Me or DH (about sex TMI sorry)

(69 Posts)
BlugPutt Wed 14-Nov-12 20:05:52

Have name changed for obvious reasons (I think so anyway). Really need to know who is BU?. DH has one of those male sex toys which occasionally we use. (On him only) I have no problem with it and will happily climb on top, but I draw the line at me putting it in him,- he can do that I think (once its in it stays there). He thinks I should be open minded enough to put it in, I think he should be grateful I have no problem with him using it. So am I a prude??

bedmonster Thu 15-Nov-12 23:10:19

Er, okaaaaay <disowns all austrian friends>

worklifedifficult Thu 15-Nov-12 22:54:12

But we had just recently lost our cherries to each other and were a little on the naive (stupid) side

worklifedifficult Thu 15-Nov-12 22:52:16

yeh but you see we were babysitting for an Austrian couple and we found one of their dodgy German hardcore mags under their bed... it had loads of pics of girls having household objects put in their bits... so we had a try and then she suggested doing the same to me... all fair in love and shagging... not something I've ever wanted to do again

bedmonster Thu 15-Nov-12 22:45:30

worklife SERIOUSLY??? <faints>

AnyFucker Thu 15-Nov-12 22:41:52

hmm

picnicbasketcase Thu 15-Nov-12 22:41:42

shock

Crikey

worklifedifficult Thu 15-Nov-12 22:37:44

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ThereISaidIt Thu 15-Nov-12 21:18:18

A man's G spot is up there.....seriously girls.....any sexually liberated man can enjoy this hugely. Lean into it and enjoy ;-)

I don't think it's about being prudish or whether something is a sex organ or not. Some people do it, some don't. The op doesn't, she has valid reasons, and her dh should respect her wishes, and realise that he is already lucky to have an open minded DW.

Actually I don't think it is that unusual for couples to include the bum sexually. Mutual consensual rimming and fingering is more common than you'd think.

<<pushes breakfast plate away>>

ErikNorseman Thu 15-Nov-12 09:08:44

It's not unusual for women to participate in bum action on their male partners, but it is unusual for women to find bumholes erotic. It's just not a normative element of female sexual desire.

Eliza22 Thu 15-Nov-12 08:54:35

No no no!! If you're not happy with this, he has to tend his own needs IMO.

Bloody cheek!

valiumredhead Thu 15-Nov-12 07:34:57

It really isn't that unusual - but completely up to the individual as to wether they feel comfortable.

ErikNorseman Thu 15-Nov-12 06:53:06

It isn't fucking double standards to compare it to a man not wanting to use a vibe on a woman. It's perfectly natural and normative for straight men to enjoy putting things in vaginas during sex. It is very unusual for women to enjoy putting things up bums. Ergo a straight man who is squeamish about vaginas has some ishoos, but a woman who is repulsed not interested in bum insertion does not, and it's entirely a matter of taste and tolerance.

worklifedifficult Thu 15-Nov-12 00:41:36

yikes... sorry everyone looks like I killed a thread smile

worklifedifficult Wed 14-Nov-12 23:01:58

is this a reverse aibu by any chance...

I once suggested to the DW that I get a feeldoe so that I could DP with my DP(DW) <in poor taste I know>, but she said she's seen the state of the toilet after I've been in there and there's no way on this green earth she going anywhere near my arsehole.

IfNotNowThenWhen Wed 14-Nov-12 22:42:08

That's the spirit!

BlugPutt Wed 14-Nov-12 22:31:22

ifnot maybe I might get the hat and some tassels…

BlugPutt Wed 14-Nov-12 22:26:39

work grin

IfNotNowThenWhen Wed 14-Nov-12 22:18:12

I may have had a glass or two of wine...grin

BonkeyMollocks Wed 14-Nov-12 22:15:42

grin IfNot

Yeeeehawww!

IfNotNowThenWhen Wed 14-Nov-12 22:13:16

Ah, right. Butt plug. Gottit.
Well, if it feels too clinical, and it's only now and again, I say-buy him a strap-on, flip him over, and ride him like the bitch he is.
Wear a cowgirl hat while you're doing it. Nothing clinical about that! grin

BlugPutt Wed 14-Nov-12 22:08:56

bluegrass that is so true- double standards. Shouldn't be but it is.

worklifedifficult Wed 14-Nov-12 22:06:02

1. its not prudish, 2 He should consider himself lucky that your not having an issue with it 3 he should respect the way you want to participate. 4 now how do I get buy-in with DW to have a try.... hmmm!!!! could be fun we'll have to see

BooyhooRemembering Wed 14-Nov-12 21:59:06

how much do you bet?

<could do with a few quid>

Bluegrass Wed 14-Nov-12 21:48:18

I bet if he were being all squeamish about using a vibrator on you people would be saying he wasn't a real man and was obviously feeling threatened!

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