse kicked on bowling!! As ds1 had a friend over for tea.
Ommm nom nom. Can I move in?
We don't have puddings in our house - no-one ever eats enough of their main course to make it necessary. And the children go to bed soon after dinner, so there is never any more food until breakfast... and more often than not they don't eat much of that either. This is what I mean - some kids seem to live on air!
Mind you, as a child I used to secretly feed my dinners to the dog in order to get pudding. My Mum used to fret over my appetite, but I never felt hungry. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
I always offer a choice, eat it or go hungry!
DD will try anything, eat most things and knows if she's rude about food will incur my wrath
YANBU, and your food sounds lovely, can we come for dinner please?
Just don't enter into the game.
Dinner is dinner in our house. Kids can eat or not eat, up to them, no alternatives offered, no forcing, no arguing.
Sometimes there is dessert, it isn't dependant on eating the meal.
Lovely menu! In our house " there's always weetabix"
I cook a similar range of meals to you. Sometimes they do try to be picky but I tell them 'that's all the food there is' and I offer no alternatives what so ever. No toast, nothing. They can choose to eat or not eat, it's up to them. The only thing I ask is that they have just one mouthful of each thing. I don't fuss about eating and I don't give my attention to non eating. It means that mostly they eat and occasionally they don't. They do quite well with adult food generally.
Sounds lovely OP. i dont make extra food unless theres an ill person to be catered for on which case they get their pick.
Normally i give them the food, at the end lf the mealtime i take away the plate f theres still food on it thats fine , but there is no more food until the next set time. No extra meals/snacking. I wont beg or force them to eat and i wont punsh them for not eating but neither will i allow them to dictate meals or snack randomly.
I think if they normally eat well then this is a phase and you're doing the right thing by nipping it in the bud.
I have pretty much the same approach to you - I love cooking and would hate to serve up simple food all the time. My dcs are older than yours and I recently realised that I couldn't remember when one of them last refused a meal. So just keeping going with what you're doing.
My other bugbear is asking for food the minute I mention bedtime, to which my reply is always "the cafe is now closed!" I'm thinking of getting an apron and taking it off after dinner as an extra visual cue. Maybe I could even have a blackboard with specials....
I don't think it hurts children to occasionally feel what hunger is- that empty tummy feeling. It doesn't hurt a well nourished, well cared for child to learn that feeling in order to learn that the solution to it is - EAT YOUR BLOODY DINNER!
OP- I can totally sympathise. Cooking for a family is so bloody hard to get right. You have to try and do the 5 a day thing, expand their gastronomic repertoire, nourish them, cook something everyone likes AND stay within budget whilst eating things within their sell by date.
When I was growing up we had two rules- eat or go hungry and no pudding unless you'd eaten dinner. My parents stuck to that and we therefore had to stick to it.
However, I think back in the 70s when I grew up (old gimmer), there was a lot less pressure on parents, and schools weren't policing packed lunches and weighing children. There wasn't the same media pressure on healthy kids and you could grow up without ever knowing what a butternut squash even looked like.
These days kids eat more healthily, which is a good thing, but it's about 10 times harder for a parent to get that right and tick all the boxes.
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