to be royally fucked off with DP?

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I bought him a very naice jumper last xmas. Was expensive (for me) and he loved it. A few months ago I noticed it had gone missing.

He swore blind it was at his Dad's and promised to get it next time he visited. He went and came back without it and was pissy with me when I brought it up hmm

So he just got back from latest visit and hey fucking presto it's not at his Dad's. His only defence was that he's not usually careless. He is. He left his new Kindle on the bus earlier this year hmm

His Dad bought him a new coat this weekend which I struggled to muster much enthusiasm over, given Jumpergate. When pushed my response was "My only thought is "Don't leave it on the train someday". Admittedly in a wholly rather sarcastic tone.

He bit my head off and is now huffing upstairs.

So which is it, Manchild or nagging fishwife? Your votes please.

grin @ scarlet.

Queenie - it's just the bloody nonchalance with which he handles this stuff sad. All this money being wasted when we could really do with putting it away for a mortgage.

I'm not perfect and shouldn't have been so nasty but it's so bloody infuriating. Why can he not just take care of stuff??

He's 30 bloody years of age confused

NoraGainesborough Sun 18-Nov-12 19:28:55

I can understand you being miffed. But acted like a child and lost any 'high ground' or right to be outraged. But then snapping at people seems to be a trait. I agrees with Joan, at the end of the day it is just stuff. Be a bit miffed, but not outraged and nasty.
You are also very unreasonable for this comment One which can't be improved upon or trained out of someone
He is not a dog, ffs.

DumSpiroSpero Sun 18-Nov-12 19:37:21

I would be pissed off if I were you too, and probably make a similar comment, and DH would probably bite my head of and sulk too.

It is trivial in the grand scheme of things but still bloody annoying.

BobblyGussets Sun 18-Nov-12 19:39:00

I have no strong opinions either way OP. I am sure you knew you shouldna' made the comment about the coat. But then, you sound a bit like me; you like choosing just the right gift, putting thought and effort (your heart) into it to delight the recipient. It hurts when what you have "invested" (I am talking emotionally rather than financially) is basically trashed.

I am hoping this type of thing is not an inherent character trait because my 9 yo DS is like it and it is such a bore, having to remember for him and ask him three or four times, does he have everything......

I have enough to remember for myself and I am not the best organised person in the work, so I chase up DS1's forgetful mistakes with a very heavy heart. I would really resent it if an adult partner was like this and would probably step back a bit from compensating and trying to help him remember stuff.

mynewpassion Sun 18-Nov-12 19:40:26

It's only a jumper. Not the end of the world. Get a grip.

FromEsme Sun 18-Nov-12 19:41:36

I am quite a forgetful person. I try not to be, and I would apologise profusely if I lost something important or expensive.

But I don't think I'd take kindly to snide remarks.

But equally I wouldn't go and huff in a bedroom if a snide remark was made to me. I'd just go "ooooooooooh".

You're both being rather silly.

Nora I merely pointed out that Joan had the facts utterly wrong in her first post (i.e. not the "stuff is stuff" post) saying that I had lost the jumper.

It's kind of irritating when people wade in with their opinion when they haven't even bothered to read the thread properly.

MrsBW Sun 18-Nov-12 19:57:12

Agree with JustFabulous ... It's not the fact that he lost the jumper that would annoy me...that can happen to anyone.

It's the attitude that would have me raring... The only time I've lost something my DH bought me, I was utterly mortified.

ENormaSnob Sun 18-Nov-12 20:02:30

Yanbu

I would be pissed off too.

RawShark Sun 18-Nov-12 21:16:33

Do you think he is misdirecting his snappiness at you? My DH is a bugger for snapping at me when he feels bad/guilty about something. Taken years to get him to undetstand how unfair this is! I would have a cup of tea together and forget about it

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