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to worry about sitter

(34 Posts)
Flojo1979 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:22:34

Ok having a melt down, just burst in to tears, not sure why properly.
Other than I've got sitters.co.uk lady coming later for the first time and suddenly I'm really anxious.
A complete stranger, in my home, with my babies (7&3 yo) what was I thinking?
Date due any minute and I'm crying.
Help!

Whatnowffs Sat 17-Nov-12 16:26:19

I don't know Flo, what WERE you thinking?

Were you thinking, hmmm, where can i get a reliable babysitter that will be CRB checked and regulated?

Why do you need the babysitter? are you going somewhere nice? or somewhere you NEED to go?

All seems perfectly reasonable to me. If i needed to use a babysitter i'd much rather go for someone from a reputable compay than my friend's next-door neighbours neice, which is what some parents do! It will be fine!

thumper1806 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:29:43

Oh, most people would be a bit worried when leaving their child with someone who is a stranger.

But Whatnow is right. You are using a reputable company who regulates their employees.

I hope you have a lovely evening with your date.

Flojo1979 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:33:50

I'm going out to see a band, no medical emergency.
Selfish selfish mum, putting some date before my DCs.

GhostShip Sat 17-Nov-12 16:35:18

Don't worry about it!

Go and have fun and enjoy yourself Flo x

GhostShip Sat 17-Nov-12 16:36:41

Make sure your mascara hasn't ran too grin

Bobyan Sat 17-Nov-12 16:37:10

Get a grip, are you saying anyone using this service is selfish?

Flojo1979 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:40:04

Arghh no not everyone! Just me sad
Point taken.
I'm sure the stress I've had all day far out ways the night out anyway.

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 17-Nov-12 16:43:09

You're not selfish to want a bit of time in adult datey company.

They will be fine. Blow your nose, wipe your eyes, go out and enjoy yourself smile

HandMini Sat 17-Nov-12 16:59:37

We use sitters.co.uk ALL the time. And have always to date had good experiences. Sometimes I have to work late, sometimes I have a doctors appointment and sometimes we just feel like going out for dinner! It's fine to do, it's a sensible judgement call around who is best to look after your children (which happens to be shared by thousands of other parents if you find that reassuring) and its sometimes necessary for sanity to prioritise your needs. Now enjoy your evening.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 17-Nov-12 17:10:13

It's normal to feel like this the first time and gets easier.

I hope you enjoy your night out.

And do ignore Bobyan who clearly has no empathy, what a rude post that was.

HermioneE Sat 17-Nov-12 17:13:14

I think Bobyan was just trying to point out that the OP is judging herself way more harshly than she would someone else in her position.

Have a nice night out OP smile

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 17-Nov-12 17:16:06

Well there are nicer ways of pointing out without saying 'get a grip'

GhostShip Sat 17-Nov-12 17:16:13

Bobyan harsh or what hmm

Whatnowffs Sat 17-Nov-12 17:17:25

Ah, hush now OP - am envy Go and enjoy the band knowing that you have left your children with soeone who has been checked out. They will probably have almost as much fun as you. Selfish mum, my arse!

FloatyFlo Sat 17-Nov-12 17:25:14

Hey fellow Flo! I'm sure you are more than deserving of a fab night out. You'd have been anxious no matter whose capable hands you left you dc in, so don't fret too much and have fun!

racytrace Sat 17-Nov-12 17:30:20

Hi, you really do need to stop worrying. I work for Sitters.co.uk. I am 40 and a mum of 3 boys and am a perfectly normal family minded person. I work with kids on a daily basis and am fully trained. Sitters only take on people who have enough up to date experience and we are all fully CRB checked.

Most of us do it to raise a bit more income and we enjoy looking after your children (makes a change from our own).

If you really are worried spend some time with your sitter before you go. How does he/she react to your children, and they to her? If one of your children is a bit unsettled when you leave, you can ring the sitter or the sitter can ring or text you.

I always text mum if she is at all worried, it helps them stop them worrying.

We all deserve some time off now and then. Go out and enjoy it, your children will still be there when you get home and will probably tell you all about it when they get up in the morning.

Corriewatcher Sat 17-Nov-12 18:04:21

I used Sitters for the first time two months ago. Felt a bit strange on the day too, but it all went really really well. Was really impressed by the babysitter. They will phone you an hour before they're supposed to arrive, and as soon as I spoke to her on phone I felt reassured.

See how it goes. I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine and you'll be able to enjoy a whole new social life.

Whodyanickabollockoff Sat 17-Nov-12 18:26:59

keep phoning up every 10 minutes to see every thing is ok

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 17-Nov-12 18:30:11

That would be silly, Whodya. And not conducive to a good night out. A quick text would be sufficient, as racy says.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Sat 17-Nov-12 18:38:52

I also used to work for sitters and am a registered childminder and ordinary mother! I don't believe that you have any reason to worry! i used to enjoy the time away from my family for a bit to do some course work or reading or paperwork etc.

Honestly and truly, don't worry! Call the sitter after an hour or so and ask her (presumably it will be a her) to text you.

Now go out and have a lovely date!!

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Sat 17-Nov-12 18:41:27

I second a PP's comment re next door neighbour's 15 yr old niece! By the way, when I was vetted, I found out that Sitters HAD contacted all my references and HAD checked with OFSTED that I was registered as a CM. Also, I had to answer some questions about what the common signs of meningitis are, what I would do in XYZ situation and so on. It is a very thorough checking procedure!

LadyMaryChristmas Sat 17-Nov-12 18:44:11

Will they collect the little darlings from school for you, bring them home, feed them and keep them occupied until you get there?

BsshBossh Sat 17-Nov-12 20:28:05

Curious about babysitting services - do your sitters (from agencies) put your DC to bed and do your DC settle for them?

AuntLucyInTransylvania Sat 17-Nov-12 20:31:52

where we get the same sitter regularly and the kids are familiar with them and like them, then I might be ok about asking them to do bedtime (and pay a bigger tip as a thank you). When it's a new person we generally book a late start time so we know the kids will be in bed when they arrive.

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