I have had concerns for a couple of years about DC4 regarding his social interaction with other children and some of his behavioural traits. For instance he does not mix well with other children, hates eye contact, prefers to spend time with adults or older children. He also likes to play with pens and other household items instead of his actual toys. He is obsessed about wanting to know every minute detail about everything and uses very long words when they aren't really needed. typically over describes everything. He still has tantrums where he would lie on the floor kicking and screaming over really trivial things and his concentration is very poor. He doesn't settle well at school and is still crying and kicking up a fuss. He is 4 and in reception class since September.
I tried raising my concerns 3 times during his nursery year. Each time I was brushed off by her telling me that it was just his immaturity showing through as he is one of the younger children in the year group and it would sort itself out. The third time I approached her she actually turned around and said that she was not discussing it as I was imagining problems when there weren't any. Her parting words were that she had been teaching 20 yrs and could spot problems a mile off. To say I found her patronising would be an under-statement!
DS has now moved on to primary school and a few weeks ago his teacher mentioned at parents evening that she had concerns about him and basically repeated most of the points I made in the first paragraph. She seemed to be visibly relieved when we told her we shared those concerns. The ball has set rolling on getting him assessed to ascertain if there are indeed any problems which I strongly believe there are.
I just feel so bloody angry at this nursery teacher who refused to listen, we could have had some of this ironed out and a plan of action in place before he started school, as it is he is utterly miserable. AIBU in feeling pure naked rage toward her and her I know best attitude?
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To be utterly sad and angry that nobody listened to my concerns.
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Namechangingfornow · 15/11/2012 17:38
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